Getting fed up, over and over

LegacyUser

Bit of a background story, I'm in my late teens, never had a girlfriend, didn't kiss a girl until I was 18.

I'm fed up of rejection and getting nowhere with girls. Every time I try something, I either get the same old "I think of us more as friends" or they just don't like me to begin with. I've tried being nice to girls, tried being an asshole to them, tried not getting too into a girl before making a move but the outcome is always the same and I'm sick of it.

After getting rejected and feeling sorry for myself for a short while I pull up my socks and I try again, no skin off my back. If anything it pushes me to "try harder". (At this point queue ten replies saying "you're trying to hard, just let it come to you, it happens when you least expect it"). Well I've heard that crap over and over and I really don't care for it any more.

I've nearly two decades of "waiting" for something to happen, and it's really getting old. Every few months I crash because of this and spend an evening crying and feeling sorry for myself. I see my friends getting with girls, some just hooking up, some forming relationships and I become the most envious person I know. It hurts me so much to lack that intimacy with another person. It's not about scoring a girl or getting my hole, it's about forming an intimate relationship with another person to a degree I've never done before. I want to share that experience with someone.

When I'm feeling down and I'm into a girl I know the outcome is going to be the same as the last, but I go into it blindly, confidently and positively, but it always ends up the same. I've tried this with girls I've known as good as friends, girls I gave space too and didn't enter the "friendzone" with. I've tried it with girls I know from around college/school and girls I only ever see on a night out.

And it's not as if I'm just milling through them waiting for the first one to say yes, I genuinely get on well with and like any girl I've gone after. It's disheartening to hear a no every time.

star-pants

I know you don't want to hear the 'it'll happen in it's own time' stuff, but if you concentrate too hard on that being the outcome all the time then you're putting too much pressure on yourself and it won't happen.

I didn't kiss a guy until I was 18 (and a half), (and I didn't kiss another for a whole year or more) and it was many years before things went further than that. I've had my share of liars/cheaters/etc... but I still hold out hope that there's one that won't hurt me. At the age your at as well, a lot of teens are just out to have fun etc, no relationships and so forth. I wasn't like that, I wanted someone but I didn't have much luck.
The only thing is to continue as you are, you're doing good in being yourself around the girls / being confident, just don't always think about the outcome you want. Don't let it get you down, I know it's tough especially if friends around you have someone, but you have to try and be happy with yourself on your own first.
I know it all sounds like bullcrap, but honestly, noone can force things to happen, you just have to be patient.

Jeep100

Moaning on a site like this wont help, there are loads of people worse off than u, thank ureself lucky, life is short, prepare and get ready for when it does happen for , best of luck...