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  • 01-11-2008 2:12am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Best mate, drummer in my band is a ****in alcho...

    I've put up with it for the last 2 years (managed to get him off the booze for about 8 months before that but went back on).

    I asked him tonight not to go off the wall, ended up taking care of a dribbling mess in the corner. His average week consists of waking up in stephens green or some random field after runnin away from whoever he's with. I've carried him home more times then I can count over the last 4/5 years, I've sat in the pissing rain for hours and hours just to make sure he's ok, I've done EVERYTHING I can for this dickhead but he doesn't give a ****...

    He's fine when he's sober, great mate, will do anything for ya but once he gets it into his head that he's gonna get drunk theres nothing I can do but stand beside him and make sure he doesn't end up in the liffey...

    I dunno what to do at this stage, I left him with a mate tonight to deal with him cause I've just had enough, I don't think I'm wrong in pawning him off on someone else cause I need ONE ****in night off...

    Is there anything I can do for someone that refuses AA and doesn't care that he has a problem? Stupid question I know, tbh I'm just looking to vent cause its ****in killin me to see him like this...


Comments

  • #2
    Hagar
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,793 ✭✭✭✭Hagar


    Carry a digital camera.
    Take lots of pictures of him in a state that will shame him.
    Print them out and give him the pictures.
    Tell him that's how you will remember him.
    Walk away.


  • #3
    samhail
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,699 ✭✭✭samhail


    I would tell him that he is wrecking his own like and he is wrecking yours. and you dont want to see him do this to himself anymore.

    aye, and just walk away.
    he will cop onto himself after a few months if all his mates do that.


  • #4
    lushballs
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 196 ✭✭lushballs


    Very painful to witness. So don't put yourself through it anymore. You are enabling his drinking behaviour by consistently 'rescuing' him. He needs to hit his own version of rock bottom. Insist that you will not be in his company if he is drinking. Distance yourself from his drinking behaviour. Let him know you will be there for him when he is not drinking. Reflect on your rescuing behaviour for your own awareness. Attend Al/Anon to learn more/understand more about addiction. Good luck.


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