Confused :S

LegacyUser

Here's the deal, a while ago I found out that a girl I had recently decided I liked, liked me too, I had heard that she had liked me for a while but didn't believe it one bit.

After texting her the night before I had an excuse to kiss her to cheer her up or the like, but when we met up the next day I pussied out, gave her a kiss on the head.

I said "grow a pair" to myself and texted her, suggested that we meet up again and said I got on really well with her. We did, a week or so later, she came into town looking great, like she had dressed up for me. I felt great, that day we got on great and half way through the day our eyes met and we kissed, was brief, but nice. Once or twice during the rest of the day we kissed again for longer, I felt great. Later that day we said bye to each other with a good bye kiss.

I continued texting her later that day, we where getting on great, I had known this girl from a while ago and we never really got on great, but things seemed to have changed. We both seemed in the same boat, genuinely interested in each other, and had stuff in common. She even called me out of the blue that night because she just wanted to her my voice.

We met again twice and it was similar to the first time, we got on great again, we kissed passionately when saying goodbye and seemed like we both where falling for each other.
Just the way she looked at me told me that.

I continued to text her but after asking her to meet up with her twice and getting shot down, she let me know that it was only fun and not to take it to seriously, I took it at face value but kept texting her.

I said ah well it was bound to happen she was too pretty for me but still enjoyed texting her.

A couple of times she started to flirt with me and tease me and I responded accordingly but it wasn't ever the same.

Then she started talking less and less and being purposely boring and short with me.

I just really don't know where it all went wrong, to this day she is very short and avoiding with me. It's a pity because I was really interested in her and had come out of a difficult break up a good while ago that had still been affecting me.

Thanks

MagicMarker

Confused :S wrote: »

We met again twice and it was similar to the first time, we got on great again, we kissed passionately when saying goodbye and seemed like we both where falling for each other.

I think this is your problem tbh, you were thinking way too much, way too soon!! Not that this is the reason for it falling apart or anything, she probably didn't even realise, but in future don't be so quick to ''fall''.

You had a few dates, shared a few kisses, this doesn't mean anything, she didn't see it going any further, she tried to tell you this (albeit vaguely), saw that you were still keeping in touch and decided it best to gradually break contact.

She could have handled it better, but what's done is done. Tis not the end of the world! In future try and be a little more casual about things, it takes more than a few dates to get serious, so in the mean time just have fun.

buttercup21

MagicMarker wrote: »

I think this is your problem tbh, you were thinking way too much, way too soon!! Not that this is the reason for it falling apart or anything, she probably didn't even realise, but in future don't be so quick to ''fall''.

You had a few dates, shared a few kisses, this doesn't mean anything, she didn't see it going any further, she tried to tell you this (albeit vaguely), saw that you were still keeping in touch and decided it best to gradually break contact.

She could have handled it better, but what's done is done. Tis not the end of the world! In future try and be a little more casual about things, it takes more than a few dates to get serious, so in the mean time just have fun.

I totally agree, you think too much, the falling in "love" in a short period of time is not a good thing, she may have felt pressure from you and rejected it by pushing you away.

Mistakes are made, mabe take some time to get over the bad break up with your ex first and then at a later stage when you're not on the rebound or co-dependant (coz trust me relationships make you that way) that you'll find someone or mabe chat to your ex. They tend to shed light in a lot of ways.;)

Snowie

I think it's a good leson to learn and one that we all need, so i would say chalk it down as experance and move forward. This will happen again and happens to us all. Its part of life....

One thing i will say is Haveing this sort of negitive feeling about your self

she was too pretty for me

Is booth over critical and does nothing for your self esteam Ive said the same thing my self before. But I'l remind you that A she did indeed kiss you and Byou got some were, where possibly other men did'nt....

So chalk it down as experence and move on, delete her number from your phone, and ease of on the texting.... in the future.

good luck

jessbeth

Maybe she just wasn't looking for anything serious and she thought that you are looking for something more meaningful. It doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you. It just wasn't the right time for her. Plus there is no such thing as 'too pretty'. You sound like a nice person, cut yourself some slack

star-pants

She did say that it was a bit of fun, not to take it seriously - and maybe she picked up on the vibes that you felt there was a big spark there, so backed off from you.
She could have gone about it a bit better, but she didn't do anything wrong, and neither did you! Maybe she just didn't feel it the way you did, unfortunately it happens, but don't think she was out of your league etc, leagues are a silly idea.
Next time you're dating try and be a bit more relaxed in thinking ahead.

LegacyUser

Girls like to be chased not stalked so i would advise that you make less contact and she sends you a text message or that dont be so quick to respond if you get me. If she ask you why or if something is wrong then you need to use as your chance to explain.

LegacyUser

OP here

Just to clarify although I did feel like we where falling for each other, but I just acted the same as before, treated her no differently. Perhaps some of my thoughts slipped through but I was nearly sure they didn't