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Boyfriend advice plz!

  • 04-01-2009 2:41pm
    #1
    fifomania
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    Been with my BF for nearly 4 years and he's only told me about 3 times that he loves me. Does that sound as awful as I think it does? :( We've been living together for over 2 years. He seems more excited and talkative with his male friends than with me and we hardly go out, he says there's no point because "what would we have to talk about?" I don't have any friends left living near me and I wouldn't mind only it seems as though as I've lost friends, he's been making more. He seems to be getting more sharp and quiet with me. My life is good but has gotten so insular and my BF is so up and down. Am I over-reacting?


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  • #2
    Zaph
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    Moved from The Ladies Lounge


  • #3
    pookie82
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    No. Doesn't sound like it at all. The saying I love you issue is different for everyone - not all couples are as vocal with that as people might assume. But 3 times in 4 years isn't very much at all. I wouldn't have a problem if he showed you all the time in other ways how he felt - but telling you that you guys have nothing to talk about anymore would ring major alarm bells for me.


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    Mimikyu
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  • #5
    LegacyUser
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    i am more concerned about the fact that your only interest seems to be him at the moment with no girlie mates. i think that you need to develop some more shared interests so that ye have something to talk about and go to the local pub by yourselves, cinema or dinner - as its danger signs if he says that ye would have nothing to talk about if ye went out by yourselves, this is the person you hope to have a future with or get in touch with old mates or make new ones that you can head out with for drinks and that shows him that you have your your own gang to hand with and can bring back somethin to the relationship and would build your confidence, which is very attractive to guys. as if you dont have your own mates, guys can feel smothered and boyfriends come and go but friends last a lifetime,


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