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Bad friends !

  • 21-12-2008 6:50pm
    #1
    Nyree
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26 ✭


    I wish there was a Supernanny for bad friends / people / relationships / behaviour. It's very difficult to make decent, genuine friends nowadays. I'm in my 30s and I find that a lot of young single women are very selfish and use people. I've had many friends who've treated me badly over the years. You think they're your friends for a while and then they go psycho on you. And it's not even over men or anything, just over something stupid or nothing at all. I've had friends who've been unnacceptably aggressive towards me for no reason, really terrible behaviour and then denied it happened after and refused to apologise ! If this happened once you might let it slide, but it's happened to me several times. I had four very bad expriences on four different holidays with four different people and one of them was my sister ! You wouldn't believe the stories I have about holidays from hell. Have genuine, caring friends with integrity completely disappeared from society ? Everyone seems to be only interested in looking out for themselves nowadays. :mad::confused:


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    There's lots of unselfish people out there. Anyone who is aggressive towards you is not a friend.

    Might sound a little crazy, but do you find you may be attracting idiots into your life? By that I mean do you put up with selfish behaviour from people you regard as friends? Because if you do then you're going to be treated like a doormat.
    Don't make yourself available to people who treat you badly.

    Four bad experiences with four different people on four holidays is a lot. Is there any chance you could be unwittingly argumentative? I had a friend once who was hard work, she'd say black was white and TBH I found her so wearing that I just stopped contacting her.

    What are you looking for in a friend? Knowing that is a good start.


  • #3
    Nyree
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26 ✭Nyree


    Thanks for your reply. I know from what I've said you probably think it must be me. Other people have said this too. I have thought a lot about this and I can honestly say, that although I'm sure I have had arguments with people from time to time as does everyone, really it's not the cause ... I'm pretty easy going and you're right, I put up with far too much crap from people, the oppisote to starting arguments over nothing. Whether I attract idiots or not, I really can't say. I think I've just been unbelievably unlucky with friends !I'd have to relate the whole story of the holidays and the people involved for you to understand better. And it's not just one-off holidays, it's general bad treatment all the time. It's almost like when people become familiar with you, they change.


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