What is love?

LegacyUser

Here goes, im a 27 year old man and i have never been in a relationship with a woman where both parties love each other. I have dated a few girls that lasted a few months each, thats about the height of it. Is that weird? Sometimes i feel like maybe im just not made to be a guy in a relationship. Its worrying me now as I get older, you wonder when the real thing will happen if at all. I know people who go from being in one long relationship and into another one like that. For others it seems so effortless and natural for them to always be going out with someone. Is it a skill that you learn when you're younger? I've been told many a time that im a good looking guy, people have even said i look like a movie star etc.. so thats not my problem, my problem is that i simply have never found that proper deep connection with a woman and i would love to and im starting to lose hope. I feel past the stage of trying for one night stands etc.. i've done all that and its simply not fufilling in any emotional way. Sorry this a rant, thanks for reading, are some people simply not made out for proper intimacy?

LegacyUser

I think you just haven't found it yet - don't give up. You're still young, lots of people don't find it til theyre much older. A thought though - are you looking in the places where you're likely to find kindred spirits? You're more likely to find someone you can connect with if you're meeting people who enjoy the same things as you. Don't assume everyone in long term relationships is with their soul mate, a lot of people settle for the sake of being in a relationship and end up unhappy.

LegacyUser

Best thing you can do is forget about your looks.
A girl who's really interested will be more intoyour personality, your looks will be a bonus.
There are people out there.Keep looking

LegacyUser

maybe your dating the wrong people? if your criteria for picking ends at how attractive they are your going wrong there things in common and friendship are much more important.

Das Kitty

To be honest I think your situation is healthier than someone who goes from one long term relationship straight into another one. I have a friend like this and last year she became single again and realised that she had no clue who she was (she started the cycle when she was 15!). So she had a bit of a breakdown, went on a cruise and is now happily dating a few different people and not jumping headlong in. She's the happiest I've ever known her.

As for your issue, I think you've just not met a person who is compatible for you yet. It could be that you're drawn to the wrong type of person or it could be that you've just been unlucky. My advice is to mix it up, go places you never would before, have a crack at speeddating (don't expect anything but a laugh, but it could open doors). Even if you made some new friends and introduction could come of it.

Good luck dude.

Kold

OP you're better off than the masses of people that fool themselves that they're in love all the time. You won't find it by looking for it but it's born out of friendship rather than anything else. 27 isn't too old by any means.

homerun_homer

I'm 27 too and I'm fairly confident with myself in looks and personality (well half the time:))but I don't have a girlfriend on my arm all the time. I've only had one proper relationship and we were in love. I know people who go through relationship after relationship too and to be honest, most of them are just in the comfort zone more than anything. Some people are happy to settle, I'm not. I want a more meaningful connection with someone and maybe you do too. That's possibly a factor to it.
I will admit, these modern times are tough in this country for meeting someone who will meet your expectations and for you to match theirs.

If you know what you want and are happy to wait then do let it bother you too much and just get one with things.

John Mason

Love is being able to spend a whole weekend alone with someone without once thinking "if i just hit him once with this cast iron frying pan he might shut the flip up and stop annoying me"

Kold

Baby don't hurt me.. don't hurt me.. no more.

_blank_

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

"if i just hit him once with this cast iron frying pan he might shut the flip up and stop annoying me"

Kold wrote: »

Baby don't hurt me.. don't hurt me.. no more.

---