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Issue with friend and boyfriend

  • 12-01-2009 8:03pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok, well basically I've been going out with a guy for the last few months. We really really get on and i feel we have a good relationship.
    my friend, who i introduced to him about 3 months ago, and it bothers me because she is overly flirtacious with him. Now she is like this naturally and my other friend said that she is always all over him too when he's about, and to take no notice.
    The thing that really bothers me, is that when she hangs around with us, her and my bf can be awfully annoying and patronising towards me, and spend half the time taking the piss out of me. To them it's just playful fun. but it's impossible to have a normal, serious conversation without firstly her, constantly giving him attention (she has her own bf of nearly 2 years) and just ignoring me, or them taking the piss. They also act like this to my friend's boyfriend, they constantly bring up stupid things we've said in the past, i mean, it gets old after the millionth time they've done it.
    I'm very shy, and dont want to stand up and make a deal of it. Part of it is probably because i'm generally jealous of her, and how everybody seems to love her when she doesnt even make an effort.
    i really want to say something but dont know how to go about it.


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  • #2
    Toots
    Administrators, Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,957 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Toots


    If you can't say anything to her, perhaps saying it to your BF would be easier? Explain how it makes you feel and ask him not to do it, and if she starts anything, not to join in. They may not even be aware that they are doing it. I can't imagine her boyfriend is happy about it either.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    hi there,
    how often do you guys meet up? Once a week, daily etc?

    It could be a case of your friend and boyfriend are making too much of an effort to get on with each other and the only thing you have in common is you.

    I don't know if I'd say anything to the boyfriend because if you start slaggin your friend off to him he'll start wonder what do you be saying about him to her!

    I guess you could fight fire with fire, the next time she puts you down tell an embarrassing story about her and that'll shut her up.

    If she needs to put you down thhen I wouldn't be jealous of her, she's obviuosly very insecure if she needs to have a go at you AND flirt with your boyfriend when she has her own.

    The other thing you can do is not hang out as much with them at the same time, hang out with her on her own, and him on his own..I'm not saying never meet up but maybe it's time to cool it for a bit.


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