Spending new years with your bf/gf, left feeling alone

LegacyUser

My girlfriend who's in her late 20s lives at the other end of Europe and doesn't want to come over because of what she feels is a long trip (leaves her home 6pm, gets to Dublin midnight-ish, a bit more complicated on the way back) and problems it might cause with her parents since they are very clingy. She has been half living at home, half with me since September (not in Ireland), but we'll be living together at least until August.

On the other hand, spending it together really means something to me, along with having a week together to relax, far from work etc (which won't happen due to work commitments until September next year at least). If it was in anyway practical, I wouldn't think for a second about going over there (but flight simply impossible in that direction, and I'm back to work while she isn't working these months) and I have not hesitated about doing similar stuff in the past.

She promised we would spend new years together a few times (even a week ago), and now I'm left feeling high and dry. Her opinion is that we'll be together by the middle or end of January anyway and that it's not worth the hassle.

(This post has been a compromise since myself and my gf have written it )

Smyth

It depends on how long she would be staying really. I mean, in all honesty, there's nothing special about new years...and if you really love one another, you'll have plenty more together.

If she could come over for a few weeks then the trip would be worth it. Anything under a week wouldn't...IMO.
This sounds like the case as she said she's coming over in Jan anyway. If she's not working for 3 months, you have to take into account the burn on her wallet. You can't expect her to come over, go back and then come over again, can you?

You need to look at this in a more mature manner. Yes, it would be nice to spend it with her....but man, it's just another day...like any other.

On another.....more serious note. Your relationship is your own. You are both adults? If so, whenever you make a decision, you should be making it together. Parent should not enter the equation. If she's over 19/20...it's pretty weird and could cause issues (definately would for me anyway)

The same standard applies both ways in relation to maturity. She should be mature enough to exert her independence with her parents. I've seen this before in my life, and let me tell you - You need to pinch that in the bud right now.

So erm yeah. I'd side with her. She's coming over in Jan. That'll do. Quit whinging....use MSN :P

Beruthiel

UnreNewYears wrote: »

Her opinion is that we'll be together by the middle or end of January anyway and that it's not worth the hassle.

I'd have to agree.
If you are going to see her in a few weeks anyway, then you should be able to get through Christmas and New Year's no problem. I'm sure you have family and friends you can spend it with instead?
If you really cannot live with that, then no matter how difficult it is to travel to her, do it instead of putting it on her shoulders.

MagicMarker

New Year is just another day really. In the grand scheme of things it's quite insignificant. It'll be the middle of January in no time.