Terrified I'm pregnant, am I being irrational?

LegacyUser

I guess i just need an outlet right now, and I just need to get this off my chest.
The past week or more I have noticed I have got a bit of a tummy, and it feels strange too.

I've only just started having sex a while ago, and I'm on the pill and very good, only on one occasion was I two hours late taking it. We always use a condom, no accidents etc. had my period as normal a week and a half ago.

This may sound completely irrational and Im sure people will laugh at me and tell me I'm silly but I have a ridiculous fear that i could be the one that the pill doesn't work on, or i'll be one of the people who have no symptoms of pregnancy (like continues a period etc). It's a real fear, Im not crazy. I haven't bought a pregnancy kit cos i feel like that will confirm how silly this all is, but it keeps me awake at night:(

How do people know and how soon would they know that they are pregnant..maybe i am just getting fat! (and paranoid)

I guess I hope there are other people out there who are similar. I don't want me to reach a point where I'm afraid of having sex in case i get pregnant. (The reason i don't want to is because it isn't an option at all now)

Does anyone else ever freak out like this? I feel silly:(

LolaDub

If its something that is keeping you awake at night then you need to look at it, buy a pregnancy test and see clearly whether you're pregnant or not, then let go of your fear or face it head on.

I would doubt anybody would start showing after a week of being pregnant. I only started showing when i was 6 months pregnant but i got 24/7 morning sickness, dizziness, cramping, fainting etc as other symptoms. Having a completely symptomless pregnancy is very very rare.

There is a certain mentality where we all think sure i'll be the one to get caught out, whether its skiving from school/work, becoming pregnant or doing anything in the back of our minds we feel we shouldn't. I think if having sex is affecting you this badly you should consider talking to someone or hold off having sex for a while.

LegacyUser

I'm worried I'm putting these thoughts into my head that I am, I mean I've only done it a few times and was so careful. I looked at other threads and they say not to do a test till your next missed period, altho one company do one you can use it up to five days before..but that's two weeks away. I'm caught between a rock and a hard place if i do one tomorrow and it comes out wrong (possitive). I don't know what to do with myself an the irrationallity of it makes me worse.

Blisterman

A lot of girls start to let them go, once they get a boyfriend. (ie stop going to the gym as often etc.)

Could this be you?

Victor McDade

Isn't it better to take a test and sleep well tonight than worry about it for the next 2 months??
And if you are pregnant you have options now, but not forever. you need to know asap

Faith

I was like you at the start, constantly convinced I was pregnant, no matter how many precautions I took. Even now, I'm probably more paranoid than the average person. But by the sounds of it, you've really got almost no chance of getting pregnant. Perfect use of the pill doesn't actually mean taking it at THE EXACT SAME TIME every day, you actually have a 12 hour window (or 3 hours if you're on the mini-pill). Taking it two hours late won't affect it. Also, assuming the condom didn't break, you'll be fine.

It's normal to be like that soon after you start having sex. I think you need to get through a few periods before you start to relax! What I'd do is wait for my next period. If that comes, great, you're not pregnant. If it doesn't, get a pregnancy test. Wait until it's due anyway before getting a test if you're that concerned. It's extremely unlikely that you'd have periods throughout a pregnancy, and you'd probably notice them being a lot lighter if you did.

At the end of the day, if you were pregnant, there's always options. I know it feels like it would be the end of the world, but it wouldn't be. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk more.

wolfpawnat

Depending on the brand of pill, you may naturally get just the slightest bit pudgey, it is a protective layer of fat that the hormones induce to protect the body.

But always take a test if your not sure! better to know the truth than to not sleep at night

IrishWhite

I have 2 teenage daughters both of whom put on a little weight when they started taking the pill given the precautions you take the likelyhood of you being pregnant is slim but for peace of mind take the test anyway.

The contraceptive pill causes hormonal changes and if the one you are on does not agree with you consult your doctor.

Masada

Its unlikely that you will be pregnant based on what you have said so far, the very fact that you are taking the pill could be the cause of you feeling a little strange as aposed to being pregnant. Im not sure I quite understand what you are saying but |I looks like you are saying you think you might have become pregnant a week ago. that would have to be roughly 2 weeks after you had your last period and you'll be due again next week.
there is actually a very short window were you can become pregnant each month, its about a 3 day scale usually 2 weeks after your period.

A pregnancy test would be the best option but i wouldn't worry too much based on what you have said.,

shellyboo

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm worried I'm putting these thoughts into my head that I am, I mean I've only done it a few times and was so careful. I looked at other threads and they say not to do a test till your next missed period, altho one company do one you can use it up to five days before..but that's two weeks away. I'm caught between a rock and a hard place if i do one tomorrow and it comes out wrong (possitive). I don't know what to do with myself an the irrationallity of it makes me worse.

You can't get a false positive on a pregnancy test... if the pregnancy hormones are not there, it can't activate the little line. The only 'wrong' result is a false negative, which is very likely to happen if you are pregnant and you take the test too early.

However, I wouldn't worry. The chances of you getting pregnant are pretty much zero - I was recently at an appointment with my doctor and she told me that any form of hormonal contraception plus condoms was 100% protection against pregnancy, given typical use, which you have been doing. If you need to put your mind at ease, go visit your GP, they'll likely tell you something similar and perhaps hearing it from a doctor will put your mind at rest.

Also...

wolfpawnat wrote: »

Depending on the brand of pill, you may naturally get just the slightest bit pudgey, it is a protective layer of fat that the hormones induce to protect the body.

this is a very good point. I think your best bet is to visit your doctor, who can explain these side-effects to you and reassure you. I occasionally have these mini pregnancy panics, and since I don't have periods due to my contraception, I do get a bit paranoid at times. It's natural to worry, just don't let it affect your life!

John Mason

shellyboo wrote: »

You can't get a false positive on a pregnancy test...

err........yes, you can. i happened to me, 3 pregnancy tests and a trip to the doctor proved i wasnt but that first one very clearly stated i was!!!!

You dont say how old you are. if you are in your teens, your body is still changing.

also the pill changes some peoples body shapes.

stop worrying but if you are that stressed you need to speak to your doctor

LegacyUser

are you sure that you are ready to take the next step in your relationship?? did you feel any pressure in making the next move?? because you seem young hence the parnoia aboout being preg??

Lollipops23

a lot of girls put on weight(especially around the middle) when they go on the pill-nealr every girl i know, including me, has!if it's getting you down perhaps try changing brands?I really doubt you're pregnant if you got your period a week ago.

LegacyUser

OP here, thanks everyone. i got myself worked up immensely. Regarding how old I am, lets just say mid twenties (I know,Ii know I sound like a teenager here!) and yes I was ready for this to happen, my relationship was and is very long term.

I have always had irrational fears about it, even when I was sixteen the thought of sitting on a loo seat and accidently getting pregnant..Ive been there, trust me fear wise)

I did a test this morn,pure silly, even tho i should have waited a few more days (this was a one you could do 6 days before the start of a missed period) and straight away negative.

i have been on the pill a few months and didn't have any side effects, no weight gain or anything, I still haven't, just have a belly, so yes I was paranoid.

Thank you all for hearing this out, i felt and still feel foolish, but I don't know what else to say.