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Oversensitive

  • 23-11-2008 4:27pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I am extremely oversensitive. I need constant reassurance all the time. Even minor critism seem to floor me. I work freelance however i dont get much done as i am all the time showing bits of work to people in the hope that they will say "thats brilliant". i am very self ctritical and if i find a flaw in something i cant finish it. I find it hard to set a fair price for my work. It also effects my personal life as i cant take criticism and take everything to heart. I take everything personal. If someone lets me down(eg doesnt phone) at times i take it very bad as if i was betrayed or something. Even jokes at times seem to annoy me. I think it might be because during my teenage years no really liked me(at one period i felt stigmatized) and i could never figure out why


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  • #2
    samhail
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,699 ✭✭✭samhail


    Sounds like you do have it hard alright m8.

    You didnt say what you want though ?
    If you want to change then first you need to know that you want to.


  • #3
    paddy353
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43 ✭paddy353


    man, I went through this stage a short while back. For me it was a case of just telling friends. I didnt need(want?) advice just needed to say it to somebody. Slowly started feeling better. I think what helped me is when i told my friends it kind of became a mini joke. Nothing serious but it help me to "Laugh it off" almost. I think the fact i was able to talk about it out loud got me over it.

    But unfortunatly, I still have little set backs...........It takes time to fully get over it.


  • #4
    smiler26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 169 ✭✭smiler26


    Hi, I know how you feel, as I feel the exact same myself. It's the work thing that affects me the most. I'm totally gutted if anything I do isn't 110%. And the stupid thing is that I know I do a good job, but I spend all my time worrying that I'm doing something wrong. And if I get the slightest criticism, I'll spend days worrying and fretting about it.

    I think maybe it is a good idea to tell someone. I told my boss a few months ago how I felt, and it's made things a lot easier. He subtlely makes sure that he reassures me every so often. And if he has criticism, he's construcitve about it. Made a big difference.

    Probably not a huge help, but you're not alone.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    because i dont have a boss i have no one to push so i never get work done.

    If someone doesnt like me i always wonder why and if someone does me a bad turn i take it really bad and wonder if they are doing it because they dont like me. This would bother me more than what they did


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