query about registration for unusual wedding?

whatdoicare

Having a major problem here, we are planning on getting married in a castle-were all good to go-no problems bar getting someone to actually marry us!
Priests won't marry us coz they apparantly need permission from some higher up peoples to remove the registrar and a holy stone or something along those lines...??? Bottom line- it was going to be costly and not definate for us to jump through the hoops there.
Civil ceremonies in Limerick seem to be impossible to get outside St Camillas'-they only do ceremonies on tuesday and thursday or some craziness like that and we really want it to be a Saturday- so no go there plus you have to have disabled access which the building doesn't.
We finally found a Celtic monk to perform the ceremony but he can't register the marriage for us-so it's not legal. His ceremony will be awesome but we have that final problem....
So does anyone happen to know if or how we go about registering the marriage? We don't mind going into st Camillas' that morning if they'll do it on the Saturday- don't want to end up with two wedding dates!

My head is wrecked thinking our awesome wedding could be ruined due to this hiccup

seamus

Unless you can find an authorised celebrant/registrar to perform the marriage in the place that you want it on that Saturday, then you're out of options really.

As you've discovered, state registrars only perform ceremonies on weekdays and religious celebrants will only perform the marriage within their religious confines.

Your best option is to get married in the registry office during the week - it can be a small affair, all you really need is the two of you and two witnesses (usually best man and chief bridesmaid). Then you can go ahead and have whatever kind of marriage ceremony you want in the castle.

This is by far the simplest option - even if you do manage to get someone authorised to perform a legal marriage in the castle, the state have to send someone out to approve and licence the location for your ceremony.

whatdoicare

seamus wrote: »

Unless you can find an authorised celebrant/registrar to perform the marriage in the place that you want it on that Saturday, then you're out of options really.

As you've discovered, state registrars only perform ceremonies on weekdays and religious celebrants will only perform the marriage within their religious confines.

Your best option is to get married in the registry office during the week - it can be a small affair, all you really need is the two of you and two witnesses (usually best man and chief bridesmaid). Then you can go ahead and have whatever kind of marriage ceremony you want in the castle.

This is by far the simplest option - even if you do manage to get someone authorised to perform a legal marriage in the castle, the state have to send someone out to approve and licence the location for your ceremony.

Yeah-I hoped there might be another option as I don't want my legal marriage to be on a different day than what I'd feel is my actual marriage!
Why don't they do civil ceremonies on a sat anyway? Saturday is the usual day people want to get married.

fleet

Because they are "civil" servants, so unlike a private company they don't have to care about what the market demands.

whatdoicare

fleet wrote: »

Because they are "civil" servants, so unlike a private company they don't have to care about what the market demands.

Well if I could go private I would.

BroomBurner

fleet wrote: »

Because they are "civil" servants, so unlike a private company they don't have to care about what the market demands.

They are open to doing it on a saturday, but it depends on the county and it also depends on the staff available. As usual, rules were changed without any increase in staff to counter the demand.

Btw, I don't work in the Registry Office, but was married there and went through the usual rigmarole of what's available (we wanted to marry as soon as possible).

whatdoicare

BroomBurner wrote: »

They are open to doing it on a saturday, but it depends on the county and it also depends on the staff available. As usual, rules were changed without any increase in staff to counter the demand.

Btw, I don't work in the Registry Office, but was married there and went through the usual rigmarole of what's available (we wanted to marry as soon as possible).

Oh awesome! I'll have to try and get an appointment and ask- all I want is to sign the papers-no ceremony or anything. I just want the dates to match up.

swimmingly

Why not kill two birds with one stone and get the registrar to perform the ceremony at an approved location?

One couple got married at a pub, another at Croke Park, though couples are commonly going for typical reception venues like hotels and castles. Confetti magazine did a write-up about the new laws... basically you and your fiancé find a venue, go to the registrar and ask them to "approve" the venue (make sure it meets their standards - a structure worthy of a ceremony, available to public etc.) and then a registrar can conduct the ceremony there for you and it will be legit.

Best of luck!

cch

swimmingly wrote: »

Why not kill two birds with one stone and get the registrar to perform the ceremony at an approved location?

The venue he wants can't be used because it doesn't have disabled access, see first post. It has to be accessible to the all members of the public in case of any objections!

How about seeing if the registry office wedding can be held as late as possible on the Friday evening, have a small do with close family that night and go ahead with your plans on the Saturday with the Celtic monk and everyone else, making a weekend of it...?

swimmingly

Whoopsie. Missed that in my post-Christmas exhaustion. :S

smelltheglove

Why not do the registry thing a day or two before in the offices get that done and get the monk to do the ceremony.

Ulanzi

Hi there,

Have a look at this chap http://www.cunamhde.com/. As far as I can tell he can conduct a civil ceremony. Best to contact him and find out. Good luck with it though. It's ridiculous that people can't get married whichever way they want to. Hope it works out.

bensoneb

Hi,

I got married in a castle last year on a Saturday no problem. The Unitarian Church carried out a beautiful semi-religious/civil ceremony and they can also register your marraige so you only need to do it once!!

The location didn't have to be checked out by the Registrar as it was a religious ceremony. Let me know if you need anymore details.

Regards,