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Long Distance with a Girl & Stuff

  • 04-01-2009 1:38pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    I live abroad & have just came back from 2 great weeks in Ireland for Christmas.
    While I was home, I ended up meeting a local girl you I fancied alot when I was younger.
    I had 2 great nights with her (just hanging out mind!) & now kinda feel bad for not making a move...I invited her to visit & she accepted: I told her before I left that I liked her & that I'd like to see her again but I'm not sure of how she views me

    I really have 2 questions
    1) I live abroad so obvious a long distance thing will be very hard: Should I risk it?
    2) This is my big problem: her brother is a great friend of mine & if it went pear-shaped it would be difficult to see both him & her again

    Should I just I risk it or should I maybe leave things the way they are until I come back to Ireland in a few years?

    Thanks,
    BuachaillAbroad


Comments

  • #2
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    It's one thing to be in a relationship with a girl and then for whatever reason move away and start a LDR. But you're not in a relationship with this person, what are you going to do? Ask her to just wait for you to get back? That's hardly fair on her.

    My advice, stay in contact with her, stay friends, invite her over, stay friends. In the future, in better circumstances, you can make your move.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    'Making a move' might be a bit too much too soon considering the circumstances. Youve already told her you like her and she agreed to visit you. If she does that then she's probably a little interested too. I think you should go with the flow and see how it develops instead of making a black and white decision off the bat about having a relationship or not. And I wouldnt worry about the long term consequences with your friendship with her brother, thats thinking way too far ahead. Like all relationships, a long distance one depends on the two people involved and what they both want.


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