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am I being oversensitive?

  • 12-12-2008 10:07am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Was mine and the o/h's christmas party last night (we live in different cities). I'm under a lot of pressure lately at work and had a very bad night (long story).

    Anyway, we were talking on the phone around 2 am and she asked if I wanted to talk about it. I said I didnt want to ruin her night, but asked her to just send me a text when she got home, and I'd text her back.

    Now, I'll left the phone on, but never got a call or text. I know I'm very sensitive at the moment because I'm under a lot of stress, but am I right to be annoyed about this, or am I just being overly-sensitive? Just need some perspective...


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  • #2
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    As a one off thing, probably fuelled by drink and tiredness on her part, then I would let it go. She asked what was wrong and you didn't get into it as it would ruin her night. Kudos on that, but don't now punish her for not reacting as you expected kinda thing.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #3
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,220 ✭✭✭✭biko


    Ring her today and mention it casually during conversation? She might have an explanation or simply forgot.


  • #4
    Queencake
    Closed Accounts Posts: 176 ✭✭Queencake


    Yeah, you're being a wee bit over sensitive. Mention it in passing today and she's bound to say she simply forgot because of drink. It's happened to me that I've forgotten to txt someone when I got home. My bf has done it to me. I was oversensitive about it and let it annoy me in the past but I've copped on alot since then.

    She meant no harm by it I'm sure!


  • #5
    Mighty_Mouse
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,882 ✭✭✭Mighty_Mouse


    Surprise if this is a bloke, so presume its 2 girls in a relationship.
    Regardles, at her crimbo party. Free booze & craic. ....... chill the beans ffs!


  • #6
    jen_23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 789 ✭✭✭jen_23


    yes very oversensitive!!!! I don't know how many times I've said to people ya I'll text you when I get home but it's 2/3am , i'm stumbling in the door, I see bed before I know it it's morning and i'm wondering why my head hurts!

    It was her xmas party i'm sure she was danced out, drunk and exhausted!

    don't read too much into it. i'm sure it was drunkenly forgotten:o


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  • #7
    TripleAce
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,454 ✭✭✭TripleAce


    Relax - if she had something to hide then she would have certainly texted you! Maybe she got home late after pub/night club and didn't want to wake you up?


  • #8
    Warmaster
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 134 ✭✭Warmaster


    I think you're being oversensitive but that's to be expected from a man in a relationship, men get very clingy to their women sometimes, it's not a bad thing you just need to recognise when it's taking over and keep it at bay, like in this situation here, it's easy to get hurt but don't take it so bad


  • #9
    AnonoBoy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,559 ✭✭✭✭AnonoBoy


    Two simple explanations:
    1. Christmas party. Huge amounts of drink involved. Got home - passed out. No text.

    2. Christmas party. Got home. No credit. Went to sleep.

    Either way it's not a big thing. You're being overly-sensitive.


  • #10
    unhappycamper
    Closed Accounts Posts: 302 ✭✭unhappycamper


    Unregis0943434 wrote: »
    Was mine and the o/h's christmas party last night (we live in different cities). I'm under a lot of pressure lately at work and had a very bad night (long story).

    Anyway, we were talking on the phone around 2 am and she asked if I wanted to talk about it. I said I didnt want to ruin her night, but asked her to just send me a text when she got home, and I'd text her back.

    Now, I'll left the phone on, but never got a call or text. I know I'm very sensitive at the moment because I'm under a lot of stress, but am I right to be annoyed about this, or am I just being overly-sensitive? Just need some perspective...

    That would really annoy me, especially if you don't ask for support too much


  • #11
    dlofnep
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,759 ✭✭✭✭dlofnep


    * No credit.

    * Forgot due to alcohol.

    * Hates you.

    It's one of the above, and I doubt it's the latter.

    So stop worrying. I'm sure she just forgot. It happens.


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  • #12
    Queencake
    Closed Accounts Posts: 176 ✭✭Queencake


    unhappycamper wrote: »
    That would really annoy me, especially if you don't ask for support too much

    Yeah that's true. It is annoying because the OP obviously needed her and was waiting to hear from her. I have sympathy for you OP. Like I've said I sometimes was too sensitive about these things because if I don't txt someone back it means I couldn't be bothered so I'd project this assumption onto others. But often that's not their intention at all.

    OP you probably are in the same boat. What do you think?

    Yes, you're being over sensitive in this case but it happens to everyone once in a while.


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