male hygiene issue

LegacyUser

Is there a good way to ask my boyfriend to start washing under his foreskin? I have no idea why I have to broach this topic in the first place, I assumed it was a standard part of hygiene. I have dated a few uncircumcised men before and never ran into this.
thanks!

Colonel_McCoy

you are just going to have to say it straight out to him...........clean the cheese.

kayos

The guy needs to wash there, for his own health and for respect for you. Just say it out right or maybe shower/bath with him and do it for him he might get the idea.

LegacyUser

An ex of mine used to do this:

When she'd go near my knob and it smelled in anyway she'd go "PWOAR, that stinks" and make a joke that it smelled. I soon got the message - very quickly.

Now, anytime I'm about to get together with a woman I'll always go to the bathroom beforehand and give it a good wash (as well as keeping it clean generally).

star-pants

You could if you didn't want to be too forward about it - suggest a shower / bath together. That way you can give him a hand... to clean etc... with a bit of fun too. And maybe when you do you could comment how you love when it's so clean or something...
(sorry if i'm not saying this right lol it sounded ok in my head)

petethebrick

Absolutely just tell him, a grown man should not be going around with a chessy helmet- end of^^

von Neumann

Yah, this was covered in sex ed,
They even recommended using a nail brush :eek: :eek: :eek:.
Scared for life!

beertons

von Neumann wrote: »

Yah, this was covered in sex ed,
They even recommended using a nail brush :eek: :eek: :eek:.
Scared for life!

Youch. Just thought of a wire brush there. Crosses legs and moves on swiftly....

biko

That'd disgusting. Tell him, for his sake as much as yours.

tbh

if it's that bad, it could be a symptom of something more serious like diabetes. Telling your boyfriend his penis smells so bad you think he should seek medical advice might be just the push he needs to look after himself a bit better.

LegacyUser

oh please people stop with the cheesey helmet, cheesey knob, names I feel ill at the thought of it never mind the stench eewww....

Throw the lazy fkr a bar of soap and tell him to go wash, there is no excuse for bad personal hygiene its just pure laziness

Bottle_of_Smoke

tbh wrote: »

if it's that bad, it could be a symptom of something more serious like diabetes. Telling your boyfriend his penis smells so bad you think he should seek medical advice might be just the push he needs to look after himself a bit better.

Yeah, I mean I don't think many men actually pay much attention to washing it, I just pull the foreskin back in the shower but it's more an unconscious action, I don't recall ever thinking "perhaps I should wash my penis" as I might my hair, and no smell problems. Perhaps he needs it checked out.

LoanShark

I thought every man scraped the cheese away when he showered.. I know I do..

To OP,
Just Tell him Straight, Keep it Clean or it'll fall off!

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Berty

May I suggest a circumcision.

This procedure can be a leap of faith and can also be one for medical reasons.

Some religions have this as though a catholic would be christened. Some females can also have this performed on their genitalia.

Removing to foreskin can cause many effects. I can actually lower the risk of HIV, lower the risk of testicular cancer and also reduce the chance of contracting URTI.

As a reply to the OP. Removing the foreskin permanently would easily remove the neccesity to clean under what is no longer there.

Jimmy Bottlehead

I'll have to speak up here... I was never ever told to wash there. I hindsight, my dad should have told me, but he didn't and it wasn't covered in our sex ed.
I only realised it shortly before becoming sexually active, due to checking up and reading up some stuff.

Maybe the poor chap just doesn't realise you're supposed to clean there... or he may have a tight foreskin and since it didn't retract easily, he figured its safer not to mess with it.

Just sit down with him and ask him does he realise a guy is supposed to clean down there, and if not, just explain to him or else google it together... if he does realise it and is simply lazy, then make it clear that until it changes, you're not happy going near there.

tbh

quirke_folder wrote: »

May I suggest a circumcision.

This procedure can be a leap of faith and can also be one for medical reasons.

Some religions have this as though a catholic would be christened. Some females can also have this performed on their genitalia.

Removing to foreskin can cause many effects. I can actually lower the risk of HIV, lower the risk of testicular cancer and also reduce the chance of contracting URTI.

As a reply to the OP. Removing the foreskin permanently would easily remove the neccesity to clean under what is no longer there.

with respect, this would be like cutting off your nose if you caught a cold. Unless there is a reason why cleaning might be difficult, such as tight skin (which can also be a result of diabetes), then a quick rummage in the shower should be enough to sort things out.

Berty

tbh wrote: »

with respect, this would be like cutting off your nose if you caught a cold. Unless there is a reason why cleaning might be difficult, such as tight skin (which can also be a result of diabetes), then a quick rummage in the shower should be enough to sort things out.

Maybe so but I believe strongly that it is of benefit to every man. Off Topic now.:(

To answer the OP questions directly without compromise.

The only way to approach the problem is directly. Sit him down and tell him of your concerns. Your relationship should be strong enough to bring up important matters such as health issues.

Try to put it in such a way that its about him more so than about your possibly disgust at it.

Wibbs

tbh wrote: »

with respect, this would be like cutting off your nose if you caught a cold. Unless there is a reason why cleaning might be difficult, such as tight skin (which can also be a result of diabetes), then a quick rummage in the shower should be enough to sort things out.

Nail on the head. In a way it's like cutting off your nose to prevent a cold. PS it has nothing to do with testicular cancer.

Just tell the guy OP. It pretty much is as simple as that.

joeperry

Jeez thats gross,i love a good stretch back in the shower ......................Makes me wonder about what about any previous girlfriends he has had,why didn't they tell him eeewwwwwwwwwhhhhhh!!!

Tell us how you get on please op.

shellyboo

quirke_folder wrote: »

Some females can also have this performed on their genitalia.

Um, red flag much? Perhaps not a good idea to take advice from someone advocating female circumcision, aka genital mutilation. I'm not entirely sure what kind of diseases are prevented by the removal of the clitoris and the stitching up of the labia, but it's most certainly not to keep it cleaner - and I'd say the same for male circumcision.

Circumcision is a bit of an extreme answer to the OP's very simple problem. My suggestion would be to simply ask him to wash it. Something like "Darling, I love giving you oral but there's a bit of a funny taste... do you think you could wash it for me first?"... he's like likely to be offended or even notice if there's the chance of a bj :P

Um, red flag much? Perhaps not a good idea to take advice from someone advocating female circumcision, aka genital mutilation. I'm not entirely sure what kind of diseases are prevented by the removal of the clitoris and the stitching up of the labia, but it's most certainly not to keep it cleaner - and I'd say the same for male circumcision.

Female and male circumcision are two different things. I'd definitely argue (from experience ) that circumcised penises ARE easier to keep clean - there's no foreskin so no need to even worry about cleaning under it. I'm not saying the guy should get a circumcision, of course you can just clean an uncircumcised penis and it's sorted, but I do believe circumcised ones are naturally cleaner. No need for any drastic action anyway, she should just ask him to clean it, and if that doesn't help, he should seek medical attention.

SpookyDoll

I'll have to speak up here... I was never ever told to wash there.

With respect, you shouldn't have to be told to wash there, you should just know!!!

If its on your body WASH IT !!! Daily!!! If it smells despite washing get to the doctor!!! Simple stuff !!!