Need Councelling

LegacyUser

Hi there

Im writing here to see if someone can help me.

I am depressed and have very low self esteem. This is destroying the relationship I have with my boyfriend of nearly 2 years and I need to get councelling for this.

I have nobody to advise me on my problem. I feel that I can't talk to my boyfriend. I sometimes feel suicidal and feel that if I tell him about this he will think I'm looking for attention. I have told him I hate myself and am not happy with myself, but he just tells me "You don't hate yourself, that's silly."

My two best friends, I cant offload this on either of them as they have their own problems at the moment.

Again, I dont want to speak to my father as I don't want to worry him. I'm not going to kill myself, I just want to stop feeling like I want to do it. I just want to talk to someone and get better.

I have asked my GP to refer me to a councellor but he just tried to councel me himself, and ended up giving me a prescription for lexapro, which I tried to take, but gave up on them. I dont want to take medication, I want to talk my problems through with someone.

Im writing to ask if anyone can tell me how to get in touch with a councellor around the Dublin 22/24 area? I've also tried googling it but cant get anywhere.

Thank You

Snowie

Unregistered wrote: »

Hi there

Im writing here to see if someone can help me.

I am depressed and have very low self esteem. This is destroying the relationship I have with my boyfriend of nearly 2 years and I need to get councelling for this.

I have nobody to advise me on my problem. I feel that I can't talk to my boyfriend. I sometimes feel suicidal and feel that if I tell him about this he will think I'm looking for attention. I have told him I hate myself and am not happy with myself, but he just tells me "You don't hate yourself, that's silly."

My two best friends, I cant offload this on either of them as they have their own problems at the moment.

Again, I dont want to speak to my father as I don't want to worry him. I'm not going to kill myself, I just want to stop feeling like I want to do it. I just want to talk to someone and get better.

I have asked my GP to refer me to a councellor but he just tried to councel me himself, and ended up giving me a prescription for lexapro, which I tried to take, but gave up on them. I dont want to take medication, I want to talk my problems through with someone.

Im writing to ask if anyone can tell me how to get in touch with a councellor around the Dublin 22/24 area? I've also tried googling it but cant get anywhere.

Thank You

Good for you !

Councilling is well worth it... Go back to your gp and tell him you want him to refer you alternitivly you can research therepy centers on the net in your area if not the golden pages ...

why i oh why do docters think they can be counciler's i dont know but hey...


Hope this helps and good luck...

MysticalSoul

If you ring the IACP they can give you names and numbers of therapists in your area. Their website is www.irish-counselling.ie

r3nu4l

Contact AWARE

http://www.aware.ie/

An Bhanríon

Fair play to you for deciding to go for counselling. It's not always an easy decision to make. I went to a counsellor in college years ago and it did me the world of good to tell my problems to a stranger as it made me look at them in a different way myself.

A word of advice regarding finding a counsellor. You might be lucky, but don't expect that the first person you visit is necessarily the best person to help you. You may need to try a few different people before you find somebody you can relate to. What I mean is don't loose heart if you just don't feel right with a particular counsellor. It may simply be that that person is not the counsellor for you, as everybody (and therefore every counsellor) is different.

The main thing you should be getting from your counsellor is an ability to work through your issues yourself. A good counsellor is only a facilitator. He / She can't sort out your problem for you. You have to do it yourself. And I'm sure you can. The first step is always the most difficult!!

LegacyUser

Thanks

Its not an easy decision to make, and is one I have been putting off for four years now. I will go through my GP again I think, as I would feel too strange calling someone up and asking them to give me a list of places to go.

I think I will meet my GP tomorrow afternoon.

LegacyUser

Ok well yesterday I made an appointment with my GP for 8am this morning.

I got up, got my things ready for work, and headed off to the surgery for 8. When I got there however, my doctor wasn't there, she was late. I sat in my car thinking to myself, "I should just drive off, sure I'm fine today, I'll be fine, I can cope with this"

That has been my attitude for the last 4 years, and guess what? I'm not fine, and I can cope when everything is fine, but the minute something bad happens, I fall apart.

So I said to myself, no!! I'm not running away from this any longer. So I waited for her to arrive. She made an appointment with their counsellor for tomorrow!! I couldn't believe it was so soon, but there's no time like now I suppose.

My GP said to me the counsellor works on a sliding scale of payment. I'm just wondering what both sides of the scale are generally like. I'm not loaded, but I'm not poor either. I wouldn't know what to expect to pay though.