Can't sleep in bed with anyone

Formosa

I am a very light sleeper and generally have awful sleepless nights if anyone in the bed beside me, due both to my light sleeping and also a kind of uptightness whereby I'm afraid to move for fear of disturbing my partner.

When in bed with the GF, I have always snuck out to the spare bed once she fell asleep (or before that). She is living with me now and is a bit of an insomniac, going to bed much later than me then reading for ages.

Upshot of this is we have seperate bedrooms - otherwise I'd be a wreck.

Her daughter is in the house too, it is a big change for her & she gets a bit upset if the 2 of us sleep in the one bed anyway, so we are all reasonably happy with the arrangement.

Is this commonplace or very weird? None of my friends seem to have this issue, I can't see myself ever getting used to sharing the bed.

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Morgase

It's not a bit weird.

My bf finds it very difficult to sleep in the same bed as me. We actually have separate bedrooms so he normally sleeps in his own room. Sometimes he'll fall asleep in my bed and wake up during the night and then will get up and go into his own room.

His mam was also the same when she got married and his mam and dad have a special bed that is really two mattresses in one huge frame, which works well for them.

Hope that helps.

wolfpawnat

Hey, I have been with my boyf for 2 years now and at 1st he never told me he couldnt sleep in a bed with someone, but after a while it became a bit too obvious when he was constantly tired and irratable, he didnt tell me because he didnt want to hurt my feelings.

At first I was very taken back and hurt because I thought it was a problem with me, but since then we have lived together pretty much all of the time and go out of our way to rent different rooms in the same house. Its healthy to have a bit of space to yourself anyway and we still spend the occasional night in the same bed. It is exceptionally handy now as I am due to have our baby in 5 weeks so he can still get a good nights sleep while I tend to the baby.

stovelid

Formosa wrote: »

Is this commonplace or very weird? None of my friends seem to have this issue, I can't see myself ever getting used to sharing the bed.

Nothing is weird if you both agree to it and it helps you overcome an issue/get a night's sleep.

Our child is still sleeping in our room, and we take turns in going into another bedroom. Why have two people with no sleep?

And more to the point, why have two people with no sleep because it's not the done thing?

John Mason

nope, i love having the bed to myself,

when my bf stays over he usually ends up in the spare room but that is mainly due to snoring

jim o doom

Me and my OH love sleeping together, although I sleep fine on my own as well.. but that being said, I don't think anyone's way of doing anything different is weird.. different strokes for different folks & all that - the only thing that would give me pause if the OP or is OH found it unacceptable or didn't like it - if you are both happy with the situation, I don't see any problem..

but if you do have a problem with it yourself, perhaps you should just try one night a week and see how you get on.. not amazing advice, admittedly, I'm just trying to get accross that I don't think your actions are strange, as long as you don't as well

banshee_bones

each to their own, my parents couldnt sleep in the same bed either once my mother had bad back problems but they still shared the same room just different beds.

personally it doesnt bother me, although the odd night i would be quite restless and would find it hard to sleep with someone lying beside me, other times its ok but i think it comes with time, longer you are with someone the more used you get to having them in the same bed re sleeping positions and patterns.