How do I know if this is depression or just unhappiness?

LegacyUser

Ok I'm not sure entirely how to explain what I want to say, but I'll do my best...
As the title says, I'm not sure if the way I am feeling is due to just not being happy with aspects of my life right now, or if I may be suffering from depression. Like how do you really know?

I'm a 25 year old female, and lately I seem to be feeling very up and down. I seem to be getting in bad moods/crying & getting really irritated with people a lot of the time. All this is despite the fact that I don't really have a lot in my life to complain about. I have a job which I love (the pay is crap but this doesn't bother me too much, money can't buy you happiness yada yada yada...), I have a great family, and although I have quite a small circle of friends, they're really good friends, & an ok social life. However I still feel like something is missing with my life...

I guess one thing which is missing is the lack of a relationship, in fact I've never even had a boyfriend (pathetic I know). This has become more & more of an issue in recent months & particularly in the past few weeks when the last of my single friends got a boyfriend. Everyone says it'll happen when you're not looking & you least expect it, but that just doesn't seem to be working for me. All I can think is what's wrong with me?
Often when I'm out with friends I just feel like I'm not quite fully there if that makes sense. I think some of my friends are starting to notice that I do go quiet a lot of the time recently when we're out, but I think they just assume I'm bored or tired...

Sorry for rambling on a bit, I'm not even sure if any of what I've said makes sense. Basically I'm wondering if I just sound like an ungrateful cow who wants more from life & won't be happy til everything is perfect? How thin is the line between unhappiness/ungratefulness and depression?

Thanks for reading and happy new year to everyone:)

Snowie

Hey Op i would'nt for a moment say selfish....

I would'nt recomend being so hard on your self....
Im 27 and the last relationship i was in was over 5 years ago.....
I dont really look at it as in there's something wrong with me
I look at it from the point of veiw that thats the way it is.... only way i can.

I fully understand that we get lonely and it's not the best feeling in the world... But you do have some options on how to improve your circumstance's in meeting someone..

Join a club, make more friends, often we lack the dession making to meet new people and can be very diffcult, because you feel out of place, but thats sily because, say your joining and arogamie club you share a comon interest with everyone there your all interested in folding peaper....:)
Thats your resson for being there.. and shareeing a comon interest, with some one can lead to friend ship which could snowball you into meeting some one.....

I know from personal expernce there is presure when all your friends start getting into reletionships and your not, at which point its time to look at how you can imporvve your chance's....Where your soical scene is, etc....

I hope this helps and HAPPY New year

Victor

You aren't allowed decide - thats for a doctor. Deciding by yourself can lead to all sorts of problems like "I have a constant headache, I must have a brain tumour."

Have a look here for a list of symptoms http://www.vhi.ie/hfiles/hf-008.jsp If you have these for more than two weeks, it might be an idea to talk to your GP. Don't worry, they see people like this all the time.

p1akuw47h5r3it

I'd say your more unhappy and prob just in need of a relationship with a fella as everything else seems to be fine as far as I can see

alo1587

To me,it sounds like unhappiness.I think depression is more serious like not wanting to get out of bed in the morning, feelings of self worthlessness,not wanting to socialise etc.I think you're just putting pressure on yourself to keep up with your friends? Just because you're single doesn't mean all is lost!