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Am I obsessive?

  • 30-11-2008 1:54am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I knew a girl 9 years ago, we were very good close friends for about 2-3 years. She often slept around with mutual friends but I genuinely cared for her and was interested in her but she wasn't interested in me. I knew she wasn't my ideal woman. She did use me a bit but she also cared for me too. This was fine I had no expectations, I wasn't secretly in undying love for her or anything, I just would have if the opportunity cam up. We eventually drifted apart.

    I've been in several relationships as has she but I often think about her. She was one of the warmest, kindest girls I've ever known. She could be married now for all I know. I'm not obsessed or anything- I dont see her only once in a blue moon. If the opportunity arose now, I know my head would rule my heart- we're just too different and moving in opposite directions. Its a no brainer

    So why can't I stop thinking about her?


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  • #2
    jessbeth
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 273 ✭✭jessbeth


    Maybe she representated a time that was good and fun in your life and it mightened be just her your longing for, but rather that time and that kind of life again. Could it be that, that time seems better then your present? I think everyone always has a few ex's in their past that they still hold a torch for. I think that's just human. If you spend a lot of time thinking about her then I would just try to find out what you could do to improve your life as it is right now because fantasy/daydreaming etc about the past is often just a form of escapism from a 'boring or troublesome' present. Make any sense?


  • #3
    JonathanAnon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,718 ✭✭✭✭JonathanAnon


    I dont see why you would want to meet her again. You avoided the bullet one time, why would you want to put yourself in that situation again. She obviously does not sound like the sort of girl that would make you happy. You said that she had no interest in you, and that she was a bit "easy".

    I think you may just be bored. Often when you have nothing on the scene at the moment, you just try and think up scenarios for yourself.


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