Emotional Rollercoaster

LegacyUser

I'm tired of things at the moment,everthing seems so stale, my boyfriend has been in a gloom for want of a better word, for the last two months, I've asked, not badgered asked what's wrong and he tells me nothing everthing is fine, but it's not, and I know this, I've told him I'm there for him in good times and bad and if he needs me I'm here, he turns on affection as if it's a reward system, for three weeks he can't get enough of me, then for five he's just going through the motions. He's the first person I call if I'm get good news and usually he's thrilled for me but lately it's forced, he tells me he loves me constantly whne he's in good form but for the last few weeks it's not spontanous, only as a reply to me., I know people can be down, I can get down myself, but it's the rations of love that kill me. I'd never willingly make him feel like this. I'm tired, tired of feeling bad for him one day, angry the next and nervous the next. I don't know what to do. Can I just say when things are good they're very very good, and when they're bad, well, you know the rhyme.. I don't know if he's actually "Depressed" or what's going on, and I don't know how to find out.

Kirnsy

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I don't know if he's actually "Depressed" or what's going on, and I don't know how to find out.

ask him?


has anything major happened in the past few months to your boyf? eg. bereavement , exams trouble, work related problems even you fighting??

if so that could be a plausible explanation.

if not you need to sit him down and explain exactly how you feel.

LegacyUser

Hi, thanks for your reply, I've asked him, of course I have but the standard reply is "No I'm fine" there has been a little upheavel in his life which he was a little down about at the time, but it was a different kind of down, and he seemed to get over that in the last few months, but now this, maybe it's a delayed reaction, but it's going on far too long now for me to know what to do about it.

Kirnsy

well in that case seeing as its gone on long enough its time YOU say "there's something wrong" and that its upsetting you big time.

there's a chance that he doesn't realize what impact his behaviour is having on your relationship and you especially.its time to let him know, rationally and calmly.

good luck