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Ah where to start!?

  • 06-01-2009 2:24pm
    #1
    Glowing
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,851 ✭✭✭


    Hi!

    My 'f' and I (hate the word fiance) :) are in the 'thinking' stages of planning a wedding and to be honest, the whole thing is so daunting. There just seem to be so many options out there and we just don't know where to start.

    We want to keep it small (famous last words, less than 80 if possible), and are thinking about looking abroad. We could invite everyone over for a couple of days for the whole hog, or we could just do immediate family and friends, and then a massive party back in Dublin afterwards. Although I'd be afraid I'd pi$$ off relations by choosing that option, and I also would hate if other people thought we were just looking for presents!

    Alternatively we could do the registry office in Dublin and a party afterwards .... has anyone done that? Would guests feel hard done by by only being invited to an after-party?

    Ah help! Where to start!!! How do you decide?


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  • #2
    hunnymonster
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,365 ✭✭✭hunnymonster


    We're at the same stage so I'm not going to be much use to you. The only thing I appear to have figured out so far is that no matter what decisions you make, someone will be pee'ed off with you. Try to decide what is best for the two of you and go with that.


  • #3
    phoebe!
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 102 ✭✭phoebe!


    We got married in the registry office and had a meal with immediate family then had a big party that night. It was a great night and we could invite everyone so no one was annoyed (that we heard anyway!) We didn't expect presents but people were very generous.
    I think you should decide what YOU want and go with that. Its about the two of you, not the people looking for "a day out". I've heard so many people giving out about having to go to someones wedding they don't know too well, having to take time off work etc. So it can suit people if you invite those close to you!
    Good luck with it!


  • #4
    kizzyr
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,410 ✭✭✭kizzyr


    Its really really hard. Myself and my boyfriend have kind of decided on April/May 2010 as the timeline for making things official and I have no idea where to start.
    We've at least decided on Italy as the place and immediate family only with the possibility of a party upon return to Dublin. We will probably go with a civil ceremony but have no idea as to:
    a) how much we need to budget for
    b) how to organise it, by ourselves or with a planner.
    c) if with a planner which one and how to know who is best.
    d) the legalities of it all and what kind of paper work needs to be sorted out etc.
    e) what to do for the afterwards end of things if the group will consist of immediate family only:confused:
    f) any of the other stuff I'm sure we've both forgotten about.

    Any help or suggestions would be well received!


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