Kinda worried

LegacyUser

Okay Love my b/f enjoy his cmopany and we are to my mind, great together.. Problem is this, While we have a great time between the sheets, sex always ends b me or him "finishing him off he can´t seem to come inside me, we´re together a couple of year and I could honestly say I could count the number of times he has. It never overly concerned me b ecause as I´ve said we are very compatible nad always ejoy our sex life.. Lately though it´s starting to slightly upset me, it´s not something we´ve mentioned and I´m not sure I wat to bring it up with him. Is this normal? I´m guessing not!! There´s no underlying reason as far as I can see, but if anyone has any advice I´d like to hear it please..

Bottle_of_Smoke

It's not that big a deal and he's certainly not the only one. Happens to me a bit. Sometimes it's a result of feeling like you're going to come really early and then holding back, end result is you can't finish when you want to

Maybe if you tease him a bit beforehand it might make him come quicker, like if you know he wants to have sex don't let him but continue the foreplay(and make him think you're not going to let him until the last minute) The positions you're doing it makes a difference too, I generally don't come if the girl is on top even though I enjoy it.

You could abstain a few days aswell if it's that important to you(though you'll have to ensure he's not masturbating of course)

Try spice things up too, sexy costume, change sexual routine etc

MagicMarker

It's perfectly normal and absolutely nothing to do with you.

Don't bring it up with him because you'll only make it seem like it's a problem for YOU, which is unfair to him.

SpookyDoll

He could be terrified of getting you pregnant OP.

Maybe if ye used condoms now and then he might feel more comfortable...

RuailleBuaille

MagicMarker wrote: »

It's perfectly normal and absolutely nothing to do with you.

Don't bring it up with him because you'll only make it seem like it's a problem for YOU, which is unfair to him.

Yeah, don't bring up the 'perfectly normal' issue you have with the boyfriend you're having sex with. :rolleyes:
It clearly IS a problem for her if she's writing here about it, duh. And why should it be unfair to her, but not to him? :rolleyes:

If it bothers you, ask him about it. If he has done it before (come inside you) then it mustn't be SUCH an ordeal for him and maybe you can come to an agreement that sometimes you do it the way you like, sometimes the way he likes. It's not a big deal and tip-toeing around it creates unnecessary tension. I always think that it's better to ask than wonder.

MagicMarker

RuailleBuaille wrote: »

Yeah, don't bring up the 'perfectly normal' issue you have with the boyfriend you're having sex with. :rolleyes:
It clearly IS a problem for her if she's writing here about it, duh. And why should it be unfair to her, but not to him? :rolleyes:

If it bothers you, ask him about it. If he has done it before (come inside you) then it mustn't be SUCH an ordeal for him and maybe you can come to an agreement that sometimes you do it the way you like, sometimes the way he likes. It's not a big deal and tip-toeing around it creates unnecessary tension. I always think that it's better to ask than wonder.

What are you 12 or something?

It's only a problem for her, because she's taking it personally and thinks that he has the problem with her. He doesn't. There, no more wondering.

What are you talking about compromise for? This isn't about taking turns! Some guys just find it difficult to cum during penetration, just like some girls do! It may be more psychological than physical, but so long as he's happy with it then it shouldn't matter.

Her bringing this up to him may needlessly make him feel self conscious and create further problems, like him feeling under pressure to cum during penetration next time, which will only make things harder! (and not in a good way).

LegacyUser

I have the same problem your BF has.

Not sure what causes it but it's nothing to do with you i can assure you.

You could try ribbed condoms which work for me on and off.