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Need help - Marriage falling apart

  • 30-12-2008 12:55pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Myself and the wife have been married for a couple of years and live in her parents homeland. Things were great at first when we moved over. I had a normal healthy relationship with her parents but then the ball dropped. They started interfering in every major decision we would make. If they didnt like something that we were doing or any decisions we would make they would badger my wife until she got around to their thinking. Then the rows would start and i would eventually cave just to keep the piece. Now dont get me wrong i appreciated there opinion at first. This has caused alot of rows between myself and the OH. She thinks her parents are been helpful.

    Everyday my wife is getting more like her mom. My wifes mom appears nice on the outside but she is a control freak, very negative, nervous type of person. I am not perfect myself but i just want to have a normal healthy relationship with my wife without any family interference. I have built up alot of anger towards them and their interfering in our lives. If i am not over nice to them all the time they think i hate them, that kind of ****e.

    We moved over here to start a new life yet even now with a child i have never been so lonely. My wifes's mom knows that we are thinking of moving back, yet never says anything to me about it. She knows she cant make me change my mind so she works on my wife. I love my wife.

    I respect their opinions but enough is enough. Should parents control how you should live your lives.


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  • #2
    AARRRGH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    I would show your wife this post. She needs to see how serious this is and how **** you feel. If she doesn't care, you need to leave her. Life is too short to stay in a miserable marriage.


  • #3
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Unreg12 wrote: »
    I respect their opinions but enough is enough. Should parents control how you should live your lives.
    No they shouldnt. Advice is fine and indeed welcome, but this level of interference is too much. You should control how you live your life. Your wife should control how she lives her life and the pair of you should come together in common aims and needs.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #4
    CDfm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    No she shouldnt. But also your wife needs to keep your marriage private from them.


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