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Fear of confrontation

jayzusb.christ · 2009-01-03 20:31:27

This is my problem - i have no real problem confronting and taking issue with people i don't know (e.g. in banks, shops, on the street etc) but when people i know, like family and friends, take issue with me i always blame myself, feel guilty, back down and apologise, then berate myself afterwards when i look at the…

03-01-2009 8:31pm

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jayzusb.christ

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This is my problem - i have no real problem confronting and taking issue with people i don't know (e.g. in banks, shops, on the street etc) but when people i know, like family and friends, take issue with me i always blame myself, feel guilty, back down and apologise, then berate myself afterwards when i look at the situation objectively.
if someone doesn't know me, i don't care what they think of me, but if they do, i try too hard to please them even if i don't like their behaviour. i want to be less sensitive to the opinions of other people but i find myself all too frequently doing things i don't want to do because i don't want to upset them.

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#2 03-01-2009 8:39pm

Nevyn

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Why not look at doing a personal development or self assertiveness course ?

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#3 03-01-2009 8:42pm

jayzusb.christ

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Thanks - do you know where i'd find one, how much it costs, etc? i'm in the west part of dublin and am not particularly rich (yet!).

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