Fallen for a Bulgarian girl

LegacyUser

Hi all,
first time poster here, but long time stalker, I'm unreg for purposes of privacy.
I met a girl quite by accident on Skype. A Bulgarian girl, 24, student and divorcee
Long story short on her marriage, husband took her for granted once married, his mother was interferring and wouldn't
let her speak to her family and dying Grandmother. They had been together 3 years and divorced after 8 months marriage.
She is absolutely stunning, incredibly intelligent and the hardest working student I've ever met. She's top of her year.
We met in August online, I was bored on skype as friends were offline, put it onto skype me mode (which I never do), and she contacted me.
We got on great, enjoyed chatting to each other and after a month she invited me to visit her, I was shocked but really
happy for her to offer this. Eventually I accepted it and met her in November.

It was a crazy time, she made me love myself and change some bad aspects to myself and she is so crazy about me. I got on really well with her parents who were very accepting of me but also very protective of their girl after the failed marriage.
We have both fallen in love with each other.
After the visit we keep in regular contact everday via texts, calls and skype. I miss her so much but can't really go back to Bulgaria till the Summer due to my job.

This girl who has always been so private even when she was unhappy in her marriage would bottle it all in. She was like a robot but not with me
She's happy and full of life and really adores me and I feel the same for her. She opens up for me and I do the same for her.

I want her to come to Ireland after she finishes her degree this year, I want to marry this girl and I know she feels the same but we
haven't told anyone how serious we are. We have had some problems but despite the distance we worked them out.

She's the first girl I want to be faithful to, this is a major thing as I've never felt this way. I've changed myself and now far happier.
I want to make a life for her and send her to university to do a masters, she's well capable of doing it. She wants to come and be with me as well.

So I'm asking for advice from people who found love and brought their love to Ireland...what problems did you encounter, I'm a guy who would
be against this but this girl has flipped my world upside down. This is a girl who I could see myself getting married to!!
She could easily get any guy she wants in Bulgaria but has choosen me...even guys came up to her trying to steal her from me!!
She wouldn't even give them a second look. She has said to me I'm the first guy she's truly loved and I know she's telling the truth(even despite her marriage)....I'll be honest she's my first proper love. I've waited till I was 28 to find this girl and its been worth it!!
So any advice there...if you need more information, drop me a message here.

Her English is pretty good, just needs a few months of regular use and she'll be fine.

loloray

Hi Unregistered Guest, I can't figure out why you have gone unreg for this, nor why you have posted in PI. It doesn't like you have any issues? Or are you looking for critism or congratulations? Or if you really are looking at immigration issues - then maybe you are looking in the wrong place for info (e.g could check out university's forums, immigration info)?

I'm not sure what type of info you're looking for. . . .

If PI-style answer wanted: I am very happy you found someone you're so happy with. I would imagine that the first thing you need to do is actually tell people about her, particularly if she's going to come over and live here. The fact you have posted here, haven't told your friends, and gone anonymous makes me think you are a bit embarrassed of her/the situation somehow?

MagicMarker

Unregistered wrote: »

This girl who has always been so private even when she was unhappy in her marriage would bottle it all in. She was like a robot but not with me
She's happy and full of life and really adores me and I feel the same for her. She opens up for me and I do the same for her.

I want her to come to Ireland after she finishes her degree this year, I want to marry this girl and I know she feels the same but we
haven't told anyone how serious we are. We have had some problems but despite the distance we worked them out.

She's the first girl I want to be faithful to, this is a major thing as I've never felt this way. I've changed myself and now far happier.
I want to make a life for her and send her to university to do a masters, she's well capable of doing it. She wants to come and be with me as well.
.

Woah there horsy.

You've known this girl for 4 months, and you've met her once?

One step at a time there buddy. As much as you think you know her, as much as you think you get on with her, it really means sod all until you are in each other's faces on a daily basis.

By all means, ask her if she would like to come over, maybe stay for a month for a holiday? See how things go, if she stays she stays. Don't go buying a ring or plane tickets for her and setting up a fund for her masters!! As nice a thought as it may be, it's also pretty stupid.

nomorebadtown

i know i will be abused for this (and perhaps deservedly so) but i would urge caution with regard to a whirlwind romance involving a woman from any country which has mail order bride websites....of which bulgaria seems to have plenty.

LegacyUser

Go for it man ...

I met a Serbian girl when i was a little younger and quite simply blew all other relationships to the sidelines ,,,

The class, the intelligence, the downright sexinesss ....

Was the best time of my life and more that likely the only true love ever !!! Intoxicating

Go for it

LegacyUser

be very very careful
had a relationship with a bulgarian... the same crazy true love scenerio you described, a not too different background she had except no marriage, but relationship was not long distance, I believed in marriage, kids, a life together, then she totally had me on my knees and it was her her her more of her, you could not argue with her, so I gave up, walked slowly.
don't think I'll find that kinda love again, and still lost,

steve927

Go for it OP but keep you eyes wide open and your feet on the ground. Love can be blinding. The saying " if you want to know me come and live with me" is pretty sound advice. Like one of the previous posters suggested spend some extended time with her, maybe a holiday where you spend all your time together and see how you get on.

Anyways i wish you all the best and sincerely hope all works out well for you. Good luck.

LegacyUser

Hi OP here,
yeah the reason why I'm going unreg. is that I have friends reg. on Boards and I don't want anyone to know how serious it is between us. The fact that I want to marry this person is beyond my comprehension. 6 months ago I was as bitter as they come, I still am to Irish girls in particular, I just seemed to have gotten every nasty bitchy girl that came along, I stopped trying then.
To me, I meet this girl in unusual circumstances, I'm a social and outgoing person and is dismissive of online dating and Love in general.
Sorry loloray if I came off sounding like a loved up prick like that, I just came on here needing some ground based perspective on this situation as my head is spinning and maybe not seeing things right.
In fairness I have started to tell friends that I met someone but the fact that I met this girl online would raise people's eyebrows but I can thankfully say I'm starting to get more public about it. (small town mentality).
I've always been the guy people ask for advice before in the past, maybe I was not never poisoned with love and my opinions were cold and brutally honest. My advice was pretty good. If i was advising myself now I would say long distance relationships will not work, but I was a bitter guy then and hope I'm wrong. :P
I'll follow the great advice given here on a months break with her, I want to see how we get on for that time. So I'll actually follow that.....So I'll just say I'll keep my head as straight as possible,take the advice and keep going on....I'm going in July to Bulgaria and she's coming in October for a few weeks.
Thanks for your advice people and the experience....Just needed some grounding and a bit of cop on! I like this girl and will approach with eyes open and heart protected!

CDfm

I am urging caution cos all she wants is yer money and a marriage certificate to live in the EU,

But then again -she may be genuine.

I worked in the Middle East and lots of guys were tired of Western women and met them as penpals etc,so what you are doing is not uncommon.

Salome

I met my man online - I'm still conscious of the fact that some people still consider it weird to do it. One word of caution though - she approached you, not the other way around. Don't be blinded by love, be as cautious as you can. Imagine one of your friends was in your shoes, you'd advise him to be cautious too. I'm not saying all foreign women online are looking for a someone to fleece but it is possible so don't leave yourself open to a situation that might hurt you.

LegacyUser

they're a special type
i wouldn't worry about marriage work cert money or whatever else people are saying.
worry about your heart, they seduce without mercy

hungryhippo

CDfm wrote: »

I am urging caution cos all she wants is yer money and a marriage certificate to live in the EU,

But then again -she may be genuine.

I worked in the Middle East and lots of guys were tired of Western women and met them as penpals etc,so what you are doing is not uncommon.

Bulgaria is in the EU.

LegacyUser

CDfm wrote: »

I am urging caution cos all she wants is yer money and a marriage certificate to live in the EU.

Bulgaria is in EU since January 2007

dny123456

op, you are being dupped. you know that yourself and are just looking for people to confirm this. If it all seems too good to be true, then it probably is.

Run now, save your money and sanity.