How much is too much?

LegacyUser

Just a quick question about porn. Im with a guy who is a wonderful guy in every way....and (not but!) who looks at porn sometimes. Thats cool, I do too occasionally:) But sometimes I get a jump in my gut when I notice on the pc that he has looked through sites a good few days that week. I am only begining to think this is an issue because I now tend to check the history on the computer so obviously I am becomming to have a slight problem with it (and for the record, I dont think I have any right to check up on him). I guess nobody can answer this question because some people are so conservative about porn and some are totally cool with it but why cant I just live and let live, so far theres been nothing upsetting porn wise (like gay porn or something that would shock me) but if Im honest I dont think I like him looking at it so much.

MarkR

I don't see any problem, as long as it's not a case of him choosing porn over you. If you feel strongly about it (which is a little odd as you look at it yourself) then have a talk with him.

Colonel_McCoy

So whats the problem?

ShawnRaven

Quit stalking the guys internet history (doesn't matter how you're wording it, that's exactly what you're doing) and get on with your lives. It's porn, a regular fixture of the internet since the dawn of time. Life's too short. More to the point, have you brought it up with him, does he know you're watching his internet history?

Because if the roles were reversed, the chances are you'd probably be up in arms about it.

shellyboo

Yup, what Shawn Raven said. Stop invading your bf's privacy.

It's perfectly natural for men to masturbate in addition to sex, and it follows that he's going to be looking at porn. Men are much more visually stimualted than women - so while you may be able to get off while you masturbate just fantasising in your head, your bf prefers to watch porn. If you revealed to your bf what you fantasise about, he might feel threatened by that - so leave him to enjoy his porn!

It's just a tool men use to masturbate - think of it as the equivalent to a vibrator

mickyt

I would be inclined to agree with the other posters on this site..

Guys need something visually to stimulate themselves better.. I would be happy that its just some normal porn that is being watched, rather then getting his jollys of some skank some where.

I feel it would be only creating unnecessary problems for your relation to raise this with your BF.

try set something up so that the page history gets deleted each week.

Or that you delete the internet history yourself.. This may stop the urge to check what he has been watching.

shellyboo

mickyt wrote: »

try set something up so that the page history gets deleted each week.

Or that you delete the internet history yourself.. This may stop the urge to check what he has been watching.

Yeah, that's a great idea. If you're using Firefox, you can set it to delete the history every time the browser closes. What you don't know won't kill you... you're just obsessing about it because you have access to it. Once it's out of sight, I'm sure it will be out of mind!