Have you ever fallen in love with an ex again

LegacyUser

I dated this girl a few years ago for a year. Beautiful girl, I couldn't believe my luck. However, I broke up with her because I fell out of love with her at the time. We were great friends but the spark left. I couldn't help how I was feeling then. She was devastated but we remainded close friends which was so hard but worth it. We realised that we weren't right for each other right then. We dated other people in between, but nothing quite matched what I had with her. We are both single again, still hang out alot and we tell each other everything. Lately, I have realised that I can't stop thinking about her. I have fallen for her all over again, harder than before. I respect and care so much for this girl and she is beautiful. Will I talk to her about it? Has anyone else here had a similar experience and has it worked out?

Wibbs

Yes I've seen it work out. Each case was different, so I dunno how that helps. Basically it worked because the things that split them up were no longer in play.

jessbeth

Be definitely sure because otherwise you will put her through the devastation again and ruin the good friendship. If you're absolutely sure and you think she feels the same then go for it.

Wagon

Never happened to me, but it's possible. It's rare to start having feelings for an ex again, so give it a go. Even if it doesn't work out you can say you tried.

LegacyUser

How do you mean the spark left?
You settle into a relationship after a while, you're not going to feel madly in love with someone every minute of every day. To be honest it sounds as if you've kind of grown up a bit and are ready to try again. I think you should give it a go, you've got something really solid to build on.
Good luck

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

How do you mean the spark left?
You settle into a relationship after a while, you're not going to feel madly in love with someone every minute of every day. To be honest it sounds as if you've kind of grown up a bit and are ready to try again. I think you should give it a go, you've got something really solid to build on.
Good luck

It's hard to explain why I fell out of love the first time. I can't even explain it to myself. We were always best friends I guess and I went through alot of personal issues that same year. Perhaps I got cold feet at the time. I thought back then that love was being crazy about the person all the time and when it wasn't I decided it was best to leave her because I couldn't give her what she wanted. I didn't feel the same. But now I'm out of my mind in love with her again.

LegacyUser

Hi OP

I was in same situation two years ago. It worked out for me. We are very happy. It's rare, as another poster said. I think deep down I always knew there was a strong connection there. I couldn't bear not to have her in my life. Our friendship worked out perfect in between. What's meant to be, will be. Good luck

spitfireIRL

i'm still in this situation there's honestly nothing worse. Especially if ye ended over something stupid and irrelevant..

LegacyUser

Similar situation with my now boyfriend of two years, for hte past four we'd circled around each other, end up together after nights out and went on a good few dates, though admittedly never a full blown relationship, there was always a spark, it ended badly at the time and we didn't speak for a couple of months then made up and were friends, though at the time I knew he wanted more, nearly could sense the change in him, anyway, made him wait for a good while as I wasn't sure if I could handle the rollercoaster of old, he'd had massive trouble with an ex, hence the reluctance to "commit" at the time, but finally two years ago we started going out, now its wonderful, I will say it took me a long long time to trust him when we started dating in earnest, was convinced it was going to come tumbling down at any minute again!! But he for want of a better phrase, proved himself to me and now we're a happy as anything!