Daddys girl.

I might have entirely concocted this impression in the fertile landscape that is my imagination.
But I think that most of us lounge ladies are tomboys.

Were you Daddy's number 1 growing up, are you still?
How do you get on with your Dad?

Do you think your fathers personality has affected the standards you have set for the men in your life?

fonpokno

I get on great with my dad for the most part. Much better than I get on with my mam really. Although when we argue it's terrrrrible. I'm not a daddy's girl really, my older sister is (there's 3 of us and she's the middle child). She's the real daddy's girl, it's hilarious.

Has he affected standards for the men in my life? Well my dad makes awful jokes. Awful. And most of my male friends and my boyfriend all make AWFUL jokes. That's about the extent of it really!

My pappy's rocks!

helimachoptor

My GF has 5 sisters, They're all daddies girls but she's probably the biggest daddies girl of all.

Myself and her dad get on well and usually take the pi$$ out of her a lot

listermint

fonpokno wrote: »

I get on great with my dad for the most part. Much better than I get on with my mam really. Although when we argue it's terrrrrible. I'm not a daddy's girl really, my older sister is (there's 3 of us and she's the middle child). She's the real daddy's girl, it's hilarious.

Has he affected standards for the men in my life? Well my dad makes awful jokes. Awful. And most of my male friends and my boyfriend all make AWFUL jokes. That's about the extent of it really!

My pappy's rocks!

When you say awful , maybe they are infact top drawer jokes. Top drawer indeed the continuity factor here is you.
So maybe you just dont these "fantastic jokes"

Anyway off topic.

Continue

fonpokno

listermint wrote: »

When you say awful , maybe they are infact top drawer jokes. Top drawer indeed the continuity factor here is you.
So maybe you just dont these "fantastic jokes"

Anyway off topic.

Continue

Oh no they are painfully funny, but they are so so so so so so terrible. Punderful one might say....

shellyboo

I'm a Daddy's girl! We're just totally alike in so many ways. I think my Dad's influence has affected the choices I make in men - in fact, I probably subconsciously strive to find a guy like him, who makes me laugh, indulges my spoiledness but draws the line at brattyness, and is caring.

The weird thing is I get on with my Mam almost better - but I'd still class myself a Daddy's girl!

She Devil

Hands up, I am a daddys girl. I can not do wrong in his eyes. It drives my mom crazy, so much so that she used to get jealous of our very close relationship!! Growing up i used to tell my Dad everything, since i've grown up though i think i do value my moms experienced advice.
When i hit my teenage years and started seeing guys my dad became very strict, and the first time i asked a guy to collect me from my house, my dad opened the door and closed it on the guys face. (Wish i hadnt opened it again ) But i do value my dads opinion. Thank god he likes my OH.
Growing up though i can see faults in my dad, he is way too tempermental for my liking, and a little blunt in his opinions. I didnt go for these traits when seeking out my soulmate, my OH is nothing like my dad.

citytillidie

Just like most Irish guys are Mummy's boys.

ChickCool

i dont know my dad at all he left ages ago and heard he got married since,dont have a great relationship with mym mum but i know she loves me and she knows i love her,family is important but theres always a few exceptions.id say i end up with assholes a lot to be honest so that could be from my dad

Ginny

I am not a Daddys girl, I'm way too much like him to be one, my sister is more indulged by both my parents, I used to be really upset by that for years and finally told my Dad when it got too much, he said "yes she may be spoilt but you're the one I'm proudest of".
So that sort made up for it.:D

stovelid

I that song.

LadyE

Im a complete Daddies girl. My dad is the one Id go to with my problems (would NEVER EVER consider doing that with my mam) and he helps me, give me advise and generally sorts e out he wouldnt ness tell me what I want to hear either, which I love about him.

Macha

Self-confessed daddy's girl. And mammy's girl. It sounds soppy but both my parents really are my best friends. Feel free to puke

I fight more with my dad as we're so similar: controlling, opinionated, etc. He used to be a bit more distant but now I make sure to include him on everything that I would tell my mum (even scary smear test results!) and I think he appreciates being more involved.

Lil' Smiler

Moonbaby wrote: »

Were you Daddy's number 1 growing up, are you still?
How do you get on with your Dad?

Do you think your fathers personality has affected the standards you have set for the men in your life?

When I was younger, I could mostly get my Dad to do / get anything I want. I wouldn't say I was a Daddy's girl but I was called "Princess" etc but never treated like one. I always got on great with my Dad. I have some absolutely amazing memories of my Dad from my childhood and I think that's the way he intended it to be.

I wouldn't just include my dad as saying he's affected the standards that i have set for men in my life,for me it's that I look up to my parents and their 33 years of marriage, but they are together 40 years as they were going out since they were 14/15

I'd say as I've gotten older, there might be a bit more friction between myself and my Dad. We're quite similar in temperament so I'd say that's it and also since my brother moved out he's living with my mum and I and we just rip it out of him all the time! In saying that we get on brilliant but just at times, can be a tad difficult.

My dad always has great advice and thoughts and I suppose yes in a way he's set a high standard for the men in my life, the way he treats my mum is just brilliant.


I have a friend, and her relationship with her dad seems to be just odd. At 22, she sits on his lap with her thumb in her mouth and says "Daddy can i have a lift into town please?"... the don't cheek kiss, they lip kiss, it's rather odd!

Stench Blossoms

I'm a total daddy's girl.

I get anything I want within reason. He can be a prick though at times, never apologises if he's wrong but will buy me a present or something to make it up to me.

Star Lord

Lil' Smiler wrote: »

I have a friend, and her relationship with her dad seems to be just odd. At 22, she sits on his lap with her thumb in her mouth and says "Daddy can i have a lift into town please?"... the don't cheek kiss, they lip kiss, it's rather odd!

That's not odd, that's disturbing, and I don't even know them!!! O_O

Lil' Smiler

Think about how I feel!!!

shellyboo

DamoElDiablo wrote: »

That's not odd, that's disturbing, and I don't even know them!!! O_O

That's INCREDIBLY creepy alright. Perhaps he's not her Daddy but her "Daddy" if you get my drift, wink wink nudge nudge...

Morgase

How I hated that song! Heard it a lot growing up as the ma was an Irish country music fan. It would send me into rages, I don't think my dad understood why I found it so offensive.

Not really a daddy's girl, in that I don't try to be anyway.

Clare Bear

Eww that is weird. A bit too close for comfort there!

I'm more of a Mammy's girl really but my Dad's a dote. I'm more like him than my mother, I have his sense of humour, everyone says I have his rogue like character and we have the same mannerisms, sayings, laugh, both have very positive outlooks on life whereas my Mam would be more of a worrier and more cautious. It's because of him that I'm working my dream job with animals, he always shared my love for animals and always encouraged me to go for it. But I'm definitely more of a Mammy's girl, I have her wrapped around my little finger, the big softie

Also think I've usually gone for guys that are like my Dad. So has my sister so in our case there is truth to that theory.

Scarinae

I am such a Daddy's girl. It's hard not to be though, my Dad is brilliant! He always made time for me and my brother and sister when we were growing up, even if he was really busy, there's nothing he wouldn't do if we needed help. He's also got the same sense of humour as me, and we're always sending each other youtube clips that we think the other would appreciate! He very rarely gets cross either; my mother has more of a temper and is apt to shout about anything, meaning I just ignore her, but if I feel I've let my Dad down that is worse than any shouting my Mum could do. Having said that, there have been a few rare occasions that my Dad has got angry with me about something and it is scary, I'd always do whatever he said, cos it'd be rare enough that I'd know I was really in trouble.
People often say I'm quite like my Dad, and I take this as an incredible compliment. My Dad is intelligent, funny and selfless, and I really enjoy his company. I know he enjoys mine too, he was really sad when I moved out!
I don't know if my Dad has affected the type of guy I go for. Possibly he has, because I tend to go for the quiet, intelligent type of guy, rather than a real laddish guy. My Dad's opinion would be important to me though, if he didn't like a boyfriend he'd probably have a valid reason so I'd listen to him, haven't had any misgivings so far though!

girl_friday

I am an out and out daddys girl!! I love him to bits and am so close to him. A few of my friends' fathers have passed away and I know I would have a breakdown if anything happened to him. He hasn't always had the best of health and I guess that has made me closer to him. If mum needs him to go to the doctor anymore rather than having a row with him she phones me and I ask him to go which he then does!! He is a real dote and worships my mother... I guess that has made me have slightly higher standards but looking at my exes you wouldn't necessarily think it!!

CathyMoran

I totally adore my father and am a daddys girl and I married a man that is just as kind and thoughtful as him. I am on to my daddy several times a day. I really love him.

Elle Victorine

Get on great with my father and my personality is pretty much his.Still get on great with him. Was a tomboy pretty much as a kid and probably still am since in my group of friends 99% are male...of course that's probably less to do with my dad and more to do with the cows I hung out with when I was 13.


More than likely he had an effect on my most recent relationship

JaneyMc

I have a great relationship with my Dad, and being the only girl, I am daddy's little girl. We have very similar humour, some of the same types of music tastes, and are very similar in a lot of ways.

I gave him an awful fright in my teens when I went full on psycho mode when puberty arrived, but we are okay now.

I definitely think my Dad's personality has set me with a high bar in regards to partners. He is a very selfless man and treats my Mother like a queen. He shows her a total devotion that I have only come across once or twice. It's a pain in the arse in some ways, but then why settle for anything less I suppose.

The only thing I would not go to him about is man trouble. His response time and time again has been "dump him". I usually go to my Mam about stuff like that.

Faith

I'm not really. I think I had the potential to be, but I think he was quite jealous of how close I am to my mum. Plus he works LONG hours so I rarely see him. We didn't have much of a relationship at all once I hit puberty, but I think we're slowly getting closer.

I was the only one in my family who'd stand up to my dad and challenge him, which I think made him proud but pissed him off more. I did have a habit in my teens of going for grumpy distant guys who had no interest in me, but I thankfully seem to be over that now. Although I do like my men tall, dark, handsome and smart, which my dad is.

Susannahmia

ChickCool wrote: »

i dont know my dad at all he left ages ago

+1

ChickCool wrote: »

id say i end up with assholes a lot to be honest so that could be from my dad

+1000

But yeah I do think it effected my choices in relationships negatively to a certain degree.

I was lucky though, my grandparents lived with me when I was a child and my grandfather was a great father figure to me. Was definitely a granddaddy's girl. He passed away when I was 11 however.:( Could have used his influence through the teen years.

Blush_01

I was Daddy's girl until my sister was born when I was 4. It was fun while it lasted. To a large degree all of us got away with murder at home (and still do). My family are the most important thing in my life though.

I'm close to my parents I guess. I talk to one or both of them every day at least once. I'd discuss most things with one or both of them. I know better than to discuss anything I don't want advice on with my Daddy though!

Elle Victorine

JaneyMc wrote: »

I gave him an awful fright in my teens when I went full on psycho mode when puberty arrived, but we are okay now.

The only thing I would not go to him about is man trouble. His response time and time again has been "dump him". I usually go to my Mam about stuff like that.

I didn't give mine a shock around that time funnily enough. But at the same time my mother went mental and all of a sudden if I was five minutes late home is was definitely drug and/or sex related....at 14??? I think I must have missed five years of my life or something I wasn't aware of. My father was pretty level headed with me and vice versa.


As for going to parents about relationship problems? Not a hope. But it would be hilarious to ask my dad. I know his response would be befroe I even started "where is he and I'll kill him". He's a gas man like! Two years I'm going out with my boyfriend and he still hasn't talked to him. I'm pretty sure my mother's father was the same to him though. Ooo the generation game.

cacio

I'm not a 'daddy's girl' as such but I am very close to my Dad.
When I was young I didn't see him much because he was always working (which I thank him for).
But a few years ago my mum was diagnosed with Alzheimers and since then I've become close to my Dad. We'll talk a lot on the phone and go to see Mam together. A bit of good coming from something bad.
I dont know if it's affected the way I look at guys as I've been with the same guy for 5yrs since I was 19. But I respect his opinion and alter things in life slightly when I find out if he likes/dislikes something.

watna

Another total daddy's girl here. Whenever I have a problem (not the emotional kind, that's for my mum but the practical kind) or some good news I go to my Dad. We have a very similar sense of humour and a good bit in common. We used to fight a lot when I was younger but it wasn't realy fighting, we just liked to banter with each other. It would annoy my mum and she'd tell us to stop fighting, not realising that we weren't. I didn't have him wrapped around my finger per se (he's very into teaching us to be independent, especially with money) but he would do anything for me and I know he'd be there if someone went really wrong.

My OH is a lot like my dad which I think is a good thing - seeming as I have a lot of respect for my dad. They have a similar sense of morals and outlook on life and they do the same job. If he was exactly like him it'd getting in to creepy territory but they're different enough that it's not creepy!

mollybird

ya i'm totally a daddys girl. well i have no choice since i'm the only girl between two boys. been that way since the day i entered the world i guess. we dead tight and all that kinda stuff.

Nevyn

Nope was never a Daddy's girl, we are too alike, the simpering please daddy please was done by some of his other female off spring as I was more likely to get into a dicussion/row/arguement with him instead.

skybluejay

I'm amazed at how many people on this thread seem to be Daddy's girls. I'm not at all - I've never really gotten on particularly well with my dad. And it's not that we're 'too alike' either - broadly my personality is much more similar to my mum's. We don't fight. It's just like we never really know what to say to each other. I always feel like he's mildly disappointed in me as well.

I dunno, it's been clear for a long time that my sister is his favourite by a long shot, and I wonder if that's led to resentment on my part? Reading this thread made me a bit sad. I'd like to have a good relationship with him, but I just don't.

thatone!

I'm a real daddy's girl..not in a spoiled way. I get on with him really well and he always gives me good advice. I'd be lost without him

Dolbert

Holy God, I thought I'd banished that song from my memory!

Growing up in a household with a father with anger issues, I can definitely say I've been drawn towards quiet men. Drama and a 'temper' are huge, huge turn-offs for me.

cee_jay

shellyboo wrote: »

I'm a Daddy's girl! We're just totally alike in so many ways. I think my Dad's influence has affected the choices I make in men - in fact, I probably subconsciously strive to find a guy like him, who makes me laugh, indulges my spoiledness but draws the line at brattyness, and is caring.

The weird thing is I get on with my Mam almost better - but I'd still class myself a Daddy's girl!

I would say practically the same thing!

Summerjones

skybluejay wrote: »

I'm amazed at how many people on this thread seem to be Daddy's girls. I'm not at all - I've never really gotten on particularly well with my dad. And it's not that we're 'too alike' either - broadly my personality is much more similar to my mum's. We don't fight. It's just like we never really know what to say to each other. I always feel like he's mildly disappointed in me as well.

I dunno, it's been clear for a long time that my sister is his favourite by a long shot, and I wonder if that's led to resentment on my part? Reading this thread made me a bit sad. I'd like to have a good relationship with him, but I just don't.

Don't worry, it's only really the Daddy's girls that have posted in here bar one or two....silence on the other's part speaks volumes, lots of girls aren't Daddy's girls.

Rozabeez

I lost my dad at an early enough age, but his personality still shines through in how I (and my siblings) interact with loads of other people, particularly our niece.

Not sure if I was a total daddy's girl or not, but the lot of us are total mammy-worshippers.

taconnol

taconnol wrote: »

Self-confessed daddy's girl. And mammy's girl. It sounds soppy but both my parents really are my best friends. Feel free to puke

I fight more with my dad as we're so similar: controlling, opinionated, etc. He used to be a bit more distant but now I make sure to include him on everything that I would tell my mum (even scary smear test results!) and I think he appreciates being more involved.

Freaky, sounds EXACTLY the same as my relationship with my parents!

antosgal

Its hilarious...this song (Daddy's Girl) came out when my younger sister was born and everytime it came on the radio my dad used to sing it to her.
In later years when she was over 5 it used to come on every Sunday Lunch time when we were sitting down to our Sunday Roast and he still sang it to her....is it any wonder I am not a big fan of the Sunday Roast!!!

She is also a Mammy's girl. She went away travelling last year and the 2 of them talked non stop about her and rang her nearly every day! Everyone else in the family though it would be a chance for our parents to get to know us, but they didn't take the chance!
She lives at home (rent free) at 28 and has a pretty successful job. We have just found out that they are building her a house...this even though my dad is retired!

But I wouldn't change it for the world...I am an independent, well-educated woman who has no emotional needs like her! Everything I have done in life I have earned and I would pay double and work twice as hard to have the independence that I have created for myself!

A

metaoblivia

My Dad is an alcoholic and can get very violent very suddenly with little provocation (no matter how drunk or sober he is). He also loves publicly humiliating people. He's basically a big bully.
When I was little, he took no interest in me and focused all of his attention on my older brother and the sports he participated in (which was not a good thing for my brother). When I got to about 10, he tried to take an interest, but he usually just got very frustrated and things would get very bad very quickly. What made it interesting though is that my Dad and I are very similar - not afraid of confrontation (whereas my mom and brother are terrified of it). When I got to be about 15 and he would start in on me, I started yelling back and would rip into him the way he ripped into the rest of the family, and he didn't know what to do. So he went back to ignoring me, which I preferred.
Today, he lives alone and I speak with him on holidays and birthdays. He's a lot easier to handle now because I don't live with him and speak to him only on my terms.
I think my father played a big role in how I view men, other people in general, and the world. I grew up in a home where I could never feel safe and had to learn to defend myself at a very young age. As a result, it takes a while for me to build trust with anyone, male or female, and it's also left me with a lot of anger, frustration, and shame. I'm angry because he ruined my chance at having a good childhood. I'm frustrated because I have all of these issues to work through now as an adult that relate directly back to my abusive childhood, and if he had been a better father back then, I would be a better person today. And I'm ashamed because I'm not that better person I could have been. I do sometimes feel that all of the above makes me unworthy of affection and love from other people.
So in short, no, I'm not a Daddy's girl.

Drift

Congrats on the remarkable level of insight you have into yourself as a person meta. It will (and probably already does) stand to you in future.

Faddymackshyte

I get on brilliantly with both of my parents and I get away with murder where my dad is concerned!
And coming from a large enough family, it's always nice to hear my mam tell me that I'm obviously my dads favourite (out of 6 kids!). I wouldn't call myself a daddy's girl, but being his favourite is the best way to be!

Kya1976

I've always been a daddys girl. My mom left when I was one and my dad was left to look after me and my 2 sisters. He's always been there for me and I can always go to him for advice, don't know when I'd do without him. In short he rocks!!!:D:D

silvervixen84

Daddy's girl is "our song", and even still he turns it up when it comes on the radio!

Total Daddy's girl here, but wasn't spoiled or anything. I think he's actually jealous of my OH.....

coco85

Definitly not a Daddys girl..

My father was extremely abusive to my mother, sisters and I.. had a terrible childhood with several beatings and mental/emotional abuse..

I felt like nothing i ever did was good enough for him.. on the day I got my leaving cert results (got over 500 points) he told me i was a huge disappointment to him.. then went down the pub and boasted about his daughters great results!...

Thankfully my mother left my father a few years ago and we are all much better off not having his negativity and abuse in our lives....

As for my choices in men.. well i strived to find a man who would be kind and caring and completetly different to my father.. thankfully i found him!!!

Also my father ran his own business.. and i learned how not to do things from him!!!... I do not look up to him in any way but look back to how he handled his family and business and do the opposite!

I think its great the way other women i know have great relationships with their fathers and sometimes i wish i had the same.. but i have an excellent realtionship with my mother and sisters (probably as a result of all the hard times we have been though together!)

Karen_*

Definately not a daddys girl. Never was, never will be and wouldn't want to be. My sister isn't a daddys girl either. We don't like him much!!

watna

Here's an example of how I'm a daddy's girl and how my dad is awesome.

I emailed my dad asking him to send a pair of jeans from my wardrobe at home to NZ (In NZ terms I'm a midget and I can't find jeans short enough for the life of me). I asked him in the email to ask my mum if she was passing a penney's to pick me up some tights (I can only find them in boxes of one here which is annoying) and include them in the package but if she didn't have time it was cool.

I skyped my mum last night and she told me she didn't have time to go to penney's but my dad had gone and got tights for me because he knew I wanted them. How cute is that? My dad wandering round the women's underwear section of penney's. I can't wait to see what he's bought, he's not the best at that kind of think so it'll be so funny!

Clare Bear

Awwww cuuuuuuuuuuuuuuute Watna's Daddy=dote

watna

Clare Bear wrote: »

Awwww cuuuuuuuuuuuuuuute Watna's Daddy=dote

I know, isn't he? We call him momdad because he works at home and does all the housework and motherly things (my mum was a stay at home mum until I was in my late teens so they've swapped roles!). I have so many stories about momdad. A recent one is that he tried to iron a new fleece that my brother bought (yes he washes and irons my brothers clothes!!). He put a big iron mark on the fleece by accident so he hid it in the back of my mums wardrobe (thinking it was hers) so he wouldn't get in to trouble. He fessed up when my mum pulled it out of her wardrobe and asked him where it came from!