Whats going on?

LegacyUser

will try make this as short as possible, interested in hearing what people think:

work in an office, girl who works on the same floor, always got on well with her and liked her. she says to me one night when we are out, why havent you asked me out yet. ask her out a while later, night goes well. i ask her out the following week, night goes well, we kiss. go out about two weeks later, night goes well, kiss again. meet up again, night doesn't go well at all, conversation slow etc...brief conversation with her saying how it might get awkward working close together, no kiss, hug.

all along i've found her hard to read ie is she really interested or is this just a few dates. it was usually me who initiated talking/texts/emails. however she did the initial asking, why i hadnt asked her out. after bad last date i decide she is not really interested, i dont want things to be weird in work so think it is for the best just to go back to the way it was before we went out. then come back to work after xmas and she asks me to go out to lunch some day soon

so does she just wanna be mates, is she interested, is she just messing with my head, am i thinking too much into things cause she works close by? opinions....

Adam

I think you're putting too much thought into it. A bad date can happen to anyway, even long term couples. The fact that she still seems interested is good and if you like her I suggest you go along with it and see what happens! Try not to analyse it all too much just yet, you'll drive yourself mad

MizzLolly

Jesus OP, that's headwrecking. That sort of stuff drives me crazy, I just kinda give up on the person, even if I really don't want to. Try one more date and see how it goes maybe. It could be that she's one of those people who craves constant attention/validation and was happy to let you do the chasing. When you pulled back, she asked you out. Then again, she could just be very shy. There's not a lot of info in your post but maybe do go meet her again but be prepared to end up back at square one. Some people are just difficult and regardless of how much you admire them or how much effort you make they give out mixed signals. It could be that she doesn't even realise she's doing it. Let's hope that's the case anyways.

Good luck with the next date

Snowie

she sounds like she eather doesnt know what she want's or the second night she meet you she had meet somebody else and maybe over christmas things faded.....
She interested in you again or something she sounds head wreckingly pain full to be around that or there some skelitons in her closet....

drunkmonkey

Unregistered wrote: »

she says to me one night when we are out, why havent you asked me out yet. ask her out a while later, night goes well.

i ask her out the following week, night goes well we kiss.

go out about two weeks later, night goes well, kiss again.

meet up again, night doesn't go well at all, conversation slow etc...brief conversation with her saying how it might get awkward working close together, no kiss, hug.

Dude get in there, I think all the that's wrong is your not going with the flow, why didn't you drop over with a bottle of wine this evening, give her a few more kisses, even shoot for second base...

The minute she asked why you hadn't asked her out you should have kissed her there and then in a whirl of passion...

If you like her, meet up with her a few times over the next few days, forgett about this asking her out just become good buddys (that like to kiss)....

Relax, she likes you...:)

homerun_homer

It's better that after your dates that she asked you to lunch some day rather than ignore you. If you like her then keep your guard and see what happens at lunch. I can understand how seeing someone from work can be an awkward decision but if she warms to the idea it's best to keep up appearances.
Hope it works out for you.