Recluse

LegacyUser

I found myself last year spending all my time on my own. I didn't think it was healthy so I moved to a different city to start afresh. Although now I seem to be reclusing again. I'm not a very good drinker, I get drunk very easily and my memory goes, and I'm pretty shy with groups of people. I'm ok one on one, but more than one and its more stress on me than it is worth. I'm happiest when at the cinema but its not really sociable
I'm just wondering, there must be, anyone else who just can't handle pubs and clubs for socialising? how do you meet people? I used to be very out going when I didn't mind getting wasted, but now I'm older (late twenties) I refuse to do it to myself. I tried joining a drama club to bring myself out of myself abit but I came home more stressed than when I went out!

Beetlebum

As somebody who very much enjoys the odd tipple I'm not sure where to suggest you should go at the weekends. There is a forum on here though called 'Non-drinkers' so maybe check that out for inspiration. You might even make a few like-minded buddies.

Burial

Well, apart from the old reliables, join a club, do a night-course, and go out with friends from work or meet up with old friends. Why not try and go out on a night out to a pub/nightclub and just don't drink? Remember the night and who you met. Lather. Rinse. Repeat. Soon enough you'll meet people more regularly and they'll remember you and you'll remember them.

Just my 2c.

Karen_*

There's lots of stuff happening on the boards, even cinema nights. Please feel free to pm any of us for details of any meets. You'd be very welcome:) I don't drink myself but have gone to some meets and events and the people on here are the best in the world.

barbiegirl

Try the non drinkers group forum too for some suggestions

LegacyUser

non-drinkers forum is a good place to start for ideas I suppose. Its just I've never thought of myself as a non drinker before!? I indulged in recreational drugs from age 14 to 24 so socialising with out an aid is different. Its sort of like puberty, strange growing into myself again and at the same time getting to know all new people. Its fine at home I can meet up with old friends, its just that I can't work at home.

Thanks for the advice. I'm gonna try a different club, not drama though, one step at a time.

JuliusCaesar

Unregistered wrote: »

I tried joining a drama club to bring myself out of myself abit but I came home more stressed than when I went out!

Well, if you're shy, you don't need to act! Most drama groups are happy to have people to paint scenery, sew costumes, put up posters, sell tickets etc.

You must have some interests? Find a group with similar interests is always good. Try MeetUp.com

What about sports? Team sports or even tennis clubs can be a good way to meet people.