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loney and rejected

  • 22-11-2008 11:20pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I have been depressed over the last two years. I have a past history of depression. I thought or I believed that things were getting better for me despite a break up from a long term relationship.Which happened early this year.
    Unfortunately of late my mood has taken a bit of a beating. I was attending counselling for the last year and I finished it on a good note, thinking that the going was going to be good.
    The thing is I still feel very lonely, Iam not very close to my family and the only other person that I can talk to is a friend of mine, but he can be very busy and sometimes cant talk. I do have people that I would sometimes go out with for a drink, but they always appear to be busy with their own lives and dont have time to meet up, due to other plans/commitments.
    Also Iam still trying to move on from my past relationship, which hasnt been easy, due to the fact that it was unexpected and sudden. But I havent had much sucess with meeting new guys. I did ask two guys out but they were dating already, and I have my usual share of number swapping with unanswered texts/calls (if you know what I mean!).
    I have joined new groups, and while I enjoy them. I dont see these people outside the group, despite suggestions to meet.
    Iam really just doubting myself here, Iam really trying to meet new people and broaden my social circle and make new friends. But I really just feel like their is something really wrong with me as I cant see where/ why things aren't working out with others, so I just keep blaming myself. I just feel so rejected by people.
    I know that Iam a good person, easy to get along with and caring, so what iam I doing wrong. Iam I just too nice?
    Thanks for taking the time to read this long thread


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  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Hi,

    I'm 25, male, and have been invariably depressed throughout my entire life so far. So, I guess I can relate to what you're saying. You seem to have a great attitude and reaction to what you're facing though. If you just keep persevering with this, then things will eventually come good. What I will say, however, is this: Focus on developing your own life all of the time, and don't change your plans for someone else. The loneliness will be there with you, but you will meet the right person some day - and in the right situation - if you focus on yourself.

    Take care,
    Kevin


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