When will I call?

LegacyUser

Hey guys..just wondering how long most people wait to contact a girl/guy they got on great with over the weekend? My story is I met a girl on Saturday and we hit it off, we swapped numbers and I like her...when should I call her?
Thanks!

Nevyn

You should have done so by now it you wanted to see her over the weekend chances are she has plans by now.

not yet

A simple text to say Hi by now would be the order of the day.

jim o doom

Tuesday or wednesday if you met saturday - if I was single, I'd find it hard to wait that long! Of course you don't want to seem desperate, but wait to long and you seem like a cold fooker.

[Jackass]

Text the next day to say hi? Maybe wednesday to make plans. If the hi went well you could have been texting back and forth all week anyway..

LegacyUser

Thaedydal wrote: »

You should have done so by now it you wanted to see her over the weekend chances are she has plans by now.

Saying I should have doesn't help me at all. I didn't wanna appear too eager by texting any sooner. I texted her on Sunday actually just to see how she was..

Drift

I hate this whole "Don't text until Wednesday" game-playing ****e. If I like a girl I'll text/ring her (with some polite light on content message) the next day so that she knows I like her. I will then ask her on a date shortly thereafter provided I get a good response from the initial contact. I would hope that any relationship that ensues will then be free of childish games.*

I just don't get why anyone would wait a certain specified length of time to feign disinterest. I suppose on the up side my method of going about things is a very efficient way of filtering out any girls that would expect or enjoy that sort of carry on.


(*Worked with my girlfriend anyway )

shellyboo

shyguy1234 wrote: »

Saying I should have doesn't help me at all. I didn't wanna appear too eager by texting any sooner. I texted her on Sunday actually just to see how she was..

You should have done it by now... so do it, now.

Drift

shyguy1234 wrote: »

I texted her on Sunday actually just to see how she was..

That's not so bad then. At least she knows you're interested. Best thing to do is text her right now then and ask if she has plans for Friday/Saturday night. Then go from there based on her response.

[Jackass]

shyguy1234 wrote: »

Saying I should have doesn't help me at all. I didn't wanna appear too eager by texting any sooner. I texted her on Sunday actually just to see how she was..

Then just contact her tonight. Quick text "Hey how are you, how was your week? Nearly the weekend, can't wait!! Anything planned? Was wondering if you fancy going for a drink?"

Or something like that

Relevant

Shyguy1234 Meet WaitforDate

Although you've probably met before!

jim o doom

Drift wrote: »

I hate this whole "Don't text until Wednesday" game-playing ****e. If I like a girl I'll text/ring her (with some polite light on content message) the next day so that she knows I like her. I will then ask her on a date shortly thereafter provided I get a good response from the initial contact. I would hope that any relationship that ensues will then be free of childish games.*

I just don't get why anyone would wait a certain specified length of time to feign disinterest. I suppose on the up side my method of going about things is a very efficient way of filtering out any girls that would expect or enjoy that sort of carry on.


(*Worked with my girlfriend anyway )

It wasn't really gameplaying while I was still playing the game (so to speak). It was more, "I am nervous, this could go bad & I don't want to seem like an overeager desperate freak and scare her away". Which I am sure many people feel like when they arn't too sure how a weekend romance is going to go, once the alcohol wears off.

Millman

Maybe its just me but if someone id only met once started ringing me during the next week I'd be a bit put off. Whens it that early, I think only texting is really apprpopriate.

And BTW, you really have to text her this evening!! Evn if not to arrange something with her but at least to keep your name and face in her head

Drift

jim o doom wrote: »

I don't want to seem like an overeager desperate freak and scare her away.

One of my points is that if she thinks this just because you text her some banal message the day after you meet she's the one with the problem! Was her response to the message you sent on Sunday a positive one?

~nop~

Text her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

chops1990

Drift wrote: »

I hate this whole "Don't text until Wednesday" game-playing ****e. If I like a girl I'll text/ring her (with some polite light on content message) the next day so that she knows I like her. I will then ask her on a date shortly thereafter provided I get a good response from the initial contact. I would hope that any relationship that ensues will then be free of childish games.*

I just don't get why anyone would wait a certain specified length of time to feign disinterest. I suppose on the up side my method of going about things is a very efficient way of filtering out any girls that would expect or enjoy that sort of carry on.


(*Worked with my girlfriend anyway )

Finally, someone who hates mind games as much as I do!

abi2007

you really should have by now! I'd ring her

abi2007

chops1990 wrote: »

Finally, someone who hates mind games as much as I do!

I hate mind games too!

chops1990

If only everyone was like us, eh?

abi2007

I know i think if a guy waited till wed or thurs to ring me I'd tell him where to go.

chops1990

The day after thing to me seems a bit soon. I'd text but ring on wednesday to make plans. Not that I have a lot of experience in the matter

abi2007

I'd go with monday

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shyguy1234 wrote: »

Hey guys..just wondering how long most people wait to contact a girl/guy they got on great with over the weekend? My story is I met a girl on Saturday and we hit it off, we swapped numbers and I like her...when should I call her?
Thanks!

don't delay, call today

chops1990

There's a lot of people with a lot of opinions. A guy with this question should ask girls, girls with this question should ask guys what they think. Both sexes have different opinions on the time you should call or text back.

abi2007

Des wrote: »

don't delay, call today

Is that an add? ben Dunne maybe???

abi2007

chops1990 wrote: »

There's a lot of people with a lot of opinions. A guy with this question should ask girls, girls with this question should ask guys what they think. Both sexes have different opinions on the time you should call or text back.

That's true... Girls like guys that are interested in them.. the longer you leave it the less interested you seem

chops1990

Nicely put. If people get the vibes the person liked them too they shouldnt hesitate in calling whenever to make plans, if she gave ya her number she shouldnt care when you ring. within reason.

SweetChilli

If I were her and hadn't heard from you since Sunday, I'd probably think you weren't interested but if I liked you I'd bite the bullet and send a quick "hello" text mid week and hope to get a reply... At least then I'd know either way, i've no patience at all for game playing....

Go on text her, make a girl smile......... :-)

chops1990

It seems to me a lot a fellas, myself included are clueless when it comes to the initial stages of a relationship. Girls seem to know alot more on how to handle us, what time to call etc...

abi2007

It's called experiance lol!

chops1990

Hahahaha. People take little things like, when to call, too seriously. I mean, if you wreck your head thinking "oh when should i call?", you could miss your chance. So before I get completly off topic, OP ring her!

SweetChilli

Oh God us girls have as many questions, if not more about how to deal with you men at the start of anything......... You wouldn't believe the number of hours spent thrashing it all out with friends for us to reach any conclusion..........

Just go with your gut feeling, it's normally right...!!!

LolaLuv

Personally, if a guy waited until Thursday or Friday to ask me out for the weekend, I'd think I was the last resort. Wednesday is the best day to call imo.

abi2007

yeah that's true.. the girl is probably giving out to her friends right now saying 'i can't believe he hasn't called... and I really thought he liked me'

rgunning

Watch the film Swingers for a perfect tutorial on how to deal with the situation. Taught me to be patient!

LadyJ

Imo, it's sweet to get a text the same night just saying "Hope you got home ok. Great night." or something along those lines. Even just something witty. If not then a flirty text the next day is always pleasant.

Tbh, if a girl likes a guy then she'll be delighted to hear from him asap but if she's a bit meh about him then she'll find all sorts of problems no matter when he texts.

LolaLuv

LadyJ wrote: »

Imo, it's sweet to get a text the same night just saying "Hope you got home ok. Great night." or something along those lines. Even just something witty. If not then a flirty text the next day is always pleasant.

Tbh, if a girl likes a guy then she'll be delighted to hear from him asap but if she's a bit meh about him then she'll find all sorts of problems no matter when he texts.

QFT. This woman speaks the truth. Case closed, imo.

NUTZZ

LadyJ wrote: »

Imo, it's sweet to get a text the same night just saying "Hope you got home ok. Great night." or something along those lines. Even just something witty. If not then a flirty text the next day is always pleasant.

Tbh, if a girl likes a guy then she'll be delighted to hear from him asap but if she's a bit meh about him then she'll find all sorts of problems no matter when he texts.

You read my mind, I was just going to post that! I'll always text that night just saying something simple like "hey did you have a good night", or "hope you got home okay" followed by a smiley face!! It hasn't steered me wrong!! I think it gets out of the way quickly, the first mobile communication, and everything is way more relaxed after that, especially if shes into you! Definitely text her, you'll never know otherwise!

LadyJ

Also, if you wait almost a week to call or texts, unless there's a proper reason, it tends to smack of desperation to look like you're playing it cool.

chops1990

Research has also shown that men have a tendency to mistake friendly behaviour for sexual flirting. This is not because they are stupid or deluded, but because they tend to see the world in more sexual terms than women. There is also evidence to suggest that women are naturally more socially skilled than men, better at interpreting people's behaviour and responding appropriately. Indeed, scientists have recently claimed that women have a special 'diplomacy gene' which men lack.

biko

I wish texting had never been invented.

John Mason

you should have called her on sunday!!!!!!!!

Babooshka

biko wrote: »

I wish texting had never been invented.

So agree with you.

Terpsichore

If you really really liked her and viceversa, you two should have woken up together the next morning, skipping all that wait for what? story.

bangersandmash

Millman wrote: »

Maybe its just me but if someone id only met once started ringing me during the next week I'd be a bit put off. Whens it that early, I think only texting is really apprpopriate.

Yes thank heavens texting put an end to all of that inappropriate business of talking to one another one the phone. How did we manage without it?

chops1990

Just because the person rings you during the week doesnt mean they're wierd. It means they're interested in you. If you didnt want the attention why give out your number? People usually give their numbers when they expect/want to be contacted or to contact the person.