Nice girl but too far away?

LegacyUser

Hi,
Going unreg for obvious reasons.

Worked with a girl a while back, she's a foreign girl living here. Nice girl. We got on well, always thought there could have been something there. On a few staff nights out things nearlh happened but i really don't like drunken hookups with someone I work with so never let stuff happen.

Anyway, I finished work in the summer, and moved away. We hooked up the night i left and once or twice since when I've seen her when I go home. I saw her at our old xmas party last weekend but nothing really happened. She seemed bit awkward at first but I went tand talked to her and it as all cool, she was looking ove at me loads in the club and stuff but I didn't feel terribly comfortable still letting anything happen infront of our l=old workmates, I don't really know why, it just felt strange.

Anyway, I like seeing the girl but I never now what to make of the situation. She seems to like me but she really doesn't do or say anything unless we're probably out in the pub or club. So I find it awkward to bring anything up unless we're drnking.
Second is the fact I don't live around her, we have texted a bit back and fourth but I leave it go a lot when I'm not around. Plus since she doesn't really do or say much about things without us being out, its hard to take the conversation in that direction on phone or text. On top of that since we don't really live near anymore I dunno am I better off just leaving it. I like seeing her when I come home and stuff but I have no idea what she's like, don't wanna seem like I'm taking advantage just coming to see her every few weeks and expecting her to be delighted. Maybe she doesn't mind that, maybe she does and would prefer it be more serious. I don't exactly have a choice of girls so it seems a bit silly to throw away a nice girl like this but I dunno how to handle it, either to find out eally if she likes me and invite her out or just leave it since circumstances are never right for it to ever get very serious.

Snowie

maybe you should invite her out for a drink and talk to her about her and get to know her and see how it goe's ....?

i was on a date with a latvian girl i swear she ahd the personality of a brick she was really attractive but man talking to her was like cracking my head on a brick wall it was painfull to make conversation with her..... i guess it depends on that but you gotta take a chance see how things go... dont let my experence affect yours....

good luck

MIN2511

What happened after the last time you hooked up with her?

LegacyUser

Well I had to go back home so didn't see her in a while.
We texted alright but we didn't text in a while as I wasn't home for a little while.

She seems cool as long as I'm the one who initiates it, she always seems slow to be the one to initiate it.

Could take that as her not really being into me.
Or take it as she doesn't like initiating things since things are cool once I do.

I just don't want to be initiating things all the time, seems needy when you do that too much. Not really that sort.

MIN2511

It all depends on what you want from this.... The fact that you don't live in the same city would always be an issue

She may like you, but what can you offer her?
What would you do if she wants a relationship?

I hate to say this but i don't see it being anything more than it is, you haven't had the chance to date properly... ie go on dates, hang out etc.

LegacyUser

Sure give it a shot if youw ant, but where are you going with this?Speaking as someone who knows a couple going out for 7 years, and broke up recently because he wasn't preparedto move to her country, and she wanted to go home for a while, having been here for almost the whole 7 years. Go for it, try to get to know her a bit better if you want, but if it goes further and gets serious, be aware that one of you will have to sacrifice home to be with the other.