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is it over?

  • 16-12-2008 1:07pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    ok, i dont really know what to say here. My boyfriend and I have been going out three years and we both love each other very much. However we have been going through a bad couple of months. We dont fight constantly but every couple of weeks we have been having a big blow out, for which i think we are both to blame. A couple of times we have come extremely close to breaking up.

    I feel like i am a yo yo at the moment, my emotions are al over the place. On the one hand i am afraid that he will break up with me and on the other hand im not sure if i want to be with him. I think that he has been looking around lately at other girls and wondering what it would be like to be with them, although i get that i might be a bit paranoid lately.

    Im just wondering, is it normal at times to have so many doubts? Do people in long term relationhips recover from bad patches like this or am i just kidding myself? does anyone else ever have trust issues like this?


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  • #2
    That Girl..
    Closed Accounts Posts: 149 ✭✭That Girl..


    I was with my boyfriend for 3 years and it ended like this..
    We were arguing over the smallest things which would then turn into a big row..

    We kept trying to make it work but i then we just decided to call it a day..
    We took a few weeks break from it, we tried a lot of things but all good things must come to an end unfortunately..

    Do what you feel is right but don't let him get away if thats not what you want..


  • #3
    Mr. Incognito
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    im not sure if i want to be with him

    Nail. Head.


  • #4
    Terodil
    Closed Accounts Posts: 809 ✭✭✭Terodil


    Every relationship goes through big ups and downs. The harder the bumps, the more shaky it becomes, but ultimately they'll make the relationship the stronger for it. OP, it seems to me that you two are still very much in love, but that little things have a way of sneaking in and then suddenly coming to the boil at bad moments. Some disagreements can be sorted out by a proper talk. Some disagreements cannot be sorted out but only accepted -- we are not all the same. And some disagreements are so massive that you may need to break up.

    You haven't given any detail but I'd suggest you try to figure out what kind exactly these disagreements are, and act accordingly. Don't forget to put yourself into his shoes and try to find out how he feels about these things. You might just end up with disagreements of the sortable or acceptable kind and understanding each other better. =) good luck!


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