She can't take it all

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

Not trying to sound like I am big headed etc or what ever.

But I have been going out with my GF now for about 2 years.

we have a perfect relationship in many aspects. the problem seems to be in the bed room.

we would tend to only have sex 1-2 times a month even though we are both quite sexual people. there is alot of oral that goes on,but never seems to end up with full penetration to often..

I thought that strange so decided to ask her about it. and too my supprise, she said that it was because she feels my penis is too big for her to take..

Now, I have always noticed from showering in the gym etc, that I would be bigger then average, but I never thought that it would be too big for sex.

She was a virgin when I met her, so when we slept together after 3 months, for the first while, I just put it down to just her vagina being quite tight.

When we do have sex, so usually only wants doggy style(which I later found out because she can take it a bit better then)

I just want to know, what can I do. I mean, I cant make it smaller.

Do you think I suggest my GF sees if its possible if something can be done her part.

actually I realise that last sentence is just silly.

any tips or anything?

Zzippy

Lube is your friend, my friend...

daisybelle2008

She might be freezing up a little now because it has kind of hurt in the past. But the vagina is very adaptable and your size should not be a problem (after all babies come out there). With a little more practice, lube, plenty of foreplay to get her relaxed....it is good to talk about it too so you both work on a solution.

Allah Hu Akbar

Toolarge wrote: »

Hi Guys,

Not trying to sound like I am big headed etc or what ever.

But I have been going out with my GF now for about 2 years.

we have a perfect relationship in many aspects. the problem seems to be in the bed room.

we would tend to only have sex 1-2 times a month even though we are both quite sexual people. there is alot of oral that goes on,but never seems to end up with full penetration to often..

I thought that strange so decided to ask her about it. and too my supprise, she said that it was because she feels my penis is too big for her to take..

Now, I have always noticed from showering in the gym etc, that I would be bigger then average, but I never thought that it would be too big for sex.

She was a virgin when I met her, so when we slept together after 3 months, for the first while, I just put it down to just her vagina being quite tight.

When we do have sex, so usually only wants doggy style(which I later found out because she can take it a bit better then)

I just want to know, what can I do. I mean, I cant make it smaller.

Do you think I suggest my GF sees if its possible if something can be done her part.

actually I realise that last sentence is just silly.

any tips or anything?

Do all of the guys be on a horn in the shower? Believe it or not just because you see someone with a smaller dick doesn't mean it's smaller when erected. As you said she was a virgin when she met you so might be abit tight.

To be honest I wouldn't complain about her wanting Doggy style.

LegacyUser

more foreplay is what you need! give it a good half hour or so to loosen her up and do use plenty of lube! It might not be slippy enough in there

unhappycamper

Agree on the showers thing. When I am at the gym my penis hides with the taught of other penis's around me. My experience is that doggy style is actually very uncomfortable as the penis penetrates in a spear like fashion. Just have sex and pull a little out OP. You don't need to push in all the way do you?

Oryx

daisybelle2008 wrote: »

She might be freezing up a little now because it has kind of hurt in the past. But the vagina is very adaptable and your size should not be a problem (after all babies come out there).

It actually does hurt, when babies come out there.:) The vagina is well able to stretch alright, but it can hurt lots if it's too much, too quickly. I agree, though, like youve said:

With a little more practice, lube, plenty of foreplay to get her relaxed....it is good to talk about it too so you both work on a solution.

Over time and, ahem, usage, she will find it easier. Its just she is, if you like, brand new. Things need to loosen a bit. And they will, just give it time, patience and lubrication.

Curvy Vixen

• Take it slow so that she is relaxed
• Plenty of foreplay
• Plenty of lubrication
• And try having sex with her on top ~ she can then decide how far she wants you inside and can control this
• Most importantly have fun....it can get a bit fraught if you think there are issues or problems. Relax and enjoy sex...it's not always about the end result..

Nevyn

You need to make sure she is aroused enough before trying to have sexual intercourse.
When a woman is sexually aroused enough vaginal tenting occurs, the walls of the vagina get infused with blood and become erect inside her which increases the inside of the vagina by 2/3 and the womb is drawn further up the body moving the cervix back making the vagina longer.

http://www2.hu-berlin.de/sexology/ATLAS_EN/html/the_four_phases_of_the_respons1.html

It could be that you are not waiting long enough or you are waiting to long and she is no longer aroused enough.

http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/2008/02/28/qa-did-her-vagina-get-wider/

In regard to the vagina, it is important to know that vaginas can change in size during sexual excitement thanks to a pretty amazing process called "vaginal tenting". What happens is this: vaginas start out at about 3-4 inches in length (during an unaroused state). During sexual excitement, muscular tension pulls the uterus upward, which has the effect of making the vagina both longer and wider. Now, instead of being 3-4 inches in length, a vagina may reach approximately 5-6 inches in length – big enough to more comfortably accommodate penetration with a man’s penis, a sex toy or a partner’s fingers.

When a woman’s body returns to its resting (unaroused) state, so does her vaginal size. The vagina does not stay "tented."

Yes people do come in different shapes and size but the vagina will naturally shape it's self to accommodate a woman's regular partner. Try watching for her different states of arouse, use lube, let her be on top and take it slow.

If it is still an issue consider investing in a dildo which is slightly smaller then you are
and you can use it as part of fore play to get the vaginal muscles used to that size or she can use it her self and she should be soon able to accommodate you.

Talliesin

Try tiger-style rather than doggy-style (where you are entering her from behind, but she is lying down and you are lying on top of her, rather than being on all fours). This position restricts movement in such a way that you can get a all-penis sensation with relatively low pressure against the vaginal wall.

To the points about foreplay and lube I would add that building up the penetration itself, start just a bit in with brisk but gentle movement (easier because only a small amount of you is in contact with here). Not only helps in this regard, but can be nice in itself.