Don't Know What to Do

LegacyUser

I'm a 19 year old girl and I'm in my 2nd year of college. Been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. I live with my aunt as her house is quite close to my college. Recently my cousin (who I live with and get on very well with) has gone travelling for a year.

Since my cousin has gone I am more or less alone all the time at home. In my parents house there is always loadz of activity as my mum minds children and my brothers friend and my b/f would always be around. I feel very lonely and I live to far away from most of my friends. I also don't want to leave my aunt alone for dinner but she always goes to bed very early. My boyfriend is in college far from me so I dont see him during the week. Ok that is my 1st problem..............

2nd: Over the summer I worked nights in a hotel bar, well I'd work 3 night shifts (3pm to 4am) and 2 day shifts. I would always be working when my b/f was off (he's an apprentice carpenter). I worked every Thurs, Fri and Sat nights so I missed loads of family things and that annoyed him. He accused me of putting my job before him. So things have been strained for a while. We went to his sister wedding in Sept and he was groomsman. I don't click socially with his family. I come from a very different backround (call me the posh 1!!). So I ended up sitting on my own for the night at a table full of people I didnt know (and who didn't want to know me). We were staying in the hotel so I eventually had enough and went to bed (2am). He arrived down at 6am and hadn't even noticed I had gone to bed. The next night we were due to go out with his family but I couldn't hack another night of being on my own. I didn't want him to feel obliged to stay with me so I went home. Was very upset! I'm a very socialble person but they didn't make me feel welcome at all. He expects after 2 years that I would be fine with them but I'm not. I spoke to him about it, a bad summer topped with feeling let down. We have been trying to sort things out and things have been going alright for a bit. Last week I had a very emotional week (very behind in college, credit card debt from holidays, feeling very low and lonely). My b/f got the brunt of it! He takes so much crap from me, he's a saint. But my parents know I'm not happy (and my mum is happy to point it out), I don't feel the same way I used to about him. I love him so much and I know he loves me. But all we have done the last few days is snap and bicker and we both keep finding reasons to start a row.

I dont know what to do. Sorry its so long. I just can't see myself without him. I tell him everything and he's the 1st person I call in the morning and the last at night. We used to talk on the phone for hours and thats gone. We dont do anything romantic, all I want is to be swept off my feet, like it used to be. I'm confused about how I feel. He used to do all these little romantic things and its like he's not bothered anymore. I'm talked about the spark but nothing has changed.

This is such a rant but I'm scared of loosing him and I'm feeling really low. Any ideas??

Overheal

Not so much feet-sweeping, but guys like attention too. Sometimes the best way to get some is to give some.

girl_friday

A friend of mine swears by 'date night'. Its where you and your boyfriend set aside a particular night each week to meet up and just enjoy each other's company... No one else is allowed to intrude.

They did it on a Tues/Wed as it was midweek and tended to be a night they didn't have other demands placed on them. We were all told that there was no point even phoning them that night as phones would be off and we all accepted it.

They swear that it kept them together as they had a long distance relationship for about 6 1/2 years and did it where they travelled to each others college city especially for the night. It was a lovely gesture and they both really valued it.

the glass woman

girl_friday wrote: »

A friend of mine swears by 'date night'. Its where you and your boyfriend set aside a particular night each week to meet up and just enjoy each other's company...

+1. I'm 11yrs with my other half and 2yrs married and we still have date night. As relationships progress a bit of time and effort is definitly required by both people to keep things good