Glad to see the back of 2008

LegacyUser

Is anyone else glad to see the back of 2008?

Well, I started with a disasterous holiday, getting back to a difficult work situation, then breaking up with bf. Work got progressively worse, I eventually got fired (illegally), I did meet someone nice, albeit briefly, but that's fading away (haven't heard from him in a while), can't get a job, and to top it all, I've put on a stone.

I spent today crying and feeling completely worthless. Things can only get better? I'm not looking for pity, but I'm not seeing any hope and I need hope or otherwise I just don't see the point anymore.

nice_guy80

yeah.

good riddance to 2008.

split up with gf. no holidays taken. fed up in job. horribly single - finding it very hard to met someone nice.

here's to 2009

LegacyUser

There's always hope and things will get better eventually.

If it's any consolation I had a crap 2008 as well.

jhegarty

sad girl wrote: »

Work got progressively worse, I eventually got fired (illegally)

Have you done anything about that ?

Shouldn't let them get away with it.

LolaLuv

I had a very crappy 2008 as well. I was just thinking last night about how delighted I will be to say good riddance to it. Maybe you can take comfort in the fact that many people feel just as you do right now. It is, unfortunately, a part of the holidays for many. There is hope though. Hang in there.

LegacyUser

Yep, crap year for me, too. Non-stop rows with GF. Collage going crap. Can't end soo enough for me. No money.

paddy353

jhegarty wrote: »

Have you done anything about that ?

Shouldn't let them get away with it.

+1

Good Riddance to '08 thats what i'm saying!

Karen_*

It was the worst year of my life. I split with someone, lost my job, had a nervous breakdown and that was only January. The rest of the year was spent trying to recover from the breakdown, being in a horribly abusive 'friendship' with my ex, dealing with alcoholism. I've never felt so bad in my life as this year, so alone, so worthless. But I've survived it. And you've survived it too OP and now 2008 is nearly over.

The only advice I can give you OP is not to give up and keep trying and keep doing whatever you can to start liking life again. Its worth living. Put a terrible year down to a learning experience and realise that now you've had your terrible year, things can only get better. And you're not alone, I feel yuk too. Take it easy this Christmas and enjoy the break and ok its not the most joyous one you've had but there are loads of happy ones in store for you.

rainbow kirby

Not gonna lie, 2008 sucked. Here's to a better 2009.

LolaLuv

I think Karen's right. The really important thing is that you survived it. Eventually you will draw strength from the knowledge that you can survive unfortunate circumstances, even if you can't right now. Plus you'll take the lessons you learned in 2008 into 2009 with you and it will be a new start, but with more knowledge.

Schmowen

I'm sorry to hear about the awful year you've had , I sincerely hope that 2009 is much better for you .

Please remember that this too will pass . A cliche I know but it's true . Life has a funny way of turning itself around for you when things seem at their most bleak .

Take care , take heart .

Creamy Goodness

Yup, 2008 sucked big time, 2009 will start off ****ty for me, but will hopefully get better come may/june time.

ergonomics

OP, instead of focusing on all the bad things and hoping you don't have more of the same in 2009, focus on the times you were happy and enjoying yourself and wish you get more times like that in the year ahead.

If you spend all your time hoping bad things won't happen you won't notice the good things. By trying to avoid bad things you'll notice them more.

Make a list of all the good things that happened this year and head into 2009 with positive thoughts about how good the year will be, not how much you don't want it to be bad.

Firetrap

2008 is nearly over. When December 31st comes, draw a line under the year and start anew. Some years are worse than other but there's no point in looking backwards. What good will it do you? Perhaps now that you've had a cry, you've got it out of your system.

Instead, make some proactive changes in your life. You say you've gained a stone. Well, if you start doing the old eat sensibly/exercise more thing, you'll shed that stone. You'll also feel happier in yourself and more energetic.

Keep plugging away on the jobs front. Hopefully something will come up for you. You're unfortunate in that it's not the best time to be unemployed but there are still jobs out there. Good luck

Tind777

same here, had a few good points ,bth had the worst possible week of my life, few friends went, look to the future i say, we'll all look back on this and laughf

girl2

I have to agree - 2008 was undoubtedly the worst year of my life. And funnily enough I was thinking this only today. I actually thought about how I had seen 2008 in - believe it or not, our town had a lovely midnight mass to see in the new year and i was at it......and today I thought - how did it all go so wrong?

But we're all here to tell the tale, and things can only get better.

Here's to 2009.

LegacyUser

here here! Good riddance to 2008, arguably fell for someone for the first time in 5 years, which ended as quick as it happened. Was unemployed. Missed out on two good job opportunities due to various. Friends have moved on. I also think there is a widespread veiled mood around the country with the recession and all the jobs being lost, the negative headlines in the papers daily must have some subliminal affect...maybe!:-) here's to 2009 and let's hope it gets better....however in saying that i said that last year...and 2008 was the biggest blow of all....

Donald-Duck

I;ll be the exception then, I had a great 2008:)

Sarky

You're not alone, not by a long shot. I can count on one hand the people I know for whom the good outweighed the bad this year. I had a horrific end to 2007 and a bloody lousy 2008 myself.

Put it behind you. Dwelling on it will only make it worse. Crawling out of a hole like that takes a lot of work, but it can be done, and trust me, it's worth it. 2009 is going to be a damn fine year for me, whatever it takes. I'm going to make sure of it. Keep your chin up.

LegacyUser

2008 was one of the WORST years of my life in not the worst. Job lost, unemployment, losing my house and the love of my life and developing depression, a recreational drug habit anxiety and a horrible self awareness.

But I like all of you I am determined to see a good year next year. I remember in 2004 when I had a terrible year also I decided to see in 2005 with a positive attitude and it worked. The year imrpoved month on month and things changed for the better for 2 aw and a half years.

Hang in there everyone. Seriously, see the New Year as an amazing opportunity to renew and start again.

rororoyourboat

I totally agree. Whatever way I look at the year, I can seem to find many positive things to say. 2009 ftw!

Curlypinkie

ergonomics wrote: »

OP, instead of focusing on all the bad things and hoping you don't have more of the same in 2009, focus on the times you were happy and enjoying yourself and wish you get more times like that in the year ahead.

If you spend all your time hoping bad things won't happen you won't notice the good things. By trying to avoid bad things you'll notice them more.

Make a list of all the good things that happened this year and head into 2009 with positive thoughts about how good the year will be, not how much you don't want it to be bad.

QFT
Thank you!
Come on guys, stop wallowing in self pity. I had some seriously ****ty things happen to me in my life, not only in 2008. But thinking about them and mulling over them is not the key. I am happy for the year 2008 becuase I learnt loads of new stuff from it. Some bad and some very good.
What doesn't kill ya makes you stronger!!

Lots of hugs, kisses and well wishes for the New Year!!

whiskeyman

Donald-Duck wrote: »

I;ll be the exception then, I had a great 2008:)

I'll join you!

Had a fantastic year.
However, I'm taking nothing of what happened for granted, and count my lucky stars so much has worked out for me, and people around me.

It's mad, because if one or two things happened, it could easily have been a very bad year. It just shows how fragile life can be and how lucky (or unlucky) we are sometimes.

I hope 2009 proves a lot better for those of you who've had it tough in 2008.

Best wishes folks

WM

RossFixxxed

It's not the best idea to just write a whole year off... you dont get many!

However, planning to kick some ass in 2009 sounds like a plan!

SamuelFox

2008 was one of the best years of my life. I really enjoyed it, did a lot of new things, and spent it with an amazing girl. The thing is that it started so ****- the death of someone I was very close to. I remember heading back to Galway after the funeral and wondering what the deal was. However, things got better a lot quicker. None of us know what is around the corner or what life has in store. In the last month I’ve broken up and I am absolutely heartbroken, but I know that things will improve and I’m looking forward to whatever 2009 will bring. Happy new year to you all!

LegacyUser

Yep - ****ty, ****ty '08 here too!

But hey - onward and upward, things can only get better
Try to find the positives in having gone through so much crap - personally I've learned a few lessons, gotten closure on a few things and gotten to know myself a hell of a lot better... Every time I start to wallow I tell myself that it will just make me appreciate the good stuff all the more when it comes, and that there are many people in much, much worse positions than me who would consider me very lucky by comparison.

Hugs to everyone who's had a poxy 2008!!

sleepyescapade

2008 was both good and bad for me. Got bad towards the end though so heres to a great 2009 :pac:

Trymon

Dunno bout the whole year, but certainly October 2008 was the worst month of my life. Started with a flatmates friend trying to commit suicide in my flat, my dad being admitted to hospital and later dying, my ex having a go at me and about my dad at his funeral, and finding out my little brother has a drug problem. Was out on halloween night and realised that this was indeed the worst month of my life so it was all better from here on in cos october was finally over!

LegacyUser

Yea it was the worst year of my live so far and hopefully the last. First of all my best friend died in a car crash in Janurary then in June i find out i have a longterm illness and if that wasnt enough i split up with my GF in September. Roll on 2009

homerun_homer

nice_guy80 wrote: »

yeah.

good riddance to 2008.

split up with gf. fed up in job. horribly single - finding it very hard to met someone nice.

here's to 2009

Ditto for me.
The year started off so great and went downhill in May. After the breakup I had bouts of depression, lost all interest in my hobbies (which mean a lot to me) and that didn't help matters. Lost all motivation. Decided it's time to pick up sticks and move and get a job in Dublin. Was ready to quit current job without any backup but the recession was just getting worse and worse and it was now a crazy idea.
My best friend who I've lived with for last 6 years moved away to be with his girlfriend. I've had to move out of the apartment and back into my sister's house and have no room for anything.
As a result I've been trying to keep myself distracted and have been taking off most weekends and seeing friends in other cities. That has been fun, returning is always the killer though.
Right now I want Christmas/New Years to be over, not to be hungover & in work, and to have a better year in 2009.

Good luck everyone, we need it.

LolaLuv

Curlypinkie wrote: »

QFT
Thank you!
Come on guys, stop wallowing in self pity. I had some seriously ****ty things happen to me in my life, not only in 2008. But thinking about them and mulling over them is not the key. I am happy for the year 2008 becuase I learnt loads of new stuff from it. Some bad and some very good.
What doesn't kill ya makes you stronger!!

Lots of hugs, kisses and well wishes for the New Year!!

I don't think it's self-pity! Sometimes people have bad experiences. If you can draw a line in the sand and use the year as an end point to get over it, what's wrong with that? I don't think it's wallowing in self-pity so much as having more hope for 2009. Plus it's PI, we have to be able to whinge somewhere!

LegacyUser

Hi all

Sorry to see that other people have had an awful year, delighted to see it's been good for others. I do think I got some good advice, I need to draw a line in the sand and think that 01/01/2009 as a new begining. To be honest, I'm lucky in some ways, I've not have bad things happen to me in my life until this year even though i'm in my 30's.

I am still close to tears a lot and feel that I'm not done crying yet. I'm still looking for that silver lining, can't see it yet though. I am normally an optimist and I have to believe it's there, I just need to search harder and in different places.

All the best to everyone for 2009.

dodgyme

well 2008 was fairly crap in a general sorta way the effects everyone.

M50 in bits and stupid toll system introduced
Weather sh8t all year so people mood not great
recession bitting and job losses
property slump and credit crunch (so even folks looking to benefit from fall off.... wont)
W7nkers (developers) and Bankers bailed out while 2000 dell employees look into the unknown.
Gov introduce a squeeze budget without tackling the elephant in the room (public sector pay)

all of these menat 2008 will be a bad year for most joe soaps. Hope they remember whent he next election is coming not to vote FF again.

meditraitor

I'd just like to wish all you guys who had a sh1t 2008 all the best for next year................ Happy new year

HashSlinging

End of 07 was a place worse than hell but '08 was the worst year of my life. Death, and Debt but two negatives equal a positive.. So here's hoping for '08..

dodgyme

HashSlinging wrote: »

End of 07 was a place worse than hell but '08 was the worst year of my life. Death, and Debt but two negatives equal a positive.. So here's hoping for '08..

groundhog year?

HashSlinging

Yep.. Thinking of writing a book "The Complete Idiot's Guide to...."

Max_Damage

Good riddance to 2008 aswell. Talk about a shít year.

Sanjuro

I lost my job, my da died and I broke up with my girlfriend. In that order. Safe to say 2008 has probably been the worst of my life. So long sucker!

Awayindahils

I'm looking forward to the end of 2008. Such a messy year, I didn't think I could stand to loose so much.

But I know that 2009 isn't some magic wand that will wipe away all the bad stuff, so my 2009 is starting today.

I'm in college looking at a job application and trying to find the answer to 'your greatest personal achievement of the last 12 months' I don't think surviving counts as one but I'll think of something.

Happy '09 to you all.

LegacyUser

Its amazing. This is the first year I can remember where practically everybody cant wait for it to end!! By far the worst year of my own life and I know that because I've never wished a year good riddance before!

Hope 2009 is a better one for all of ye. God what a joke of a year this was!

TheDriver

I would have soooooooo joined into this discussion this time last year, 2007 was the worst year and things looked downhill the whole way, 2 and half year breakup, lonliness, self pity, drinking and snogging for sake of it, nothing going right etc. So i put my mind to it that 2008 was going to be a good year if i had anything to do with it and you know what, it has been brilliant. Booked month travelling on my own, dated some lovely women, met what seems to be the one (I am 30 so I kinda know by this stage!) and the best best thing that happened was someone died. That someone being the negative, bad part of me. I would never have done things in the past, never thrown caution to the wind, never been myself because I was ashamed to. But on my own on the other side of the world, i jumped out of a plane and it was the best thing I ever did, made me feel alive and felt like the world was mine to live in and made the past all the more insignificant. Indeed today I am clearing out any lingering negatives from my past from the house, sick of the sight of them.
So chin up lads and get out and plan a great 2009, it will happen if you want it to.

Miss Fluff

Lost my job, a legal battle with former employer, death of close family member, had my heart broken, best friend's Mum died.....lots of really sh1tty sh1tty stuff, 2009 is a new year though and hope to obliterate 08 and all it's negativity and intend to have the best year yet in the coming year. Can't wait to see the back of 08!

Dudess

I can't emphasise how beneficial positive thinking is. I used to be the most negative person ever so I understand anyone's cynicism about being positive. However, being positive is not deluding yourself - it's not fooling yourself that bad things won't happen. It's making the best of your situation and accepting that yes, bad things do happen, but how you deal with them is key.

RossFixxxed

I agree with dudess entirely (shudder at picture once again :P )

I would also add thought, there must be even ONE thing about 2008 that'd make you smile? And I will also admit to being a cynical b******, althought I'm beginning to see that as an erroneous way to be...

R

janullrich

Agree. I passed my driving test (which is a huge thing for me) and bought a house. All was going well unless the start of December when my dream job in tourism was gone and I was told I was let go. The the girl I was seen walked away. All I can say is that there are a few friends like that and u have to remain positive. I go to the swimming pool and gym and will celebrate the end of 2008 with a few friends in the city trw. Next year well more then likely it will be away from Ireland but we will see..

SeekUp

2008 wasn't the best year, but then again 2007 was worse . . . so I've got high hopes for '09 . . . for the moment, at least. :rolleyes:

pfishfood

2008 was pretty rough had some good times, 2008 was a massive improvement on 2007, heres to a good 2009. And if i learned anything from 07, i know its corney and a line in a bad pop song but "things can only get better":).

Madame Razz

Delighted to see the back of 2008; 2009 can only be an improvement.....

I think this sums it up really.....

http://http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHwhTQz49Gw

embee

2008 sucked, easily the worst year of my life by a country mile.

The thing to remember is that, whilst a lot of us went through the ringer this past twelve months, we got through it.

I honestly believe that if I managed to come out at the end of 2008 still being able to smile and seeing the best in people, then I can get through anything.

Best of luck OP - things can only get better!