Kiss Off

LegacyUser

OK so, was on a second date last night with a girl I met recently. Things went well...good conversation...bit of a laugh. I think she's really attractive and great company. Anyway we left the pub at the end of the night and just as we flagged her a Taxi home I launched in for the ol goodnight kiss. She returned the favour but it just ended up being a royal mess. Bad technique and timing and .... well it was bad. She quickly exited embarrassed into the Taxi and away.

Now I happen to like the girl and dropped her a text afterward just to say I had a good time and would talk to her soon. She text back that she also had a good night...which it was overall.

Now I'm no teenager and have had a reasonable amount of experience with women and haven't ever had any complaints on the kissing front so I'm pretty sure it was down to her being rubbish. It was however my fault for waiting until the Taxi was pulled up before trying anything which may have rushed things to the point of spooking her a bit. It was freezing as well. Basically I'm just wondering whether a botched kiss and the resulting embarrassment is a deal breaker for girls? I have a gut feeling it might be in this case.

aviendha

definitely not a dealbreaker!! the first few times of kissing my OH (of 1.5 years now) were complete disasters with teeth/saliva but you just laugh it off

it just takes a wee bit of time to settle into the rhythm of each other, and definitely need to take it slow to figure out the geography etc

don't worry about it, just look forward to meeting up next and giving/taking direction!

username123

Unregistered wrote: »

Now I'm no teenager and have had a reasonable amount of experience with women and haven't ever had any complaints on the kissing front so I'm pretty sure it was down to her being rubbish.

Had to laugh at this - her fault eh? No complaints up to now? Have YOU complained to the girl that she is rubbish? No - you texted her afterwards saying you had a good night. Perhaps this is what has happened you in the past also - women have not mentioned it if they thought you were rubbish?

In my humble experience it takes two to make a rubbish kiss (or a good one), sometimes people just dont gel with each others rhythm at first and it takes a while to match each other - I wouldnt be blaming it on one person or the other - just stick with it and remember that practice makes perfect.

minidazzler

When you realised the Kiss was ****e, you should have just laughed about it going wrong, it would have eased the tension!!!

But yeah, not a deal breaker, go out with her again, if she's a bad kisser so what, maybe she was caught off guard, or something???

St Bill

A botched kiss and resulting embarrassment would not be a deal-breaker....however looking down on her for being a crap kisser wouldn't be the best start.

Max Power1

Defintely not a deal breaker... it could have just been that she was taken off guard.

I would have laughed it off when she was there just to guage her reaction tho..

Aisling(",)

wouldnt put me off
ive done the teethe clashing and head bumping stuff before

lilminx

OP I know where you're coming from - the first kiss thing is such a cliche but to be honest I held myself to it for so long - that I'd know if we'd be good together by that first magical kiss.

But in all honesty, it can sometimes be just a mess - the nerves, the which way to lean question, the amount of pressure, saliva, the I had garlic yesterday, all the little alarm bells that ring in your ear as you lean in. Add to that the rush cos a taxi is coming up and you're just asking for a bad kiss. And we've all had those - but practice does indeed make perfect and as the other posters have said, it can take time to get it right. It takes two for a bad kiss and two for that butterflies-in-the-tummy, one leg up kiss.

Laughing it off would be a good response. Maybe even start the text conversation by saying something like... "Had a great time last night, but don't think I gave the best of impressions with the rushed kiss. Maybe we could try and get some practice in soon?" Something lighthearted and sincere I think would be endearing.

My €0.02 at any rate

LegacyUser

Remember going on a date with a girl before and did the same, taxi came and I went in for the kiss.....disaster, worst kiss ever!!!!Just didnt mention it and we went out again, next time was probably the best kiss I have ever had. I still remember it now after 5-6 years! Just because it was awful first time doesnt mean it will be second. If you see her again just laugh off the last one and go put it right!!!

LegacyUser

It's not a deal breaker! The first time my boyfriend and I kissed I wasn't impressed at all!! But I wasn't going to give up on him over that, and now 5 months later we're quite happy and things have improved immensely in the kissing department!

Húrin

Unregistered wrote: »

Now I'm no teenager and have had a reasonable amount of experience with women and haven't ever had any complaints on the kissing front so I'm pretty sure it was down to her being rubbish. It was however my fault for waiting until the Taxi was pulled up before trying anything which may have rushed things to the point of spooking her a bit. It was freezing as well. Basically I'm just wondering whether a botched kiss and the resulting embarrassment is a deal breaker for girls? I have a gut feeling it might be in this case.

All your theories are silly. It was just bad luck. I doubt it will be a problem.

Lorrs33

I'm always bad at first kisses with guys, my teeth usually hit off theirs, or they go fast and I go slow, or vice versa. It's embarrassing at the time, but you soon come to laugh at it once you start having good kisses.

AnnieB82

no way would that be a deal breaker for me. If she likes you, then a dodgy first kiss shouldn't impact her feelings.

To be honest I must be a total weirdo for saying this, but apart from kissing on the lips, I'm not the biggest fan of kissing - maybe I just haven't been kissed well so far!

Millie

AnnieB82 wrote: »

no way would that be a deal breaker for me. If she likes you, then a dodgy first kiss shouldn't impact her feelings.

To be honest I must be a total weirdo for saying this, but apart from kissing on the lips, I'm not the biggest fan of kissing - maybe I just haven't been kissed well so far!

I would imagine it is the latter as there is nothing as sexy as a good kisser.
Oooh!

Wibbs

Nope first one wouldn't be an issue, though a serial bad kisser would be a deal breaker for me. I've found it shows an incompatibility. In my experience anyway. Nthing to do with them or me either. I could be utterly rubbish with one woman and the best lip action she's ever had with another and vice versa.

Chucky the tree

I'd say being arrogant is a much bigger turn off then being a bad kisser. Never had any complaints? :rolleyes:

Unregistered wrote: »

Now I'm no teenager and have had a reasonable amount of experience with women and haven't ever had any complaints on the kissing front so I'm pretty sure it was down to her being rubbish

wylo

one awkward kiss , nothing new there OP,ignore it and enjoy your next one(and make sure its not when a taxi driver is sitting there waiting)