GF issues

jimboddb

Hey just looking for a little help from the ladies. Being going out with my GF for over a year now but lately shes getting very clingy. Wants to spend every night together & its driving me nuts. Any time i try to bring it up she gets upset & calls me insensitive. How can i give her the hint that i'd like to spend some time with my mates as well as her.

Sofaspud

jimboddb wrote: »

How can i give her the hint that i'd like to spend some time with my mates as well as her.

Say "I'd like to spend some time with my mates as well as you"

Silverfish

jimboddb wrote: »

Hey just looking for a little help from the ladies. Being going out with my GF for over a year now but lately shes getting very clingy. Wants to spend every night together & its driving me nuts. Any time i try to bring it up she gets upset & calls me insensitive. How can i give her the hint that i'd like to spend some time with my mates as well as her.

Well, wants to spend is different to actually spending.

How often do you see each other?

If it is actually every night, then say it to her that you want some time to spend with your friends.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Usually girls get clingy when they sense you're not as interested as them. Any chance that's the case? If it maybe you should consider if it it's going to work out.

If it's not well then she needs to cop on. Callign you insensitive is jsut her selfishness. I know of so many relationships ruined from the people seeing way too much of each other.

Mr Benevolent

I know of so many relationships ruined from the people seeing way too much of each other.

That's a ridiculous statement. What about couples living together? Were their relationships ruined by moving into an apartment?

OP, she's going to ask you where you think the relationship is heading. Best have an answer ready.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Confab wrote: »

That's a ridiculous statement. What about couples living together? Were their relationships ruined by moving into an apartment?

Yes. Completely. People get infatuated with each other, think that feeling is going to last forever, spend every waking minute of the day together and sometimes move in at this point. Start to lose interest but don't want to admit it as they hope it'll go back to the way it was, run out of things to talk about, have none of their old friends as they got sick of being ignored during the infatuation phase, build up mutual resentments and the relationship then collapses.

Have seen it happen many a time.

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Confab wrote: »

That's a ridiculous statement. What about couples living together? Were their relationships ruined by moving into an apartment?

OP, she's going to ask you where you think the relationship is heading. Best have an answer ready.

Not really a rediculous statement and holds some truth to it too. You see someone that often and you will grow tired of them, regardless who they are.

You need time away from your other half. It's simple. Tell her to stop being such a moan when you bring up something serious...

She keeps doing it, then take a break from the relationship and know how serious you are about it... Damn this girl is insecure or something? Never let your other half rule your life that much, EVER.

LegacyUser

I live with my boyfriend and I think it's less smothering than meeting up for dates etc because we don't have to set aside time to be alone together. We often have friends over, or go out separately, and it's great.

lizzyvera

I live with my boyfriend and I find it less smothering than meeting up for dates etc. We don't have to set aside time to be alone together, because we generally eat, sleep, go to college together, so we often have guests and go out separately.

She shouldn't be getting upset when you try to talk about something serious- that's a problem. You'll just have to say "no, I'm seeing my friends, why don't you do xyz".

You've gotten into a routine, that's probably all. Sometimes it's hard to rouse yourself to go out in the cold and go mad and socialise when you can stay in and cuddle on the couch.

Motley Crue

Sofaspud wrote: »

Say "I'd like to spend some time with my mates as well as you"

Fantastic. Take a Bow.