People who use info about you on boards in real life!

LolaDub

Since i've joined up to boards i've had one or two people i know from RL drop my boards name into conversation, this usually follows with reports of my online activities whenever i see them. Now personally i find it a bit creepy that after someone guesses who i am, starts following my posts. Once i was given out to for something i posted that was nothing to do with them. So opinions please on offline people who use boards to see what you're up to!

Edit RL/offline

Xavi6

Don't post on a public message board if you want anonymity tbh.

chin_grin

Xavi6 wrote: »

Don't post on a public message board if you want anonymity tbh.

........or in AH if you want sympathy.

<lurks>

and2

Howd someone find out your boards name?? i'd hate it personally, even though i dont post that often i wouldnt want anyone knowing who i was

Yo Mamma

I say who cares ? I mean it's not as if you are expressing opinions and points of view you would be at pains to articulate 'in the real world' right ? It's not as if you are leading a Walter Mitty type of double life online.......or is that the case ?? :pac:

So who gives a toss ?

PS: Never give out your Credit Card details

Xavi6

and2 wrote: »

Howd someone find out your boards name?? i'd hate it personally, even though i dont post that often i wouldnt want anyone knowing who i was

Why not? Do you not stand behind everything you post?

Galvasean

I use boards as a venting station to let loose all my secret racist, homophobic, mysogonist, prejudice thoughts.
Hope no one finds out who I really am...

chin_grin

Xavi6 wrote: »

Why not? Do you not stand behind everything you post?

Hmm, well I guess some people like to hide behind a <snort> 'handle'. I don't really give a flying shag.

Although I was going to say that you can adopt a completely new webonality behind a pseudonym though. I'd be a complete c*nt....oh wait.....hmm.

kaimera

Xavi6 wrote: »

Why not? Do you not stand behind everything you post?

I sit tbh, moar comfotable

Turd Ferguson

Most people hate me before they see the stuff I post so it makes no difference.

TBH I dont mind people knowing that I post here and it would be nice to know if people were following my posts so in answer to your question no

knird evol

Galvasean wrote: »

I use boards as a venting station to let loose all my secret racist, homophobic, mysogonist, prejudice thoughts.
Hope no one finds out who I really am...

Get some rest. Your looking tired

BaconZombie

I have a group of people that only know any first name, another who know me as me last name and other that know me a one of my online nicks....

I don't see a problem with it, just remember ANYTHINK done/post/read online is monitors and can be traced back to you. So if you want anonymity unplug everything and "I put on your TinFoil CAPE! and TinFoil wizard hat."

Xavi6 wrote: »

Don't post on a public message board if you want anonymity tbh.

LolaDub

Not looking for the sympathy folks, wondering if this is a regular occurence. Its mainly one person who has become an ex reads my posts to see what i'm up to,where i'll be (meet ups etc) and if i've met anyone else etc...

At one of the meet ups we were talking about another user whose neighbour figured out her boards name and when she saw her would be saying oh i see from boards you're off on holidays etc.

At the end of the day everyone can join in on boards and its generally all light hearted but i do find it a bit odd that people read up on our online posts to find out where you'll be on a fri/use info in RL conversations with you

LolaDub

Although it would find it highly entertaining if some of my exs read the nightmare dates thread!

Nerin

A few people know nerin (since its used mostly in my online stuff). Don't sweat it,but constantly remind them how pathetic they are for bothering to follow you around online. Yes,its happened to me,but i usually say stuff online that i'd say in real life,so its no biggy.

Nevyn

How sad are they that they are boards stalking you, their life must be uber boring.
If I were you I'd refuse to continue any conversion which they start with so I read on boards that you....
tell them if you want to discuss that with them that you will bring it up.

I know someone who stopped posting for a while cos a nosy neighbour who was told boards was cool and fun
and instead of signing up to take part used it for stalking and telling all the other neighbours what she was saying and doing.

The world is fill of weridos.

chin_grin

BOFH_139 wrote: »

I don't see a problem with it, just remember ANYTHINK done/post/read online is monitors and can be traced back to you. So if you want anonymity unplug everything and "I put on your TinFoil CAPE! and TinFoil wizard hat."

.........you never know.....

http://media.ebaumsworld.com/picture/yafaja/TinFoil.png

dr.bollocko

Kill that stalker lola. Only way to preserve your anonymity.

LolaDub

LOL! Yes its pretty sad but others when they know your name the general info on boards i just find it a bit weird that they mention it to you in real life, moreso if they're not a boards user themselves. I know a few other people that have gotten into trouble with people for what they say online or just find the approach of online info a bit odd. So i was wondering the general opinion. Would you find it odd if someone in RL who you never told your boards name to, started mentioning the things you say online?

nobodythere

If you had to give your username for job interviews I'd be on the dole

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

I love the way you refer to "real life" as if this is some fictitious existance and what you post here has no resemblance to what you would do or say anywhere else.
I find your concerns a bit childish to be perfectly honest!

LolaDub

Thaedydal wrote: »

How sad are they that they are boards stalking you, their life must be uber boring.
If I were you I'd refuse to continue any conversion which they start with so I read on boards that you....
tell them if you want to discuss that with them that you will bring it up.

I know someone who stopped posting for a while cos a nosy neighbour who was told boards was cool and fun
and instead of signing up to take part used it for stalking and telling all the other neighbours what she was saying and doing.

The world is fill of weridos.

This is the sort of thing i mean, i find it a bit weird! I know its happened to a few people, don't know how many overall it happens to but obviously people who do it think its grand. How would everyone else feel?

JaneyMc

I had a problem with this, it ended up in me having to re reg (my old acc is not active and some mods are aware and told me it was fine)

I stand behind everything I post, but I just go to the stage were I was getting annoyed with one particular person I knew, they would bring up what I said on here in forums they did not frequent normally.

I haven't made it any large secret who I am, my bebo, myspace, and photos of me are floating around on here somewhere, but I just knew they wouldn't be bothered going to look for me.

kraggy

Xavi6 wrote: »

Why not? Do you not stand behind everything you post?

That's not the issue Xavi. Sometimes people may post in PI or in other fora about a delicate/personal issue and they do so under the assumption that nobody knows who they are.

If you're cover is blown, you have less lee way in posting.

Also, you may, to make a point, tell a story about your friends in RL that you wouldn't want them knowing you're telling.

Nevyn

I tend not to mention it with people that I don't know if they are on boards or not
and depending on how the conversation goes and thier reaction I may or may not fess up to being on here and who I am.

Once had someone start a complete triade on a night out about how PI is modded, they had no idea I was even on boards and I just didn't get into it and wasnt going to until one of my 'mates' ratted me out.

I think bringing things up which are said online by a person who is not part of your online life or circle is rude. There are people who's blogs I read but I would never assume just cos I have a certain ammount of info on them that I am on intimate enough terms to walk up to them and start talking to them about it.

LolaDub

Cannon Huge Weakling wrote: »

I love the way you refer to "real life" as if this is some fictitious existance and what you post here has no resemblance to what you would do or say anywhere else.
I find your concerns a bit childish to be perfectly honest!

Think you're reading a bit much into my post. Personally i find it childish to follow someone through an internet forum to find out information about that but obviously you don so each to their own.

I'm not sure what you meant by the rest but i think you're saying that i'm a different person offline to online. It doesn't matter either way and that doesn't have much to do with what i asked. I asked if people would find it odd to be approached by someone offline that they gathered about them online. If you said something on a phone call and another person overheard would you find it odd that they repeated it to you/people around you?

dr.bollocko

Thaedydal wrote: »

I tend not to mention it with people that I don't know if they are on boards or not
and depending on how the conversation goes and thier reaction I may or may not fess up to being on here and who I am.

Once had someone start a complete triade on a night out about how PI is modded, they had no idea I was even on boards and I just didn't get into it and wasnt going to until one of my 'mates' ratted me out.

I think bringing things up which are said online by a person who is not part of your online life or circle is rude. There are people who's blogs I read but I would never assume just cos I have a certain ammount of info on them that I am on intimate enough terms to walk up to them and start talking to them about it.

Did they ask for your autograph? I would have.

Tigger

i don't stand over everything i say in real life (is this not real) but everybody that i know that would use computers would know that i'm me

many of the things i enjoy have web presence so most of the time poeple would a least lurk boards the odd time

but i've been tigger in rl since about 1996

i'm not worried about wierdos or stalkers and if someone wants to go over what i say with a fine toothed comb thats their issue not mine


also the claws

Nichololas

Make a new account..?

If it's losing your boards friends, I wouldn't worry as they're not real (people).

If it's your post count, you'll be back up to speed by christmas. Actually I don't know why anyone would get bothered by losing postcount but bleh..

thelordofcheese

Galvasean wrote: »

I use boards as a venting station to let loose all my secret racist, homophobic, mysogonist, prejudice thoughts.
Hope no one finds out who I really am...

Ma, is that you?

LolaDub

When i said i real life i was meaning non online life :P

Thae you could have gotten a few drinkies out of them!

I didn't mean this to turn into a serious discussion, just a light hearted one on if you were approached offline with info you hadn't told someone would you find it weird that they dug it up on boards? Or if you heard someone telling other people stuff about you when they'd found it from boards.

Tbh i think i would find it less weird if they were on boards themselves and i knew their login name. I just find it a bit odd when someone greets you as an online name with a great sense of achievement of figuring it out. Ffs if you really want to know i'd probably tell you!

LolaDub

Enlil_Nick wrote: »

Make a new account..?

If it's losing your boards friends, I wouldn't worry as they're not real (people).

If it's your post count, you'll be back up to speed by christmas. Actually I don't know why anyone would get bothered by losing postcount but bleh..

No its not really a big problem just something i found to be a bit odd and was wondering if others did. Seems to be 50/50 on people not seeing anything weird and people finding it strange

Irishcrx

I would on occasion mention something I saw on boards to friends if it was interesting but i wouldn't drop names or want anyone knowing who I am.

Turd Ferguson

LolaDub wrote: »

I didn't mean this to turn into a serious discussion, just a light hearted one

Why did you post it here then?

AH is the most serious board on the internetz...

Nevyn

dr.bollocko wrote: »

Did they ask for your autograph?

Eh no they got rather embarrassed.

dr.bollocko wrote: »

I would have.

See what I mean lots of weridos out there

Xavi6

kraggy wrote: »

That's not the issue Xavi. Sometimes people may post in PI or in other fora about a delicate/personal issue and they do so under the assumption that nobody knows who they are.

If you're cover is blown, you have less lee way in posting.

That's what the unreg option is there for.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

LolaDub wrote: »

...if you were approached offline with info you hadn't told someone would you find it weird that they dug it up on boards? Or if you heard someone telling other people stuff about you when they'd found it from boards.

Would it not be great that people are actually reading this stuff? It is in the public domain so why should it be weird that someone actually reads it?

biko

Don't post anything you wouldn't say to someones face. It's amazing the amount of info can be gleaned from following someone's posts.
I've been approached a few times from other posters when I was out, just good fun. Virtual friends are friends too.

Nevyn

Big difference imho in something being in public domain and someone searching it out to bring it up and anoy you with it.
I do see a difference between a blog and post on boards, posts on boards can be so random, off the cuff and in response to other posts and how you answer can depend on the forum, but removed all of that context and it becomes a different thing.

Dinter

LolaDub wrote: »

No its not really a big problem just something i found to be a bit odd and was wondering if others did. Seems to be 50/50 on people not seeing anything weird and people finding it strange

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While they're genuine concerns Lola, you should be more worried about the guy who tracked your ip address and is sitting across the road from your house in that "abandoned" pizza van.

You know the lad who tried to get you into that uncomfortable conversation about what sort of alarm system you have and what time you go to bed.

Nevyn

Dinter wrote: »

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While they're genuine concerns Lola, you should be more worried about the guy who tracked your ip address and is sitting across the road from your house in that "abandoned" pizza van.

You know the lad who tried to get you into that uncomfortable conversation about what sort of alarm system you have and what time you go to bed.

Thats you that is, Dinter.
You just could not help bragging.

Dinter

Thaedydal wrote: »

Thats you that is, Dinter.
You just could not help bragging.

No, he's just very generously allowed me to use his wireless broadband to post this. There's feck all coverage where I hide in Lola's hedge.

Miguel_Sanchez

I once had an ex-girlfriend get all pissy with me about a post I made on boards which she thought was about her. It wasn't, it was actually about a girl I'd gone out with years before her.

The weird thing was that she didn't know my boards.ie username and so either had the post forwarded to her by someone or else had been told my username by that same someone and was reading all my posts. Either way it was a bit odd.

LolaDub

Cannon Huge Weakling wrote: »

Would it not be great that people are actually reading this stuff? It is in the public domain so why should it be weird that someone actually reads it?

Again you don't seem to be reading what i'm actually saying :rolleyes:

I'm not discussing people reading boards, it would be a pretty moronic post if i was.

What it is being discussed is when people you haven't given your online details to, realise who you are online and repeat things you have said online to other people you know offline or say it back to you. That to me seems a little odd. If someone overheard my phone conversation and repeated it to others i would be very annoyed.

In my case its an ex following my posts to see what i'm up to and if i'm mentioning meeting anybody new. Thats an unusual thing i would think but as i said i know of a few people that have been approached offline with things they've said online, sometimes they end up getting given out to other times its harmless but i think mostly they found it odd.

Dinter

LolaDub wrote: »

In my case its an ex following my posts to see what i'm up to and if i'm mentioning meeting anybody new. Thats an unusual thing i would think but as i said i know of a few people that have been approached offline with things they've said online, sometimes they end up getting given out to other times its harmless but i think mostly they found it odd.

Well after reading this thread he's never gonna believe anything he reads about you again. If you're aware of him doing it, it stands to reason you could be just BSing him. Seems like the easiest course of action for you.

Rockee

We're mini celebs here on boards. Voice of the nation. :cool:;)

LolaDub

Dinter wrote: »

No, he's just very generously allowed me to use his wireless broadband to post this. There's feck all coverage where I hide in Lola's hedge.

theres no internet in me bush! :eek:

Disaster! I've no hope of getting a nice boardsie boyfriend so!

Rockee

LolaDub wrote: »

theres no internet in me bush! :eek:

Disaster! I've no hope of getting a nice boardsie boyfriend so!

I recommend Xavi6, lovely guy!

LolaDub

Dinter wrote: »

Well after reading this thread he's never gonna believe anything he reads about you again. If you're aware of him doing it, it stands to reason you could be just BSing him. Seems like the easiest course of action for you.

For that reason dinter darling i'm not posting your full name, address or any details of our sordid love affair.

When he sees this he'll know that i know he's a big weirdo stalker anyhow, i'm not posting anything too personal at the moment. Its gas you know if people just asked you i wouldn't have a problem but this whole sneakiness screams of psycho

AARRRGH

Although I don't care who reads my posts and whether or not they can connect them back to me (not too hard if you look at my signature!), I don't consider boards.ie real life. For example, I'll argue about all kinds of things on boards.ie which I don't really care about it real life. It's just a bit of fun...

Also, I'm very aware the "tone" of people's posts can be a million miles different from what they're like in the real world.

Dinter

LolaDub wrote: »

For that reason dinter darling i'm not posting your full name, address or any details of our sordid love affair.

Ah yes, well we'll always have Paris. *smiles wolfishly*