Some kind of curse...

LegacyUser

Ugh. Okay, so I'm typing this while quite intoxicated so please forgive any glaring errors (will clear those in the morning).

I'm a young, pretty enough foreign girl in a medium-sized town in the middle of the country. Apparently all I can attract are currently involved men. I'm not sure how to fix this and, to be quite frank, it is COMPLETELY wrecking my head.

I met one lad who worked at a pub I frequent. Had a bit of a "thing." Then his so-called "ex" who was actually his girlfriend got on my case. God, was that a disaster. Regardless, he was a dick. Moved on.

Next up is a lad I met like two nights ago in some **** midweek pub. Had WAY too much in common, he was deadly cute, etc. Never did anything with him but he walked me home and he asked for my number after about a million hugs and holding hands. Never texted. Saw him tonight with a bird who I can only assume was his girlfriend. Gutted.

And tonight was walking home when a guy I'd been eyeing ever since I got to this godforsaken country invited me to go to a club. He did so while I was across the street. Told him I had no money (which was true, I'd had NONE at all whatsoever) so he said he'd pay me in and buy me a couple drinks. Talked/flirted. Played handsies. Then his mate told me he had a girlfriend. WHAT THE ****.

No, but seriously. I've been "with" a couple guys here and there but I haven't been INTO anyone who wasn't already taken and it is completely driving me up the wall. What is with irish lads and leading you on?!

Anyway, I don't even really know why I'm posting this, other than the fact that I really want to know why I only seem to be into guys who are already involved (or lads who are already involved seem to be really into me). It's a damn curse and I really don't know what to do about it.

I just want to find a nice guy but apparently in this country it is utterly impossible! What the hell do I do?! I, under NO circumstances, want to EVER be the "other woman." I know what that's like and I don't want to inflict that upon another girl. But any other guy who's interested in me who's single is just a complete eejit. I'm lost.

Maybe I shouldn't be posting this when I've had a lot to drink...

Marksie

In vino veritas, so i guess i will for now allow this.

You may ahve to think about how and where you are meeting these guys and change that.
There are other avenues which have been talked about in PI for meeting people.
However, this issue is not limited to ireland, but occurs everywhere.

If a guy starts talking for example, about recent "exes" or is evasive, don't get involved..you know that now.

The fact is you never know and seem to be getting inot them withouit asking. Ask early on and move on.

Amazotheamazing

It depends where you are. In a small town in the midlands there's probably a shortage of desirable mates, so all the desirable people have their pick?

ron_darrell

Have to agree with Amazo - time to spread your wings I think. Try heading out in Dublin, Galway, Limerick. Course the other thing I notice is that you seem to meet these guys while out in pubs and it straight away goes to handies. That's hardly the best approach either. Join a club. Get to know the guy before you give your heart away. Well that's what I think anyways. Best of luck.

jessbeth

I would think most lads aren't like that and that you've been unlucky. Maybe try joining a club or something to get away from the drink/club scene as that's not always the most optimal place to meet someone. Don't be so fast to hold hands and give hugs, get to know someone first before you give away your hugs so easy :-)

TheZohanS

You need to start asking a few more questions, like "are you single?"

I don't know of many girls who would accept an invite to a niteclub from some randomer that they'd only spoken to from across the street. That wouldn't be the typical way to act if you are looking for a "nice guy".

Use your head a bit more, there are plenty of single guys out there.

LegacyUser

Well he wasn't a randomer, I hadn't spoken to him much before but we have quite a few mutual friends.

Anyway yeah.. I need to start asking more questions, just not used to people trying it on with me when they're already taken! Different world over here...

TheZohanS

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Different world over here...

I think you've just been very unlucky, but you have to start making your own luck!

What part of the country are you living in?