He fell asleep on me during sex

LegacyUser

I'm a bit upset about this so i just wanted to hear what other people think about this problem. My boyfriend and i went out to the pub last night. I was driving and didn't have anything to drink but my boyfriend had a fair few. Fast forward, we got home and as happens we started to get intimate. I had a great night and my boyfriend is really great but without getting into too much detail what happened next was that i was on top and he stopped being responsive and started muttering. I asked him what he said and he started rambling about something to do with his computer that made no sense at all. Thats when i had realised he had fallen asleep. What would you make of this? I'm a bit paranoid now

RealistSpy

Don't think too much of this as you said he add a few. He probley was tired. Why don't you try talking to him about this?

The talking about computer is wired only if he just got a new computer he is looking forward to using. You will be ok

omb0wyn5ehpij9

Sounds like it was just the effects of one too many pints. Just talk to him about it though!

mikemac

It's been said countless times in the forum and so true, that if anything goes wrong, a girl tends to blame herself and think it's her fault

He fell asleep after a few pints. It might happen again or it may never happen again. Either way, not worth worrying about

If you were smart, you would have asked him to make it up to you the following morning

NoQuarter

your boyfriend is sexually attracted to computers...

Dudess

paranoidgirl wrote: »

I was driving and didn't have anything to drink but my boyfriend had a fair few.

There's your answer.

SW81

I don't think there's many people that this hasn't happened to at least once in their life. He had a lot to drink, it happens!

ArthurGuinness

Sounds To Me Like He Was Tired And Drunk

Wibbs

king-stew stay on topic. Read the charter, esp. the bit about helpful posting

unhappycamper

Irish people forget how much of an effect drink has! We think we are impermeable to drink! We are not. He got drunk and dozy and fell asleep because he was comfortable with his girlfriend, sex has noting to do with it.

randylonghorn

OP, strangely enough, this came up in a recent thread elsewhere on this site, about "stupidest things you've done while tired".

Have a read from this post on: you'll find 3 people admitting to this having happened to them (including myself!) in the space of about 20 posts, 2 of them guys and one a woman.

And that's just within one small thread in one small forum on a website, and probably slightly off-topic to the thread at that.

Now, falling asleep is probably the last thing I would do during sex normally, but add the endorphin rush to alcohol to tiredness, and it happened.

There's nothing to feel hurt or paranoid about ... see the funny side of it, pull his leg by all means, but don't take it personally.

We're all human, not robots, can be a bit of a nuisance at times, but there's little we can do about it ...

Karen_*

paranoidgirl wrote: »

What would you make of this? I'm a bit paranoid now

I make of it that he had too much to drink and fell asleep. What do you make of it? Paranoid about what?

eddie.fandango

Ah OP, don't worry about it. He had a few pints, it's got nothing to do with you. All you can do is laugh at something like that!!
However, maybe you should be a little rougher with him in future. I'm sure fingernails digging into his back will keep him wide awake!

Bryn, it's definitely a good idea to talk about relationship problems. Given that this is an isolated incident, not to mention the nature of it, maybe it would be better if OP let this one slide, to save him some embarrassment. Thoughts anyone?

Annie Bananie

It has happend to me as well. Both that my bf at that time fell asleep and even I have once! It just has to do with being very tired and drunk. Nothing at all to worry about. Nothing to do with you. I just teased my bf for it and we had many good laughs about it

Lollipops23

ha,something similar has happened to me!don't worry,the drink does mad things to blokes when it comes to that end of things!give him a bit of a slagging about it just to bring it to his attention,but id drop it after that!

Pherekydes

OP, you're lucky. My OH usually falls asleep before anything happens. :rolleyes:

tman

Absolutely nothing to be worried about, and definitely shouldn't be taken personally!
I've fallen asleep during intimate moments a couple of times now, and never meant anything by it... I was just a little bit too smashed ^_^

Helix

ive done it before a few times, it happens. in fact i dont know too many blokes who havent done it

LegacyUser

OP, nothing to worry about. From the above, you can see it happens to people fairly often.

From personal experience: one night my GF and I were out at a party and both came home drunk and horny. We hopped into the en suite shower together, and things were getting pretty hot and heavy. Once the foreplay was over, we got out of the shower, dried each other off, and I went out and lay down on the bed. My GF stayed in the en suite for a minute, looking for a hair bobbin, then came out to find sprawled out, and snoring my head off, still (as she tells it) fully aroused.

She put the blankets over me and went to sleep, but she has never let me live it down. In fact, it has become one of our couple-y "in jokes", and its still something we laugh about today

tannytantans

Thats happened my boyfriend several times when hes been wrecked and has had a few drinks. I just give him a good slagging the next morning!:D

Bottle_of_Smoke

nothing to worry about.

carlybabe1

I've done it a few times on a boyfriend :o just tiredness and too much drink, went out when I really should have gone home cause I was too tired. I wouldnt make too much out of it op, we used to laugh about it

RoosterIllusion

Don't worry about it.

I would think that the only reasons (aside from physical things like pints or drugs or exhaustion) that a guy would fall asleep on a girl is if he really did not want to have sex with her or he was such a seasoned pro or she was so unsatisfying that he had no other choice.

No guy is really going to get himself into that situation unless he wants to have sex or at least try to