Advice please....

tatt chic

Boyfriend of 8 years cheated on me a couple of months ago, but i only found out a week ago
The woman he cheated with has gotten hold of my phone number, don't know how, i can only presume it was from his phone.

Anyway, I got a few abusive texts from her, and I was like WTF? How the hell has she got a problem with me? I've done nothing! I text her back saying "Don't text me or contact me in any way again, I wanted nothing to do with her, she was the lowest of the low and to basically f*ck off"

Then it really started, she called me every name under the sun, making accusations about my boyfriends son, saying that I'm unfit to be around him, I wouldn't even repeat what she has said to me, most of which my mouth has nearly hit the floor in shock that someone could be so foul mouthed and rude. You would swear that I was the one to cheat!
Apparently she is the town bike, and apparently he was very drunk :rolleyes:

I honesly haven't done anything to her, I found out, kicked my boyfriend out and as far as I'm concerned it should be over with!

I have only sent her one text, and you would imagine that when she isn't getting a response that she's get bored, but nope!
Its getting harder and harder not to text back or ring her etc.

What do you think I should do? Confront her?

eden_my_ass

Take phone to guards....end of advice....

yummycake

I think you should change your number and forget about it, she's obviously crazy.

tatt chic

Maybe they could block her number! Yeah I should have gone when it first started.
Its relly bugging me now, its not enough that I'm devestated over whats happened, I'm just getting angrier and angrier.

Annie Bananie

I would ignore her. She does not seem to be a person that deserves any of your attention or energy whatsoever. If she texts you or calls you, just delete or hang up. Pity her for being such a small person and be happy that you are not. Forget about her and on with your life with a smile

LegacyUser

3 steps to heaven :

1. Kick b/f out ; buy a dog instead
2. Complain to guards ; then forget about that woman ; don't
lower yourself n any way by having any contact with her
3. Get new phone number

deisemum

I'd be contacting the Gardai about it. It's harrassment

tatt chic

I know what you are all saying about the gardai, I just don't know if i want to take it that far, does anyone know what they would/could do?

John Mason

change you number.

the guards wont do anything unless she is threatening you

tatt chic

Is there not a way that you can block a number?
I think I will have to change my number, its a pain although, worth it for peace and quiet

Bill-e

She seems like a right wally.

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tatt chic

Bill-e wrote: »

She seems like a right wally.

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Funny! But wouldn't I jsut be as bad as her then?

I'd love to do and say some terrible things to her but I'm holding back because I WILL NOT stoop to her level!

Although I'm beginning to think that the only way she will back off is if I do stand up to her, she's not quitting, either that or block the number!

Bill-e

where's the fun in that....

Daisygirl

Hi tatt chic

the gardai won't do anything unless you proceed with a full complaint, I was getting bad messages, pictures, prank phone calls etc from a number i didn't know, i went to the gardai and because I didn't make a full complaint and follow it through the couldn't do anything You've got to decide if you want this to get heavy??
Other than that you'll have to get on to your service provider to block the number. This person isn't worth all this worry and any of your energy. Block the number, move on and don't give this girl anymore of your time - its precious also I think I'd have a word with your BF and tell him about the amount of **** you are getting from his 1 night!!!!

Kiera

Do not stoop to her level. Either change your number or ask the guards for some advice on the matter.

sam34

i had a lot of similar hassle from an ex boyfriend, months of texts and calls. i eventually rang the guards, who said they could caution him initially, without me making an official statement, but if he persisted then the only thing they could do would be charge him, which would involve me going to court. might be worth giving them a call op.

re changing your number, its a lot of hassle, and imo, not worth it if tehres any possibility this woman could get your new number form someone

jessbeth

She sounds like a psycho. I would text her and tell her that if you ever hear another word from her she will contacted legally.

dudara

Take your complaint to the Gardaí. It is unlikely that they can do anything at this stage, but at least your complaint will be on the official record.

Redpunto

Go to the Guards with the phone just so as they have a record of the abusive texts. What happens if she takes things to the next level, the Guards will know then what she is like. Dont worry bout taking things further, you need to protect yourself.

Then, head into the nearest phone shop and get a new phone and that'll be the end of it (fingers crossed). Just be careful who you give the number to so she doesnt get her hands on it again.

pretty-in-pink

You could ring your service provider, explain that you are getting abusive texts and see if they can block her number from contacting you. Of course she can always get a new one.....I too would suggest making some sort of complaint to the guards, at least get her harrasment on the record. Keep a copy of any contact to her, and from her that you have. You might need it.

sam34

pretty-in-pink wrote: »

You could ring your service provider, explain that you are getting abusive texts and see if they can block her number from contacting you. Of course she can always get a new one.....I too would suggest making some sort of complaint to the guards, at least get her harrasment on the record. Keep a copy of any contact to her, and from her that you have. You might need it.

i tried asking vodafone to do that when i had similar problems, and they said it wasnt possible.
op, i really think you should go to the guards and ask them to caution her.

tatt chic

Ok I am going to go to the guards and change my number, its a major hassle but I suppose its the only way.
You are all right, at least it will be on record and should something happen I've gotten there first and the complaint is made.

Trinity

tatt chic wrote: »

Ok I am going to go to the guards and change my number, its a major hassle but I suppose its the only way.
You are all right, at least it will be on record and should something happen I've gotten there first and the complaint is made.

I think this is a disgrace. Its bad enough your partner of 8 years cheated on you and trying to get over that without having to put up with this too! I'd hit the bloody roof.

I dont know if you are bill or prepay. O2 change your number if you are bill and if you are prepay a new sim is only a tenner.

The gardai will do something, at least warn her. I was on jury duty and there was a girl in court for doing the same thing, bombarding someone with abusive texts. I dont recall if she had threatened the person but my sisters ex was paid a visit by detectives when he was threatening her via text. Keep all the texts if possible.

Its a pain changing your number but unfortunately there are w*nkers in this world and we have to pay the price for loving them. Karma my dear. He and she will get it back times 3.