Oral sex for him...

missbusy

HELP ! :eek:

I need tips how on to please him orally. i try and i try but he just doesn't seem to come ....

I think he's a bit shy about telling me what he wants.

Really wanna please him so all tips welcome!

Zillah

Its more to do with him relaxing than anything you can do. I'm going to assume you've only tried it a few times. Keep at it and tell him to not think about climaxing, to just sit back and enjoy it.

Oh, and never ever let the teeth make contact of any sort. Its about as arousing as suddenly showing him a picture of his mother.

missbusy

Yeah i've tried it loads, and i really wanna do this for him.

Is it normal that he would rather "enter" than have me give him oral sex? - i mean, is that a hint that he hates it or what ??

Zillah

Enter...? As in, have sex? Yes I'm sure it's possible he prefers it. Have you considered asking him if he likes oral sex? You're also coming across as really enthusiastic, which is good, but that kind of pressure might be exactly what's making him uncomfortable.

missbusy

Yes, of course.

Says he loves it , seems to, until he stops me and wants to have sex.

I'm just beginning to feel like its me thats doing something wrong.
I know it could well be that he just rathers actual sex, but I panic over these things !!! :rolleyes: Maybe i'm over thinking things.......

shellyboo

I think you're overthinking it... I've been with a couple of guys who just weren't all that into to receiving oral. They enjoyed it, but it just didn't make them climax, not matter how good the performance! He might be afraid to tell you this in case he comes across (excuse pun) as criticising your technique, or dismissing you...

My advice would be to focus less on trying to make him climax, just relax and please him for as long as he likes until you move onto other things

redfan

i hope i dont shoot myself in the foot here.
i normaly dont talk about what i do for buisness.
however.
ive a sex shop in the city , and you wouldnt belive how many ladies ring or ask in the shop @how they can perform oral better.
ive said rent or buy some porn.
seems to work. but in genrel , if you guys break it down and just relax and get in a so called happy place . try getting away for the night .
just my 2 cents worth.
redfan

hussey

missbusy wrote: »

Yes, of course.

Says he loves it , seems to, until he stops me and wants to have sex.

I'm the exact same, I like to go to a certain 'point' then get down to it, maybe there is nothing at all wrong??

Karen_*

Everyone is different and what works for one person won't for another. For example loads of women can't come during actual penetration. Threre's loads of threads here recently on the correct way to give oral. You could have it textbook perfect and it still might not work for the individual. There aren't really any answers for a specific person.

HBK

OP you do seem rather enthusiastic about it.

So in saying that, I offer lessons...and a FREE instrument to work on!
sooo come and practice :P

easyontheeye

OP, i wouldnt dwell on it too much, personally i cant come from oral alone. you have to throw abit of hand action in there too. I know its not the girl, ill never come from oral alone, as much as i love it and enjoy it, its just not tight enough or something.

old boy

red fan is correct, there is more to it than oral, a bit of manual dexterity is also required as friction is what causes the penis to ejaculate, look up the web there are quite a number of free to view sites advailable, look and learn, also you will find out which actions get a positive reaction from him, you may find out that each sexual partner reacts differently to different actions, live learn also ENJOY.

Wibbs

HBK take a week off to read the charter. I mean this being unwelcome should be obvious to anyone.

Wibbs

As this thread is likely to get more jokers than anything, I'm closing it. Oral sex technique as an issue is better served as a subscriber in the S&S forum.