Depressed

LegacyUser

not sure why i'm even posting this, maybe just need need to get it off my chest.

recently i let my OH down in a big way, and i am not sure if our relationship will last. it would absolutely kill me to split up, but at the moment its almost worse the way it is.

basically we are still together, just, but i am the subject of frequent abuse and there are arguments which i never start.

they certainly have the right to be upset, but it feels like they are using it as a stick to beat me with continuously.

i love my OH to pieces, and i know i was the one who messed up, but i can't keep taking this.

just looking for advice basically. should i stay with them, and hope that they eventually get over what has happened and things go back to normal, or should i just end it now and save us both the pain and stress?

confused and depressed.

What did you do?

LegacyUser

I am also curious as to why you use the plural when you write about your OH(Other Half is what I assume it stands for) Have you upset more than one person, i.e other family members? Is there any chance of reconcilliation? People may find it difficult to help as there is little information to go on, please elaborate about your situation if you feel comfortable.

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I am also curious as to why you use the plural when you write about your OH(Other Half is what I assume it stands for) Have you upset more than one person, i.e other family members? Is there any chance of reconcilliation? People may find it difficult to help as there is little information to go on, please elaborate about your situation if you feel comfortable.

I think the OP is using "they" and "them" instead of "he/she" or "him/her". Becasue the OP didn't state, or give any hints if they are a guy or girl, or if the OP is straight or gay.

Going for absolute anonimity I think.

samhail

very anonymous alright
i would say you need a heart to least with your oh. Tell them that if they cant forgive you for what happened that you need to know now. If its worth staying together in the long run, then problems now can be worked through. My 2c

themadchef

Sounds like your partner is very sore about the whole thing. It doesn't really matter what the deed was, it's enough that your partner feels so angry that they keep lashing out and finding fault in other things.

Relationship counselling, talk it over, tell your partner how sorry you are. Your partner is not going to let it go over night. Give him / her time, but, they also can't bring it up in every argument. Have a proper discussion about your feelings and where you see the relationship going.

It may be over already OP. You knowing that you let your partner down is not necessarily enough reason for them to forgive. Make your peace, say what's on your mind, and if you both decide to give it a go try to make up for it.

Best of luck.