Pregnant and dumped.

LegacyUser

I don't really know how you would feel, but I am 4 months pregnant with the baby my bf convinced me too have and he has left me. It was his idea to start a family, but once i was into the pregnancy he stopped caring about me, changed his mind about our house and even started to become abusive. Now we have absolutely no contact. It is a very confusing time when ur pregnant, especially if you have no one else and the person you do have has turned their back on you. My advice would be to remain a kind and caring person. Even if the two of you cant be together make sure she knows you still care about her health and well being while she is pregnant.

LegacyUser

Can i offer an opinion from the other side, as a woman I would hate to have somebody who didn't love me stay with me out of guilt, obligation or any other reason except for the fact that they love me and want to be with me... Although obviously it would be unacceptable to dodge your responsibilities or to take a one way ticket to the hills. People fall out of love, its a sad and simple fact, and there's not many who would like to have someone on those terms. Has she asked you to stay for the sake of the child? Personally I would be insulted if somebody made the "ultimate sacrifice" and stayed with me begrudgingly. Sit down, explain yourself and come to some arrangements... Financial, emotional support etc... These are things you can still offer if your g/f still wants them.

briandy

I couldnt read this and not post.

Nevyn

briandy on topic and helpful posts only.

LegacyUser

i got dumped while i was pregnant....and the result was anti-natal and post-natal depression.

metrovelvet

What happened to the first half of this thread?

Nevyn

metrovelvet if you have a question about a mod action pm the mods rather then dragging a thread off topic.

Nevyn

Unregistered wrote: »

I don't really know how you would feel, but I am 4 months pregnant with the baby my bf convinced me too have and he has left me. It was his idea to start a family, but once i was into the pregnancy he stopped caring about me, changed his mind about our house and even started to become abusive.

Personally I think that is one of the lowest scummiest thing a "man" can do.

mikemac

Post 1 is a the OP telling her story
Post 2 is offering advice to a guy but that isn't the OP at all

I'm lost

Nevyn

The op of this thread dragged up a thread which was 4 months old so I split the thread.

wolfpawnat

So OP have you had your baby now or are you still pregnant?
How are you now? Have your family pulled together for you, or have his?