Is it going anywhere

LegacyUser

i met this girl 3 months ago, knew her indirectly through work, shes with a company that we deal with occasionaly, met at meeting, there were drinks laid on after & started dating each other following that night. now didnt see each other that much, due to the fact i'm on shifts and can be quite awkard, so probably been out together once a week since. now shes from the country and went home for xmas. before that everything was cool. rang her couple of times, stephens day and day after and she didn't ans. we had already arranged that she would come up one night over christmas, which she did on the 29th and i felt we didnt get on as well as we did. since then i've barely heard from her, always me that texts 1st & im lucky to get a reply hours later. i havnt text her in last couple of days because i dont want to always be the one to text. shes back up in dub tomorrow though i'm on lates so wont see her & shes going back to the country this weekend again so will be one day next week at best to see her. am i worrying about nothing or am i getting the brush off? is there anything that i should say? im in my early 30's (she's 30)though haven't been in a relationship for a few years so any advice would be welcome

G86

Hi OP

Have ye talked about whether ye are just 'dating' still or would you see it as a relationship now? After 3 months I'd want to know where it was going, maybe shes just a bit confused as to where she stands. Did she meet your family at Christmas? That might have freaked her out a bit, you never know, maybe she was really nervous about it and doesn't think it went well?

LegacyUser

G86 wrote: »

Hi OP

Have ye talked about whether ye are just 'dating' still or would you see it as a relationship now? After 3 months I'd want to know where it was going, maybe shes just a bit confused as to where she stands. Did she meet your family at Christmas? That might have freaked her out a bit, you never know, maybe she was really nervous about it and doesn't think it went well?

hi thanks for your reply, well thats definatly one thing, we did talk about it when we'd had a good few drinks and said we were going out. as i said i've not really had a relationship for a few years so i suppose am nervous about what i should be saying and not to push it too much.
no but she met a good few of my mates who all loved her, it was just when she was with me it was distant.

Tim06

brother sounds to me like she found someone else when she went back down to the country. not what you want to hear but thats it by the sounds to me. maybe an old ex sleazing around?

MagicMarker

To be fair, I would not class seeing each other once a week for 3 months as a relationship and I certainly wouldn't think it was going anywhere. She probably feels the same.

JonathanAnon

I would agree with the previous poster. Seems like she IS trying to give you the brush off. A few years ago I was seeing this girl who I'd pulled at a night club for a few weeks. I called to see if she was going out one night and her friend told me that she was gone down the country, called back when she was meant to hvae returned and she eventually got back on the phone and she said that she thought "I would get the idea". I honestly was too bothered about it, but I thought that is was an immature way of dealing with things. Sounds like you may be getting the same thing through text.

I dont think I would bother texting her back. If she is interested in seeing you again, she will surely text you back at some stage. She may be a player.

LegacyUser

same thing happened me in the summer, gf went to a wedding, meet back up with all the locals as they do. she met up with an old ex who told her how much he missed her etc, bam thats me gone!! id suggest text her, i feel youve been a bit distant, whats the story with us.. you'll know either way then. nothing worse than not knowing