Can't have sex

LegacyUser

Hi there

I'm female and at the end my tether. Been with boyfriend for 5 years and we love each other to bits. Sex was brill first couple of years.However naturally it dwindled a bit and i have a lower sex drive than him aswell.I also started getting bouts of thrush and became very sensitive down below. been to doctors on and off loads.

I had treatment for it and it'd go away for periods of time. As i'm on the pill its still comes back though.I could never phsically have sex for long as i'd become sore, almost raw and stingy, even with lube .
Anyway few months ago i got a really bad rash below and it was agonising.
Doctor said it was from friction, so got cream and and to use plenty of lube when started having sex again.
However i was never the same after it, i was way more sensitive. Lately i feel as if things are even tighter down below, putting in tampon is even uncomfortable and my boyf finds it hard to get inside me. ( it used to be hard as he is big but never this hard)

I'm not looking for medical advice as i've been to doctors and they never have a clue. usually give me thrush cream/tabs and send me on my way.
Could it me mental, i'm worrying about so can't relax etc?
As my sex drive was lower than my partners and as time went by i did feel sex a chore and had to make myself in the mood - i just wonder is that part of it-maybe psychological. However i just wish more than anything now, to loook forward to sex and it to be enjoyable.
Ecen if i try to get in the mood sometimes- i'm not turned on even after foreplay.

any people in similar situations or advice would be great. thanks

Nevyn

Please tell me your bf got tested and treated for thrush to and has not been re infecting you.

LegacyUser

hey thanks, ya he was given a thrush tablet aswell and we didn't have sex for a week as recommended to ensure i wasn't reinfected.
It's way to uncomfortable to risk getting again. i was looking up online and i wonder if its vaginismuss! seems the closest thing i can figure out...

lilminx

Thaedydal wrote: »

Please tell me your bf got tested and treated for thrush to and has not been re infecting you.

first thing I thought of too OP

It might be worth both you and your partner using treatment for thrush and abstaining for a few days...

could be as simple as...

mikewest

There are other medical conditions with symptoms similar to thrush but which do not respond to the same medicine. Get a second opinion and if necessary insist on a smear test and even more agressive diagnostic interventions. There is at least one controllable condition that can only be confirmed by skin biopsy from the sorest area. New doctor now.

Peewee_lane

OP I went out with a guy who had thrush! It was awful, felt so bad for him. I also just treated myself with the pessary and it worked after a long time of pain so, dont know if youve tried the pessarys but worked a treat with me and last night, the ground moved.

username123

Used to suffer from repeated bouts of thrush myself and its VERY offputting to sexual relations.
My GP was brill and suggested I introduce cranberry juice into my diet, did so around 3 years ago and have only had the odd bout since (after anti biotics). I drink around a pint of it a day - its just part of my routine now.

I agree with other posters it could be something else, it could well be worth a new doctor and more investigation.

I would imagine there is a psychological aspect because when things get uncomfortable down there repeatedly the body does start freezing up in anticipation of pain etc...

January

I know you're not asking for medical advice and asked could it be a mental problem...

Is it possible you may have Vaginismus?

LegacyUser

hey thanks everyone

ya Vaginimuss seems the likely cause. i guess i probably should try another doctor, which will be hard though as i have a medical card and have a specific doctor.

I just can't wait til everything is back to normal!