Embarrassed bloke here...need advice

LegacyUser

hey,

was with a girl the other night ive known awhile but only recently we started dating ( we arent officially a couple)... anyway i was kinda drunk (not locked but well on). we were having sex and i just lost the erection! needless to say i was so embarrassed i didnt know what to say. she was cool about it, but it ate me up.

ive never had this problem, i broke up with my ex of 4 years about 6 months ago, this is the first girl ive met that i actually like since then. i am definitely attracted to her, ill be honest i was very nervous at the prospect of having sex with her. but now i cant get this out of my mind and im worried about the next...if it hasnt already put her off! anyone experience this before?

Beruthiel

Nerves + drink = floppy dick.
Just explain that to her. Tis no biggie.

Mimikyu

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Millie

I wouldn't get too panicky about it as that will make the issue bigger in your head.
If the girl is sound and into you then what happened will not be a problem.

Miss Fluff

Millie wrote: »

I wouldn't get too panicky about it as that will make the issue bigger in your head.
If the girl is sound and into you then what happened will not be a problem.

Agreed, can happen to the best of 'em. Don't make an issue out of it, if she likes you too it won't be a big deal for her. Phone her and ask her out, no need for long-winded explanations. Next time you see her just make light of it and leave it at that.

JC 2K3

It's perfectly normal, don't worry about it.

I don't know why some guys get worked up about it. I even know of one who thought he was gay after it happened to him.

I think any sex ed class should stress the fact that such an occurrence is perfectly normal, most likely will happen to every guy a few times, and alcohol and nerves are likely to induce it.

MrJetlag

Happened to me once or twice after i peaked too early and blew quick

But heres what you do

Go down on her while you give the old boy a breather

After about 10 mins she'll be screamng and you'll have a horn back on you that could open a tin of beans.

LegacyUser

thanks for the replies, i feel abit better now.

so do you reckon its best not to bring it up and just leave it?

unreggd

Beruthiel wrote: »

Tis no biggie.

Thats a bit harsh :rolleyes:


+1 to MrJetLag, If at first you dont succeed....

Wibbs

myfears wrote: »

so do you reckon its best not to bring it up and just leave it?

I'd say don't mention it. You'll likely be fine next time out. Just ease up on the gargle.

LegacyUser

Hi OP - I'm a laydee in my 30's and it's happened to pretty much every guy I've been with at at some time or another when drink was in the equation. Girls don't mind, it sort of goes with the territory - just chalk it up to experience and like Wibbs said, keep the alcohol to a minimum next time.

WORST thing you can do is obsess about it and be thinking about it next time you're in the sack. Seriously, it's a lot more common than you'd think

jon1981

been there recently, it happens man. chalk it down as a one off...you cant be on your game all the time.

LegacyUser

I think most of us have been there. Its happend to me 2 or 3 times and I know most of my mates have done the same. Sure no point thinking about it, I just put it down to the drink and laugh it off. I know thats easier when its just a one night stand and not someone you like but you can still satisfy her without it. Its not really anything to worry about I dont think, just dont get locked the next time if you know your gonna do it! Otherwise if your still there in the morning you know the fella wont let you down then so go in for seconds!!!

banshee_bones

Unregistered wrote: »

WORST thing you can do is obsess about it and be thinking about it next time you're in the sack. Seriously, it's a lot more common than you'd think

+1

Talliesin

JC 2K3 wrote: »

I even know of one who thought he was gay after it happened to him.

What would he have thought if he tried to screw a guy and he didn't get it up? Really, I know one shouldn't discriminate, but sometimes heterosexuals make it so hard not to laugh at them.

The person saying give her head and she'll be happy and you'll get horny is pretty much on the money. Of course, there's plenty of other things beside giving head that you could do instead, but the basic principle is the same.

While people have said "it happens to everyone" it has never, ever happened to me. This is not because I'm some sort of super-stud, it's simply because I'm starting of with enough of a palette of options to pick between that if it's not 100% rigid I'm immediately moving into something I don't need it to be 100% rigid for before it even becomes an issue. There's always more time for other things later if we want, no?

Indeed, more than one person I've been with has enjoyed doing at least one thing with a still-flacid penis. Spend enough time trying to keep it soft to accommodate such pleasures on there part and it becomes hard to imagine you could ever have the problem described here (really, keeping it soft while its in someone's mouth is not easy - I like to think I've got good self-control, but I really can't do that for very long at all).

Always have a backup plan and you can't go wrong.

mikemac

Normal, don't worry OP

MACDUFF

What three things does drink especially provoke?

Porter

".... sir, it provokes, and unprovokes;
it provokes the desire, but it takes
away the performance:..."

William Shakespeare
Macbeth Act 2, Scene 3
Sure they even knew this hundreds of years ago