Im such a twat....

pingpongz

I met up with my ex last night after promising myself i would never see/talk to her again...

We were in bed together i fingered her till she came and she gave me a quick blowjob.
30 minutes later shes telling me about this guy she met and how she really likes him and how he is seeing a girl at the moment but shes kissed him and blah blah

Now im confused again. Im obviously not in just friends territory but i dont know where exactly i stand with her... am i just someone she comes to when shes feeling lonely and needs some affection or does she still have feelings for me(probally not... if she did she would be with me).


What i find hard to understand is how she can just switch her feelings off... and act like what shes doing is ok .

Im still crazy about her even after everything and other girls just dont interest me at the moment

I cant ignore her, ive tried and failed... i deleted her number, photos, everything to do with her but after about 4 weeks i caved as not seeing her was worse than now...

Also... i have asked her straight out whats the story between us and she said basically she wants to play the field while in college... she went from being a really nice girl to being an absolute slut... and i hate what shes become

Is there anything at all i can do? Or is it just a case that people change for better or for worse?

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4 weeks is not enough time to be thinking you'll be over her

it took me 8 months

i have a good group of friends who were always chatty and making me laugh, that helped to no end

my ex turned into an absolute slut too,

its really sickening to go from knowing someone so well to seeing that person do things you couldn't even dream of,

just give it time - horrible to hear but couldn't be truer, when your over her you'll breathe a huge sigh of relief

and tell her to piss of cause she is a terrible person

my ex was doing what yours is and i was in such a state for months that i never thought to say anything until my friend got hammered one night and shouted at her that she is a devil woman, it was both funny and true

Storm_rages

i think you have your answer, she wants to play the field. (just on a side note that does not make her a slut, some nice girls may not want to settle down and may indeed... shock! horror! sleep around!!)

if you can't ignore her then you have little choice but to be at her beck and call..

I don't mean to be harsh. i think you need to get away from her. i don't think she had feeling for you and it would be better for you to stay away..

Sorry i can't say what you want to hear

shellyboo

Well... I have two opinions on this.

First of all, this girl isn't interested in you beyond sex and friendship - she basically just wants a ****buddy, she's told you as much to her face. You need to realise this, decide if that's enough for you, and if not, move on.

Second of all, just because she wants to play the field, have sex without attachment, and enjoy it doesn't mean she's a slut. Guys get away with the same behaviour, repeatedly, every day of the week, and no-one thinks any less of them. If you look down on this girl for wanting to experiment and explore her sexuality while she's young and in college - which is a perfectly normal thing to do, by the way - then you need to cut her out of your life. Because she probably wouldn't want to be friends with someone who's so judgemental anyway, to be honest.

Wagon

It was a mistake, can't change that now. You said it yourself, she's changed into a slut. Why would you want to get back with someone like that? I can't really give you any answer as to how she can switch off her emotions as I never could myself.

This is where you need to start acting like a man and leave it, and really try hard to not see her. Come on here if you need to vent, PI is great for that. If you get lonely, head out with your mates, or just have a chat over a quiet pint. I know what it;s like when this happens and your best staying a mile away and not go back ever, definately not as a mate. she'll make her own mistakes and get arseholes over the coming years, deciding to "play the field in college" is a joke and a fairly shallow reason to break up (Im going to get murdered for saying that). Anyway, just ignore her from this point on. I cannot stress enough. Even from what you said, you went to work on her properly and she gave you a "quick repayment". Not on, and she only wants to get as much sex as she can over the next while. Be the bigger person and be a man. Don't be her play thing.

Patricide

Trust me, dont go down this path. Broke up with my ex of 3 years last november and we were still meeting up and being with each other till sometime in Febuary. Made things very confusing for both of us. Best thing you can do is try to make it 2 months with ZERO communication, no matter what.

pingpongz

shellyboo wrote: »

Well... I have two opinions on this.

First of all, this girl isn't interested in you beyond sex and friendship - she basically just wants a ****buddy, she's told you as much to her face. You need to realise this, decide if that's enough for you, and if not, move on.

Second of all, just because she wants to play the field, have sex without attachment, and enjoy it doesn't mean she's a slut. Guys get away with the same behaviour, repeatedly, every day of the week, and no-one thinks any less of them. If you look down on this girl for wanting to experiment and explore her sexuality while she's young and in college - which is a perfectly normal thing to do, by the way - then you need to cut her out of your life. Because she probably wouldn't want to be friends with someone who's so judgemental anyway, to be honest.

Im judgemental because i dont agree its right to sleep with someone you just met and make a regular occurence of it?
Im all for one night stands but when one night stands become 3, 4, 5 times a week with different guys its a whole new situation...

She will end up with no respect and be known as a slut by the majority of guys in the college and be taken advantage of which i dont want to see happen..

Wagon

pingpongz wrote: »

She will end up with no respect and be known as a slut by the majority of guys in the college and be taken advantage of which i dont want to see happen..

You don't have any say in her life or her lifestyle choices. But even if you did, why would you care? From your post, she's not really worth worrying about.

Let her make her own mistakes. Best way to learn You get your head sorted and save your sanity and learn from this yourself because your going to meet all kinds of colourful characters in life, many of which will have a very different moral outlook to you. All you can do is learn to accept people for who they are and that this diversity keeps life interesting, although a pain in the hole sometimes. Having said that, you don't have to like them for it :P

Mr. Incognito

hmmm.

Love sucks- I feel for you man.

Casually drop the hint that you're seeing someone else and see how she reacts.

SpookyDoll

She will end up with no respect and be known as a slut by the majority of guys in the college and be taken advantage of which i dont want to see happen..

OP, It doesnt matter what you do or dont want to happen now. You need to let go and realise she only see's you as handy for sex. Shes said as much to your face.

You are only going to torture yourself by hooking up with her. Let her go on her way, what you had together is gone. Forget about what she is doing, its just none of your concern anymore.

I think you are claiming you are worrying about her reputation when really you are eaten up at the thoughts of all these fellas bedding her. Thats only human, but be honest with yourself.

Shes moved on, you need to move on too. The encounter last night didn't mean anything to her.

Come on OP, dont let yourself be used!