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  • 12-01-2009 1:36pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    hi there! i know its a common problem but i need some advice to get over my ex. a bit of background...i broke up with my ex about 5 months ago after a 9 month relationship. i knew he was going to be moving away so i tried not to get too attached to him but he made it so hard and i fell for him. he was my first love and we broke up because he had to move away for work and although we said we would try to make it work we really didn't. i was always the one making the effort. i know it may be unfair but i blamed him for not fighting for me after we eventually did breakup. i mean if he loved me as much as he said he did then surely he wouldn't be so ok with letting me go? i eventually instigated the breakup and although he wasn't happy about it he agreed to it as long as we could be friends. it was driving me crazy that he would tell me he loved me and missed me but would't make time to talk to me. fast forward to now and i still miss him and can't seem to get over him. i tried to cut contact but everytime i try he asks me not to and says he doesn't want to loose what we had. (is that not what a breakup is?!) i haven't met anyone that comes close to comparing to him but its so infuriating that he doesn't want me but yet wants me to keep in contact with him. i just don't know what to do caus it kills me to cut contact but it is the best thing to do, right?


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  • #2
    cojomo2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,220 ✭✭✭cojomo2


    your x is being selfish-plain and simple.

    if he isnt gonna make an effoert for yee to contine the relationship then you have to cut off contact..

    yeah fine..he want to remain 'friends'..but he has to respect that this isnt working for you...

    if you arnt going to be together then friends clearly doesnt work for YOU..it just causes heart ache..you will never be able to move on and get over him and meet sm1 else if you dont cut contact...


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    thanks for the reassurance...its just so hard to accept that he is being selfish when he was so sweet. if ya get me? its hard to maintain the no contact when he keeps trying to contact me..it just throws me back ten steps everytime...empty hope i guess:( makes me second guess what i think is right too... i really needed someone to tell me i wasn't just imagining it. thank you:) i really want to hate him but much as i try i cant.


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